Im sorry, but you sound really confused, maybe this will help?. l Hope so. Good Luck.
It's love if: :-
You have great chemistry
You get lost in your conversations, and the hours pass like minutes. You're more than willing to listen to him when he talks about his day.
The chemistry between you is remarkable.
You find him handsome and attractive.
Even if you catch him unclogging a toilet, he still looks great lto you.
You want to spend time with him
All you want to do is to be with him, whether you're having sex or not. Even if he tells you that sex will have to wait, you don't care.
You can see a future together
You experience the strange feeling that your life would be totally empty without him. You tell your friends and family that he may be The One, and you're even thinking about marrying him.
You introduce him to your family
It becomes very important to you that your parents like him, and that he gets along with everyone close to you.
You include him in all your plans
Whether you're going out with your friends or taking your dog for a walk, you want him there with you. And if he's not there, you can't get him off your mind and sneak off to give him a quick "I miss you" phone call. Of course, you don't tell your buddies.
You are more romantic
All of a sudden you find yourself listening to cheesy romantic songs and thinking of him. You send him love notes to work and set up romantic evenings candlelit dinners at home.
You always take his side
If someone says anything even slightly disparaging about him, you immediately rise to his defence. Furthermore, in social gatherings, you always agree with him even if you disagree behind closed doors.
He makes you want to be a better woman
He challenges and motivates you. He makes you happy, and you'd do anything to make him happy.
When it is love, you catch yourself thinking about how much fun you have with that person
Love is when you care about someone more than you care about yourself.
Love is when you want to sleep with them, even if it is "Only sleep"
Love is when you can't stop thinking about someone, and you desperately want to spend as much time with them as possible. Usually when you aren't sure if it's love, it's really infatuation.
It's possible to love someone,and to be infatuated with someone all at the same time.
YOU KNOW THAT ITS LOVE WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE SEX TO FEEL CONNECTED TO THE PERSON. YOU FEEL COMPLETE AND HAPPY JUST HOLDING HANDS OR TALKING WITH THEM AND WHEN YOU DO HAVE PHYSICAL CONTACT AN EXPLOSION TAKES PLACE EACH TIME WITH A FRESH AND NEW FEELING EVERY TIME.
Love is when you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, despite their weaknesses.
Love is a strong sexual attraction usually NOT based on physical appearance.
"Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind" --William Shakespeare Mid-Summer's Night Dream.
If you love being in their presence even when nothing sexual is involved. I think that if you are with a person that you truly are in love with, lust is a natural thing that comes with it.
Ask yourself, "If I could never have sex with this person for my whole life, would i still love this person?" Think about it. !
It's love when you rejoice for your partner's happiness, even if that means being away from you. It's also love when you rejoice for being together, that brings you Both happiness.
The KEY to true Love and Romance are not like recipes that you can use for that perfect relationship. That Key is unique to every couple and relates to their social cultures and values. Almost every human relationship has its ups and downs. When people can focus on the important and valuable stuff that makes it all worthwhile, rather than curse the stuff that causes pain then they are on the way to finding true Love.
Most people confuse lust with love; the difference is that while lust is self-serving love is unlimited and unselfish.
When the two of you have no problems in committing yourselves to freely demonstrate such qualities as compassion, respect, compromise and dependability, then you may have found true LOVE.
I wish you joy and Happiness. Hope you find yourself.........
Then............. you can Find true Love, with No Confusion.