Most women can't orgasm with penetrative sex alone... they need some kind of stimulation of their clitoris because *that's* where their body's sexual pleasure organ is. (In fact, it has no other function at all but sexual pleasure and orgasm.)
If you have orgasms when you masturbate, you should try to do (or have your man do) the things that get you there when you're alone.
If you *don't* have them alone (or don't masturbate), there's no time like the present to learn how.
Masturbation is having sex with the only person you'll ever meet who knows *exactly* what you feel and what you like, even if that changes every second.
One thing you can do to find out is check out this webpage:
Read the page all the way through, and try some of the things suggested (including the "extras" linked at the bottom). Take your time (it might take a whole afternoon the first time), and just enjoy learning what feels best for you... it's fun. Sooner or later, you'll have an orgasm, and they get better each time if you're one of those lucky girls who can have them again and again.
It can take anywhere from a few seconds to a couple of hours to reach orgasm... both of these are unusual but normal, and anything in between is just fine.
Just before orgasm, you might have a feeling a bit like you have to pee, but it's not quite the same, and when your orgasm first happens, there'll be a very strong (sometimes intense and *powerful*), warm and sometimes tingly feeling that spreads from your clitoris to your vagina and then through your whole lower body. Then very quickly your clitoris, your vagina, your crotch muscles and your butt-hole will squeeze and pulse a few times while that feeling spreads all over you.
During all this, your toes will probably curl, you might feel like you need to hold your breath or like you have to breathe really fast, your body will want to tense up and might jerk or shake or shiver, and you might make some noises (grunts, gasps, groans or cries) that you can't really control. You might "squirt" or "ejaculate" a lot of fluid from your urethra (don't worry, it's not pee). The whole time, it's just about the best feeling there is.
(Everything you "might" feel or do above isn't always going to happen... some orgasms are much less overwhelming than just *very* pleasureable.)
As that feeling becomes more gentle and starts to go away (after maybe 5 to 20 seconds), your whole body will begin to relax, and you might feel sort of like having a nap... or like just lying there and letting your mind drift... or maybe like doing it again.
It's not often, but it might happen that there'll be no interruption at all between orgasms, and it can feel like one single orgasm that lasts anywhere from 30 or 40 seconds to several minutes.
Have fun and don't worry. Masturbating is normal and healthy, and learning what pleases you sexually is good for you... especially because you'll know what to tell your man about how to please you when you have sex.
· 1 decade ago