How long did you wait until you got married?

Im in my 30's and never been married. I've had 3 relationships that lasted 5 yrs each, and, thank goodness, never tied the knot with any of them. The thing that scares me is, it took 5 yrs to realize that none of them was the one, and I came very close to marriage each time. Things just would eventually... show more Im in my 30's and never been married. I've had 3 relationships that lasted 5 yrs each, and, thank goodness, never tied the knot with any of them. The thing that scares me is, it took 5 yrs to realize that none of them was the one, and I came very close to marriage each time. Things just would eventually change after that time. Im now in a new relationship, and Im not expecting or trying to say this is it, but, naturally, I am hoping deep down that it is. However, I'd like to not have to wait another 5 yrs to make sure as Im not getting any younger. But no matter how I feel, it's still in the back of my mind that "oh no, if I marry this guy in a year or two, eventually it's going to turn sour just like all past relationships." I know that's something I need to work on myself, but my question is, how long did you guys wait and how did you "know" it was the right thing to do to get married.
Update: I'm not rushing myself or putting a deadline on marriage, but , at the same time, I dont want to be alone the rest of my life. The older I get, the more experiences I go through, the pickier I am--as I now know a thousand red flags to watch for. I know this is a good thing, as my judgement is better, but, at... show more I'm not rushing myself or putting a deadline on marriage, but , at the same time, I dont want to be alone the rest of my life. The older I get, the more experiences I go through, the pickier I am--as I now know a thousand red flags to watch for. I know this is a good thing, as my judgement is better, but, at the same time, it's a curse bc now Im always looking to find something wrong.
Update 2: I hear what you all are saying, and I appreciate the advice. And yes, I've dated a number of ppl in btw, it's just those 3 that actually lasted. I'm not looking for perfect, just perfect for me. And I gave my all to the last one, though I know I wasnt perfect either, but in the end he turned his back on... show more I hear what you all are saying, and I appreciate the advice. And yes, I've dated a number of ppl in btw, it's just those 3 that actually lasted. I'm not looking for perfect, just perfect for me. And I gave my all to the last one, though I know I wasnt perfect either, but in the end he turned his back on me, which Id never have thought would have happened. That was really destructive, and has a lot to do with why Im so skeptical now, but I know I cant keep imagining these qualities on every guy I come across. There really are great men out there, and so far, I've got one. It's just that neg voice that keeps saying "you just wait, something's going to happen to destroy this" that I want to shut up. Counseling probably would be a good idea for me so I can stop overanalyzing every detail and just enjoy and let life take its course.
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