Spanking an aggressive child won't help anything so bravo for you for ignoring those people. Your daughter is just growing up and developing her own personality and likes and dislikes. My niece is19 months old and she doesn't let anyone feed her either, sure it makes a huge mess but she's asserting her independence which is perfectly normal and healthy. I use the ignoring tactic, my niece knows exactly how to push her mommy's buttons and just when to do it, too. When she starts acting up because she wants something or just wants you to react ignore her and talk to another person in the room. My sisters tries to spank and slap her, too which never works- tell your husband that, if anything it just makes her more determined to tick mommy off. Just do what you need to do at the grocery store, whether she's screaming or not, distract her if you can with paper or making faces but don't let her screaming embarrass you. Anyone who has kids will understand, sure there may be some that glare and tsk you for not doting on her or buying her toys to quiet her, but they don't a thing. What I found works really good with my niece is to look her in the eye and say, "No" to whatever she's doing, like if she's jumping on the couch I'll make her look at me and say, "No jumping on the couch." Make your face very somber and stern and she'll get it... she behaves better for me than for her nana or mommy who spank and slap.
· 1 decade ago