on a blind, first date, should the guy bring flowers?
I meet her on the internet, been chatting for about a week and we are meeting for coffee tomorrow. Just a quick meet, nothing major just to see if we would maybe want another date. My question is, should I bring flowers or something? it doesnt seem right cause its such a casual thing tomorrow. thoughts?
Thanks for answering everybody. Im gonna go with no flowers this time and hope i get a chance on a 2nd date to bring them :) thanks again.
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavourite answer
If it's just a first date, I would say not to. It might show that you are too eager to buy her gifts. That might give her expectations, if she turns out to be with you for material things. Then there is the possibility that she would be the type to not like flowers.
I'd wait for a second or third date to give flowers. Simply buy her a coffee. That will be plenty good enough.
- 4 years ago
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- colostomy_punchLv 61 decade ago
If you really want to give her flowers I would give her a single rose rather than a big bouquet. I don't think flowers are required really though. As you said this date is quite casual so just pay for her coffee and I'm sure she'll be happy. If you have a second date, then do the flowers :)
- 1 decade ago
I have been down this road before, same exact scenario. I suggest no flowers. Keep it simple. If you two see sparks over coffee, there is nothing wrong with asking her out to dinner later that evening. That's when I would bring the flowers.Source(s): Life Experience
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- 1 decade ago
I wouldn't on this date, because it's not even really a date, like you said, just a getting to know the real you situation. It would make you seem desperate and like you're trying too hard. If this one goes well, I would definitely bring a single rose to the next date.
- 1 decade ago
Why are you gonna bring her flowers? You think that she will say "Oh wow, I love flowers! Let me take of my clothes for you now?"
Don't do it man. Typical nice guy behavior that turns girls off. What has she done to deserve such an act of kindness from you? Make her earn it.
- 1 decade ago
i say no. just bring yourself and your good manners. flowers are great if you know that you and she will want to continue with another date...the first "real" date. but, if you decide you don't want another date (as meeting in person can be a whole new ball game), you'll just part with no hard feelings. save the flowers for the "real" date if you like her...but don't get roses! omg roses are so cliche! go for something different like daisys-gerber daisys...tulips, something other than roses ya know? lol good luck!
- 1 decade ago
Hell no! You know what that's doing?
Its basically saying this "Hey I'm lower value than you, you're higher value than me"
You are putting the girl on a pedestal. You don't even know this girl. Sure, if you guys have been together for a year and you got her flowers that is nice. But this is before you even know her. DO NOT DO IT!
- AmyLv 51 decade ago
Don't. It's not only inappropriate for a casual date, but it's overdone and not very unique. Maybe bring something, but not flowers. Something a little more casual.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Hey do what you think.Hey im a chick and personally i don't care
about some dam flowers.Boring get her something different fun
or just bring yourself and take her somewhere fun.We love that ****.Source(s): me me me.