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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Girl question--ex's new girlfriend--need advice?

I feel like I'm about 14 typing this question. I know it's lame and I probably shouldn't give it any attention.

But I got engaged and my fiance abused me, so we broke up for awhile, so I started seeing (but not dating) my best friend. Well my fiance and I worked things out, so I told my best friend and he got mad and wouldn't speak to me for like 2 months. Meanwhile, he started going back out w/ his ex also (who he'd dated for about 2 yrs) Well my fiance resorted back to his old ways, and I just wanted someone to talk to...which I guess I should've known better...but I emailed my friend again (he WAS my friend also...) Anyway, I told him the situation, how I felt, etc because I couldn't get up w/ him on the phone. So some retard of a girl, gets on his email reads it and sends it to his new g/f (i didn't even know he was dating anyone)...so his g/f blocks me after writing a nasty email. He tries to call me and tell me it wasn't him, but he LET her write that. It hurt my ...

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feelings so bad...and it up set me. So we talked and everything, but he was so dumb about everything. I mean, I practically poured out my heart...he knew i was being abused..I've always been nice, never clingy...and I just hung up w/ him. By the next day I was mad...and I told him that later on , if they broke up, I didn't want him to call me (cause he said he would.. *rolls eyes*) So I said, no...I don't think that's a good idea. All this is on a DIFFERENT email acct. And I didn't care if his g/f read it or not cause, well, I was "dumping him" So she did I guess...even though I thought she wouldn't....and she goes wrote me back pretending to be him AGAIN...cussing me out..blah blah blah...wont even let me SPEAK to him about anything. I guess she's insecure. Anyway, I've had a rough time, I'm disappointed w/ that guy...and that was like my breaking point. I don't wanna look dumb...cause I really don't even care that she exists on the planet, but I dont want anyone to run all

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feelings so bad...and it up set me. So we talked and everything, but he was so dumb about everything. I mean, I practically poured out my heart...he knew i was being abused..I've always been nice, never clingy...and I just hung up w/ him. By the next day I was mad...and I told him that later on , if they broke up, I didn't want him to call me (cause he said he would.. *rolls eyes*) So I said, no...I don't think that's a good idea. All this is on a DIFFERENT email acct. And I didn't care if his g/f read it or not cause, well, I was "dumping him" So she did I guess...even though I thought she wouldn't....and she goes wrote me back pretending to be him AGAIN...cussing me out..blah blah blah...wont even let me SPEAK to him about anything. I guess she's insecure. Anyway, I've had a rough time, I'm disappointed w/ that guy...and that was like my breaking point. I don't wanna look dumb...cause I really don't even care that she exists on the planet, but I dont want anyone to run all

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over me...so what should I do? She threatened to print stuff out and send them to my ex fiance which would start trouble...and I don't wanna buy into her little tantrum, but it upsets me. And I'm just tired of it. We're not teens anymore, and she needs to grow up and let him think for himself. What should I do. I mean she was a B****

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It's annoying...cause I was always the one to tell him no...and now he's trying to get the upperhand. and i'm not gonna do it!

Update 5:

he did LET her, he was right beside her while she was typing it

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  • 1 decade ago
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    well all i could say is this, leave your fiance alone cause as you could see, he will not change his true color for you, and i think you missed a big opportunity to date your best friend and that is why i think he was mad at you.

  • 1 decade ago

    Why don't you leave the guy alone. Move on he's with some else now the time for you to take time out for yourself and think about the type of man you really are looking and don't settle for less. It's very hard for men and woman to be friend after dating awhile, the relationship will never be the same.

  • Jarien
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    1 decade ago

    He didn't "let" her write it, unless he was right there beside her. What he's allowing is for her to invade his other relationships, and be a bit on the possessive/jealous side.

    Been down this road before, and the female friend does not win. So long as your male friend is content with his relationship, all you can really do is tell him that you don't appreciate private messages being intercepted. Then you have to decide whether to e-mail him again, knowing that your messages will be read.

    While his girlfriend is watch-dogging, he's not free to be your friend. Accept that, and live with it, because it's his decision to make.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well, I don't understand a lot, but I think you you should think how would you feel if the guy you love receives e-mails from hiw ex-gf saying sentimental stuff, she is mad, of course you didn't know, but shouldf have stopped e-mailing him, if you know she is going to read it, just give it a little time, if he is the one for you, he'll open his eyes and will be ith you, meanwhile try to respect his new relationship and you won't have any problems

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  • 3 years ago

    tell your female chum how this makes you sense. Use it to make her in charge ;-P haha no, yet heavily tell her and save doing what you're doing; no longer exhibiting aggression. additionally in case you may confront him, tell him that if he grew to become into along with her, you does no longer be pursuing her this lots out of appreciate for her. So he could do the comparable. How do you even work together with him? Does he carry close out with you adult men? basically forget it. And tell your female chum that there could be some appreciate for you. tell her to tell him to provide up it. you will try this for her if there grew to become right into a woman in touch with you like that.

  • 1 decade ago

    Find some new friends!! Sounds like you don't need anymore enemies!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    well he moved on,,and you hurt him. you went back to your abusive bf,,which you shouldn't done,,and now you think you can talk to him,,,,,you hurt him,,,let him be,,he has moved on,,he knows that you are only going to use him until you go back to your abusive relationship

  • 1 decade ago

    if it was that bad report it

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i am sorry that she did that to you.

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