I have watched my wife with another man on a couple of occasions and after doing so, I began to wonder why I encouraged it and enjoyed it. After some soul searching, several reasons seem to surface.
In spite of knowing I can bring my wife to orgasm multiple times during coitus, I know she is capable of extending her pleasure way beyond my abilities. Since I love her so much, I just love watching her have that much more fun.
Secondly, as one participant here acknowledged, it is difficult at best to watch yourselves in action so watching her with another is the next best thing. I suppose that is the pure voyeur in me.
A third possibility is my desire to curb what I feel is an unhealthy, sometimes overwhelming, sense of jealousy. My thought is, a little jealousy is a compliment to the subject, but a lot can be destructive. Attached to this explanation is also a measure of adrenalin rush. Sometimes having to push out that jealous feeling takes a lot of willpower.
And last, but perhaps the most relevant, (I haven't really figured it out yet), there is an almost animal instinct within most human males, to have women who don't belong to them or belong to someone else. The instinct to reproduce, I suppose. Since I am married, I am not free to exercise this option, so allowing another man to have my wife allows me to "take his woman, or take her back" as the case may be.
I think most men in modern society repress these feelings and it is not for me to judge whether it is right or wrong for someone to indulge their fantasies.
To be sure, not all of these reasons were on my mind when I first encouraged her promiscuousness.
My first thought was that if it was okay for her to fool around it would be okay for me too.
But, as I get older and fall that much more in love with my wife, the less important that possibility becomes.
I just hope that in the end,my God is very understanding and very forgiving.