Ok, this is a strange thing about relationships, but by giving him what he needs, you have a better chance of getting what you need. Here is what I mean: Right now he feels like he needs your support because he is going through an emotional tragedy. But instead of getting your support he feels like you are all wrapped up in the baby. You feel like your husband needs to get over his mom dying and focus on what he has now (you and the baby). Nobody is in the right or wrong here. Both of your feelings are legit, and you both are craving recognition of that. If you were to give him the support he needs, he would most likely want to return the gesture. The problem is it is seriously hard on ones pride when they feel like they are in the right to give into the other person and help them out. Seriously, do it anyway. I can almost guarantee you will get what you are looking for from him if you give him what he is looking for from you.