Well sir, you are in quite the situation. You want advice from someone in a similar situation. Well here is mine. My bf and I have been dating for about two years. We met in the UK and my work forced me back to the states, four months later, he ended up back in the states for work as well. We were 5 states apart and as hard as it was to see eachother , we have made it work. Well 2 months ago I left my job. I had to make it work. I love him so much. He would not have done that for me. I had been able to see him for 2 weeks or less at a time every two months in the last year. He is now in the Middle East and I am back in my home state. I am moving to where is is originally tasked for work 5 states away. We have never lived together and it is going to be hard but exciting all together. to my knowledge we have both been very faithful. but I woory myself sick wondereing what he is doing over there, yes I know he is workig but it is so scary. I try my hardest to have faith. He hasnt given me a reason to worry but I am preparing to move to a stae that I have never lived in and start a life. He could up and decide I am not the one at any time and I am left with nothing but a broke dick car and a few bucks. I spend countless dollars on phone cards. It is crazy. I want to marry him and have expressed this but he is not ready and honestly I dont know if he sees me in his future. He's not really a phone person so as far as expressing himself thats out of the question. So here I am left with my faith. I am taking a risk. the biggest one I will ever take I feel. You have been together for 5 years now. that is alot of time invested. Alot. They say long distance is the hardest thing a couple can do, and if you can do it, you can do anything. For one you need to be honest with her AND yourself. What do you see in your future what does she see in hers? Ask yourself that? Discuss this conversation. dont argue. Dont fight. Remain calm. If she gets fiesty, just keep your calm tone, tell her you just want to talk. reassure her there is no one else (if there isnt) and you just need to talk. OK. Are both of you willing to make sacrifices? To what extent? These are things you need to ask yourself and her. If you dont know the answer you will find one soon especially after talking to her. Long distance relationships messes with your mind. It really does. My biggest fear is getting my heart broke. I love this man very very much. I have to trust him. You have to trust eachother. I am a different race then my bf. My parents approve, they just want me to be happy. I have met my bf's parents and they welcomed me. They dont speak any English at all though. So conversation was difficult. I would take the risk of my parents disowning me if it meant I could be with my bf though. Again what is this girl worth to you? Are you happy when you are with her. Do you both make a 50/50 effort to communicate? It has to be shared. One can't make the effort for the both of you. Otherwise it will end up with that person feeling resentment. If you could walk away from this relationship saying "yes I put 100% into it" then that is good, if you can't then maybe you should try harder. In the long run its the hardships that bring you closer. Youir past was great right, welll your future could be too. Come to a comprimise on location and what you are l=willing to do to make it. work. If you both love eachother and eilling to make it work, hen make it, because it will all be worth it. This last year has been the hardest, and I have wanted to quit a few times but I know I would have regreted it too. I would have always wondered "what if, what if it would have turned out okay" . So I stay. I stay strong and make it work and in 3 months we will be living together. and we get to lay in bed and sigh saying yes we made it. Is that what you want? Are you patient enough? You have to be faithful. Decide what your what you truelly want and what your willing to do or sacrifice to make that happen. I wish you and her the best of luck nomatter how it goes. Just do what makes you happy and be honest with her and yourself. Good luck!