i completely agree with you. I think that the reason that it is treated differently by the police is that most victims are 2 afraid of the consequences of pressing charges, therefore not many prosecutions are made. I the mans eyes it is a way of showing love to there partner because in there mind they don't know any different, alot of men that commit domestic violence have often been subject to it in childhood, ie watching their fathers hit their mothers, therefore they use this as a way of condoning their behaviour. Some victims of abuse see it as some contact is better then none and therefore think that if they put up with it it will get better. So in some peoples eyes they see domestic violence as a form of love.
In my opinion love is when u would do anything for someone, i feel that you can love a person in 2 ways, you can love somebody without actually being in love with them, in other words you think alot of them and care about them. The other way is to love someone unconditionally, which i interpret to mean that you would support this persons decisions no matter wot the consequences are and you would basically go to the ends of the earth for this person in order to please them and make them happy.