Christmas with his family or with mine?

For the last 4 years we have spent Christmas with his family, this year I'd like to spend it with mine, or else go away together somewhere. He thinks his family will be upset/offended if we do not spend Christmas with them (they don't make a big deal out of it, just dinner and gifts and carols as... show more For the last 4 years we have spent Christmas with his family, this year I'd like to spend it with mine, or else go away together somewhere. He thinks his family will be upset/offended if we do not spend Christmas with them (they don't make a big deal out of it, just dinner and gifts and carols as background music) and he won't consider doing something different, am I wrong to ask again that we spend it with my family?

How do other couples work this out so everyone is happy?
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