Christians: If I have sex before marriage will I go to hell?

I know that God forgives us for are sins, if we ask for forgiveness. But how about if you know it's wrong in God's eyes and not in yours. If I do have sex before marriage and I do ask for forgiveness will I go to hell anyways because I knew that God didn't want me to have sex before marriage before I actually had sex. Thank you.

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  • Gravel
    Lv 4
    10 years ago
    Best answer

    No. But if you persist in following the rantings of sand people you will be misguided throughout your life.

  • 10 years ago

    God is a forgiver. No, He won't send you to "hell" for having pre-marital sex.

    Too many people think their individual actions are what sin is.. but actually you sin because you ARE a sinner. You want sex before marriage because of your inner desires. Some are not thinking clearly- they are immature and do not remember that sex = babies- then the unwanted babies suffer for it.

    Some are just selfish and don't care about the consequences of their selfishness- mostly the men- but modern DNA is not allowing them to just get away with making babies all over and leaving them for the girl to raise! (but look at the inner cities- no amount of law enforcment can get blood from a turnip, or money from nothing for the poor babies)

    Okay I will rant on but 1 in 5 has an STD today, among those who sleep around. STDs are no joke. What a horrid present to bring to your future marriage!

  • 10 years ago

    First, don't worry about hell. Don't let fear of hell rule you - in fact, forget hell even exits. It's not worth thinking of. Instead, let your desire to serve God rule you.

    Second, if you know something is wrong in God's eyes, why would you think it's okay? Why would you allow yourself to purposefully defy God? He will forgive, but not just because you ask Him to. He will forgive if you repent, promise never to commit that sin again, and atone. You must understand why you did wrong and seek to amend it. If you commit a sin thinking, "God will forgive me for this later," odds are you won't be worthy of His forgiveness. Christianity is not a reward-punishment system.

    Do you understand why sex is wrong before marriage? Use of contraception is sinful because it prevents God from creating new life when you do the act that is meant to create new life. It is mocking God, and it defiles your bodies. It is a highly selfish act that places you before God, which is always wrong. If you have unprotected sex outside of marriage, you risk having a child and bringing that child into an unstable unmarried family. You would do that child great harm because you're not able to support and care for the child since you're not even able to support and care for yourself.

    Also realize that when you have sex you give a huge part of your soul to that person. You will NEVER get that part of your soul back. Wouldn't you be happy to have your spouse keep that part of your soul? What if it was some person you hate that you slept with 10 years ago that stole that part of your soul? You'd always feel incomplete and resentful.

    Source(s): Married Roman Catholic
  • 10 years ago

    If you sin on purpose, you have to repent for your sin. And then you have to hope for forgiveness. Sinning on purpose is really bad. If you are thinking about it, then you need more faith. Because you don't know that God should decide what is right and what is wrong. Sex outside of marriage is a sin against one's self as well as against God (1 Corinthians 6:18). You don't have to worry about hell. It's the ordinary grave (Ecclesiastes 9:5,10). But you do have to worry about not being part of God's kingdom (1 Corinthians 6: 9,10). In God's kingdom, there is not going to be any hunger, sickness, death, or pain (Isaiah 33:24; Psalms 72:16; Revelation 21:3,4).

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  • 10 years ago

    Not at all. Jesus covered that when he died on the cross. However, you have to try your best to avoid using that as an excuse to sin. It may be difficult, because it's easy to fall into temptation because you say, "I'll regret it, but at least God forgives me." I fall into this trap all the time. Anyhow, the more you sin the farther away from God you will fall. I've come to understand it as building up momentum. The longer you go without sinning, the closer you will be to God and the more spiritual strength you will build up. Some sins, for example having sex before marriage, can cause you to sin more. It's like looking at pornography. If you look at pornography once, you'll probably look at it again. May be the same with sex before marriage. Think about what you're doing before you do it, and think about which is more important: God or sex. The ultimate point of sex is an orgasm, anyway, which can sometimes be dissapointing and once its done you're like, "That's all?"

  • 10 years ago

    This question is exactly the same if you substitute any sin in place of "have sex before marriage." No, that one sin won't condemn you to hell, even if you know it's a sin before you do it. Every Christian in history has sinned being fully conscious of the fact that it was a sin before they did it. If this condemned us to hell, we would all be there.

    So, if you choose to have sex before marriage knowing God asks you not to, the question is: Will your apology and repentance really be sincere? How can you think your apology will be legit if ahead of time you've decided to apologize later? Maybe you've heard the phrase "It's easier to ask for forgiveness later than permission ahead of time?" Well, that means that you aren't really sorry for what you did. You just are asking for forgiveness to minimize the trouble your in now because you didn't think you would like their answer if you asked for permission.

  • Doug R
    Lv 5
    10 years ago

    Your question is PURELY based on personal belief. Some time in your life, a PERSON / HUMAN, TOLD you what " God " believes. It's up to you as to what YOU believe. Each religion, even each denomination and sometimes an individual church, may have it's own interpretation of the Bible or religious teachings or books. Some you'll find sound realistic, some absolutely insane. Some are more reformed, { or adapted to present day ideals } or fundamentalist, { based on older or original ideals }

    NOBODY can tell you what to believe. NOBODY can answer the question you pose correctly, because it IS based entirely on belief.

    You will face this dilemma { what you believe as far as religion } many times in your life as people confront you or mock your beliefs. Understand that you are under NO obligation to explain yourself to anyone. Make your decision and live with it. Good Luck !

  • 10 years ago

    Stop worrying about whatever interpretation of ancient Middle Eastern mythology you have been following and stop believing in magic. The is the 21st century, not the 11th.

    You are an adult, sex is not wrong, lose the guilt and you will feel better. Religion means to make you feel ashamed and you have nothing to feel shame about.

    Considering other animals don't get married, premarital sex is the best type.

    Marriage is actually just a way to keep a girlfriend/

    ersonaly, my view is why woudl you get married to someone not knowing if your suited that way or not and why wait, its part of love, and life, whats the waiting for, a piece of paper. literaly

  • 10 years ago

    Hey Ash,

    God will certainly punish all practicers of sin. If a person continues to commit sin when he knows that it is displeasing to God and it is disrespectful he will not have everlasting life. God has a good reason for us to wait until we're married to have sex. For one sex bonds and man and woman. Premarital sex causes distrust in relationships and it shows a lack of genuine love in that you don't allow each other the dignity that comes with marriage and being clean. Do you want to go through life with your husband saying that he can't believe you allowed someone to have you befor him. Or see you as a woman with no self-control or virtue. Sweetie it's best to share that one precious moment with someone that respects you and that plans to give you a secure life by marrying you.

  • Jeff S
    Lv 6
    10 years ago

    If you do not believe something is a sin then your repentance is false and God knows your heart. Part of repenting is agreeing with God that you sinned against Him and praying for Him to change your heart so that you can turn from those sins.

    God can forgive any sin, but I think you know that and I think that you know that you should not be sinning against Him by having sex before marriage. Do not put yourself in the position to be tempted.

  • 10 years ago

    Don't do it.

    God will forgive you if you sincerely repent but are you sincerely sorry is the question?

    If you want God to bless your life and your relationships you need to honor Him and his commandments. Jesus' death on the cross isn't a license to go out and sin.

    Hebrews tells us not to take the blood under which we were sanctified as a common thing and trample underfoot the Son of God.

    The blood is so precious and we should not take that for granted.

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