how do i drop domestic assault charges that i made against someone??

my bf was arrested and he still needs to go to court. even though i wasn't supposed to talk to him about anything after this incident happened, i felt like i needed to. i heard his side of the story. and we came to a conclusion. he doesn't deserve to go to jail. he will get kicked out of his military school and the colleges he wants to go to will NOT accept him. how do i drop the charges????

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  • 21
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
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    sometimes one violent act or one very stupid act could cost someone their future dreams..... I've seen a lot of sadness done to others and to self because of an accident or making a very stupid error.

    you could try and go to the police and see if your able to drop the charges but today the new laws usually follow thru to prosecute the "offender" in hopes he does not re-offend you or someone else down the line. i'm not so sure the laws are working cause i believe people need help and not just lock up time which seems to turn a regular person into a con-artist.

    at least try to seek help for you and your friend, don't give up

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  • K.O
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Apart from you wasting every bodies time the police no longer require you to proceed with the matter, also its a pity you and your BF did not do the talking prior to him assaulting you and you reporting him, you do not seem to have any self respect for yourself he should have thought about his military school and college before assaulting you and also showing he has no place in military school as he obviously cannot control himself. Personally i hope he gets convicted and is jailed there are too many incidents of domestic violence some which end badly. I do not understand when you say " i heard his side of the story" so its ok he assaulted you? or is it the part where he did not mean it, he loves you and it will never happen again? he´s been caught you have reported him he´s been charged and he is now doing what all cowards like him do which is play the " it will never happen again card" he used violence against you and that is all you need to know are you willing to risk it again like others have to their misfortune. He needs to learn a lesson and that is keep his hands to himself, have respect for yourself and let the courts deal with him, like i said he should have thought about military school and college before embarking on using violence against you

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  • 1 decade ago

    Once the Police or Sheriff's Office is contacted regarding a domestic violence complaint they are mandated by law to arrest the offender, regardless of whether or not the victim decides to press charges. Once the arresting Officer or Deputy gets the offender to the jail then the offender is formally charged, and once that happens the matter is in the hands of the court system and the prosecutor's office. Meaning you can't do anything about it your partner should have thought about the consequences of his actions before he put his hands on you. Now he's facing 5-15 years in prison and he'll be lucky to make it out alive because the inmates don't like people who abuse women and kids. And now he'll become petookh opooscheny meaning big bubba's *****.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You cannot 'Drop Charges', the phrase has no meaning.

    It is the decision of the Police and then CPS as to whether a person will be charged. Whilst your wishes will be considered, they are not controlling the direction of the case.

    You can do one of four things

    1) Say that you were lying in your original statement, and be prosecuted yourself for those lies.

    2) Provide a 'Victim Personal Statement', stating that you no longer wish for further action to be taken.

    3) Wait for your call to court and state in open court your views

    4) Let the case take it's course

    It's worth saying, you can be compelled to attend Court and your boyfriend is full of (insert choice word here).

    The cycle of Domestic Violence begins with the assault, then an apology, followed by a period of remorse and trying to make up for the act. Another assault will then occur, followed by the same remorse and usual apologies again. The time period between acts of violence decreases and the level of violence increases.

    Before you know it, you're being strangled, cut and burnt by this boy-'friend' and thinking it is normal.

    It is not.

    Get rid of him, pursue the case and get on with your life.

    Source(s): 12+ Years Police Sergeant, Domestic Abuse specialist, Case Reviewer
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  • 1 decade ago

    That's his problem - I know he has a point of view on what he did but it must have been very serious to end up being charged, kicked out of military school and facing a jail term. Violence is NEVER an excuse, don't accept it, and don't think you can change him. If he hits you once, leave him. Are you the kind of person who feels too sorry for people? I'm not being nasty, just asking.

    Source(s): life experience
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  • fnd40
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    You probably won't be able to drop the charges. Most likely the state will prosecute him anyway. That's a good thing because if he hit you once he damn well will do it again, and deep down you know it. An out of control woman beater doesn't belong in military school. He belongs in jail.

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  • DON'T DROP THE CHARGES. I can totally understand that you feel emotionally involved and it is hard to see this objectively. If he was violent towards you, then he absolutely does deserve to go to jail. As for him getting kicked out to military school, good job too. What, do you really want someone who cannot control his temper and hits out at those who are smaller and not capable of defending themselves, being drilled to become stronger and even more violent? Get real.

    Source(s): Taking my two kids and running from my abusive husband to a woman's refuge. They never change, if you accept this, it will only get worse.
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  • 4 years ago

    You DID NOT press charges and you CAN'T drop them. You filed a complaint and the STATE filed charges. This is how ALL criminal charges work in EVERY US state. In the case of domestic violence, they wont even listen if you recant. MOST victims of domestic violence recant because they are either afraid of the abuser, of believe it won't happen again. They are almost always wrong.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you cant in domestic incidents at least not in my state. Once you accuse, and they are arrested the prosecutors take over. You can however speak to the prosecutor at court with your recomodations. Bottom line he should never have touched you if he did he is a loose cannon and wi get what he deserves for hitting a woman

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  • 1 decade ago

    You can't drop the charges, because the City proceeds in pressing the charges. This is because female victims feel so much love for their bfs that they want to drop the charges after taking the beating. It happens far too often, so Domestic Violence charges cannot be dropped.

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