... the headmaster put a strip on his tongue telling him that it would turn green if he lied, this really upset my son. Now they are talking of expelling him.
SERIOUSLY: Sue the school and get the headmaster struck off. That is child abuse. They aren't allowed to touch a child, let alone insert foreign objects into their mouths*
*(Possibly chemically treated - I suspect they actually used litmus paper)
If you can get witnesses, do so and take them to the cleaners.
(Edit: You have to remember that Aspergers children almost never lie. If he said it happened, it happened. Something to do with the wiring stops them lying.
That said at time their version/understanding of the truth can require a leap of faith to grasp!
Me: "Get your feet of the couch!"
Ryan (angry): "They aren't on the couch, stop picking on me!"
Impossibly, it seems, both conditions were true...
But, to him, his feet weren't on the settee, they were on the cushion and /that/ was on the settee. *twitch*
Hardly responsible but it if was my son I'd have "had words" with the headmaster, largely involving nailing the ****** to the wall and explaining in no uncertain terms that I am NOT happy.
As it happens my own son is also high-functioning autism. It was just Asperger's until a brain damage after a RTA exasperated his condition. Took 8 years and a lot of arguing to get him statemented. Now he's in main-stream school with a mentor for 15 hours a week and exempt from certain things - like games.
I remember in his last school they forced him to do PE in his underwear because they 'couldn't find his shorts' The fact we live literally across the road from the school and could have been there in a minute didn't occur to them - though it did occur everytime they wanted something from us. As it happened the shorts were in his bag - they just didn't look.
Funnily enough, I hit the roof and after getting rather 'in your face' with the headmistress and threatening legal action and promising to involve several local authorities for this child abuse, well there were no more incidents like that.
Angry parents is one thing, getting dragged through the mud in the local press and having the LHA and education chiefs asking awkward questions, while fending off lawyers has an amazing ability to focus a schools attention on autism.
Been there, done that and won't take **** like that from any school.
Seriously, don't take this from them, start legal action and get the papers involved, see Citizens Advice . As for threatening to expel him, they have done you a favour - especially if it's in writing. As well as child abuse they are also guilty under various disability law.
What can I say I have loads of issues myself and really can't be doing with idiots like that.
Special schools aren't always the best answer, and sometime they are the very worst answer. (My niece went to one and I won't repeat the horror stories).
Also, moving schools isn't the right way either. You have to make that school see the error of their ways so the same abuse doesn't happen to every other autistic (spectrum) child they encounter. You have to put the (legal) fear of God into the b'ds and make them understand, crystal clear, that their actions and/or inactions have consequences and you will move mountains to make an example of them if they don't toe the line.