Lack of sex in marriage...No rude answers?
However, our sex life has diminished dramatically. at his old job, he worked the same hours, of not way longer, but we still had some kind of flame there. a couple of months ago, he went on a business trip and when he came back, he was acting jumpy and strange, i knew it was something, but i didnt know what. A few days later, i wanted to take pics of my 2 daughters and there was no room in his phone for pics, and then i saw another womans you-know-what, with his hands on it. i was at the highest level of pissivity. i confronted him, and he cussed me out, he was cheating and wouldnt admit to it.
I am not working right now, which i hate cuz im used to working, but im at home potty training a 3 year old and nursing a 1 year old, im cooking, cleaning , doing laundry, listen to him complain and talk about himself and how much money he makes. We dont really communicate, i try my best but it dont work. I dressed sexy, i smelled nice, i give him massages, even though my back is in pain, i gave him hugs and kissed him, he still wont touch me. And when im in the middle of sleeping, he then wants to have sex, and when i say no, im very tired or in pain he told me "forget you," or "you wonder why i dont do you." Yesterday we had an argument and i told him to (you know) himself and he said, "i do have sex with myself. Sex is not that big of a deal, there are things in life bigger than that." I was so hurt, i was crying, i have communicated my feelings to him, he just ignores me or says something that dont pertain to our sex life. I feel so ignored, hurt and unappriciated. Im doing so much and trying so hard, what is wrong with me?