How can I find a gay bar/club/whatever near me?

I live in Southern Illinois, in a small town, we don't have an LGBT anything anywhere near here, as far as I can tell. I would like to find out where the nearest gay bar/club is. Also, other than the bars where's a good place to try to find a date? I looked on Myspace and even tried a Online dating... show more I live in Southern Illinois, in a small town, we don't have an LGBT anything anywhere near here, as far as I can tell. I would like to find out where the nearest gay bar/club is.

Also, other than the bars where's a good place to try to find a date? I looked on Myspace and even tried a Online dating service (zoosk) but couldn't find anybody, what else could I try? *sigh*

Thanks!
Update: But then I'd have to leave my family :(
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