It is understandable how you can feel like you're losing your faith.
In one way, you are. But we all have gone through that.
Being a minister, pastor, former youth pastor, etc. I would venture to say that you are absolutely being influenced by others and certainly mainstream thought.
Realize also, that many youth grow up under heavy-handed, strict households and even churches, with the normal tendency to desire to "spread their wings" and fly outa there! And in doing so, many times flip the complete opposite way.
What you have to come to mature grips with, is not the church or your faith so much as the bible, the word of God.
Irregardless if political or church viewpoints say this or that, it is up to you to "search out a matter".
Re: your perspective on how women were/are treated in the bible and in church environment, there is more than meets the eye.
The way that God intended for the role of men and women was never a "lesser important" role. Understand that God did appoint men as leaders, but women are not slaves and servants, the same way African American was never created as sub-servants to anyone. All people are free and equal. It is a matter of understanding "roles".
This is where it gets dangerous for you. Role reversal. Women-founded, independent-minded, agendas do not serve as a God-approved or God-given agenda.
Study more deep and read more of the history of women both in bible times and 20th century times and be amazed at the amount of accomplishments both women and men have done.
Don't get bent out of shape by ignorant people acting less then Christian. You BE a Christian.!