You should only bathe them 2-3 times a week like you said. As she gets older, you can begin to bathe her more often, but for right now, she doesn't need a bath every day. Your bedtime routine sounds pretty good (minus a bath every single night). Give her a bath on bath nights in the bedtime bath stuff they sell. It really can help with calming a baby before bed. I used a paci with both my boys too. My first son didn't like it much and quit taking it when he was 3-4 months old. My second son still uses it and he's 20 months old. He only gets it for nap/bedtime and we're weaning him from it right now. Yes its true paci's can prevent SIDS. There's nothing wrong with using a paci. The problem with paci's like you said, is that when they're really young, they don't know how to keep it in or put it back in when it falls out. When she's beginning to fall asleep and she's only in a light sleep, she probably will begin to wake back up wanting the paci, but once she's really asleep, she probably won't realize that the paci has fallen out. What I did with my second son was breast feed him before bed, then I would swaddle him and put the paci in his mouth but I would tuck the blanket over the paci just enough to keep it in his mouth (not up over his face or anything) and I would lay him in his bassinet while he was swaddled up and turn out the lights while he was still awake so he could get used to falling asleep on his own. I would usually go back in and check on him 15-20 min later and he would be asleep. With the crying..I would let her cry for about 5 min and if she didn't stop, then I would go in and try giving her the paci back and give her a few more min to fall back to sleep. If she's still fussing, then she's obviously hungry and I would get her up and feed her.