• Can my parents stop me?

    My boyfriend booked a ticket for Paris. The flight is in the winter and I want to go with him I can afford it with my job. But he’s 18 and I’m 17 by then he’ll be 19 but I won’t be 18 until March and the flight is in December. He’s a sweet guy but do you think my mom and dad will be pissed off if I bought the... show more
    My boyfriend booked a ticket for Paris. The flight is in the winter and I want to go with him I can afford it with my job. But he’s 18 and I’m 17 by then he’ll be 19 but I won’t be 18 until March and the flight is in December. He’s a sweet guy but do you think my mom and dad will be pissed off if I bought the ticket and flew with him to Europe I know it sounds dumb but we’re young and you only live once. I think it would be beautiful. My family’s Filipino so they’re ...“strict” but they’re sweet. He’s Hispanic but they don’t mind him. My mom likes him my dad is 50/50 but he’s not a bad guy. He doesn’t drink, I have. So he’s more innocent than me
    53 answers · 2 days ago
  • I hate my family. What should I do?

    Best answer: You’re doing the right thing. Save up and move out. Find a friend at school or somewhere who also wants to move out.
    Best answer: You’re doing the right thing. Save up and move out. Find a friend at school or somewhere who also wants to move out.
    7 answers · 5 hours ago
  • How do you get on with life when you never got to be young?

    I am a thirty-seven year old man, and there is a lot in life I never got to do; namely, the entire experience of being young. I was raised by very abusive and parasitic people and spent the first two and a half decades working so my worthless "family" could have money. And when I wasn't working or... show more
    I am a thirty-seven year old man, and there is a lot in life I never got to do; namely, the entire experience of being young. I was raised by very abusive and parasitic people and spent the first two and a half decades working so my worthless "family" could have money. And when I wasn't working or taking care of my father (a drunk) and my sister's kids (who had three of them, by three men and has been on welfare her whole life) While other kids were being teenagers, I was working and babysitting kids I had no part in making. When everyone else went to college, I worked and provided for my father (who suffered a back injury) and my sister. And my mother left us after she beat me when I was younger. Now I'm on my feet and live far, FAR away from them. I am no longer enabling them and have my own "life." I have my ebook business going and I manage a catering company...but I'm 37, and never got to be young, have fun, or even date. I feel like I lost so many opportunities. If I date now it will be with someone my age and more experienced, and I'll never feel "young love." If I travel now it will be as a middle-aged man, and I'll never be young and adventurous. I'll never have any "wild years" and will have to go straight to being old and settled. How does one go through life having missed out on a huge chunk of it that they'll never get back?
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • How do I talk my mom into letting me go on a vacation with my boyfriend and his parents for two weeks I'm 15 and he's 16 and I really want?

    Best answer: I’m a 15-year-old girl, and honestly if I was your mother, I would let you go. But we don’t know if your mom will agree or not, so I’ll give you some advice. Just ask her for permission. List the reasons why you want to go. If she says yes, good for you😊! But if she says no, than ask her why, and possibly... show more
    Best answer: I’m a 15-year-old girl, and honestly if I was your mother, I would let you go. But we don’t know if your mom will agree or not, so I’ll give you some advice.
    Just ask her for permission. List the reasons why you want to go. If she says yes, good for you😊! But if she says no, than ask her why, and possibly compromise with her.
    Also, I highly recommend having your parents talk with your boyfriend’s parents. Maybe that might help somehow.
    I hope your mother allows you to go on that vacation. Good luck😉
    24 answers · 2 days ago
  • How can I get around this?

    So, I am a single mother of a 10 month old and I live with my father. I am responsible for the cable bill, half of the lightbill, my phone bill, car note, car insurance, of course my child, and other personal expenses. I applied for food stamps and i am denied because my father makes too much but i feel that is not... show more
    So, I am a single mother of a 10 month old and I live with my father. I am responsible for the cable bill, half of the lightbill, my phone bill, car note, car insurance, of course my child, and other personal expenses. I applied for food stamps and i am denied because my father makes too much but i feel that is not fair because its not like my dad does for me and my son. He just provides the roof. Its as if he is a roomate and i cant get approved making $9 an hour because HE makes too much. I understand its based on the household income but isnt there a way around this? Can i write a letter or something stating he doesnt take care of me and my son?
    18 answers · 1 day ago
  • How to I stop my little brother from disrespecting me?

    I’m 18 and my 13 little brother is constantly trying to start fights with me by calling me names and trying to emotionally hurt me (which doesn’t work of course) and annoys the hell of me but when he finds my money he takes it saying the reason he took it because he hates me and it’s not with money it’s also with... show more
    I’m 18 and my 13 little brother is constantly trying to start fights with me by calling me names and trying to emotionally hurt me (which doesn’t work of course) and annoys the hell of me but when he finds my money he takes it saying the reason he took it because he hates me and it’s not with money it’s also with food and other stuff and I cant do anything to him because I feel I should punch him or physically hurt him what can I do to make him stop
    10 answers · 4 hours ago
  • Is it unreasonable to ask my oldest son to stay with my father and i?

    Best answer: He's an adult and must decide for himself, there's nothing wrong with presenting him with options but you shouldn't pressure him unless you want to risk your current relationship with him
    Best answer: He's an adult and must decide for himself, there's nothing wrong with presenting him with options but you shouldn't pressure him unless you want to risk your current relationship with him
    11 answers · 18 hours ago
  • Is is ok to tell my Mother in Law that we do NOT want her to ever be our houseguest again?

    My mother in law lives out of state. She has increasingly visited more frequently and for longer periods of time over the years. My husband and I now have 3 kids. After baby 3 my husband finally told her that we do not have room. When she stays she goes to sleep early and wakes early (no guest room). She... show more
    My mother in law lives out of state. She has increasingly visited more frequently and for longer periods of time over the years. My husband and I now have 3 kids. After baby 3 my husband finally told her that we do not have room. When she stays she goes to sleep early and wakes early (no guest room). She complains that we are too loud when we stay up later and she is too loud for us when she wakes earlier. My husband gets into fights with her everytime she is in town bc she shows obvious favoritism to our daughter over our boys. We are moving. She assumes that she is going to be allowed to stay at our home and has made comments about buying herself a bed for our basement. My husband doesn t want her st ever stay at our home again. He wants her to get a hotel from now on without her having to pick a fight with him over it. The last time she fought with him about it he layed for her hotel but we cannot do that everytime she decided to come to town uninvited.
    9 answers · 4 hours ago
  • How to tell my son that I never wanted him?

    Best answer: http://thankfulhomemaker.com/2012/04/the-sin-of-selfishness/ But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without... show more
    Best answer: http://thankfulhomemaker.com/2012/04/the-sin-of-selfishness/
    But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.
    (2 Timothy 3:1-5 ESVOpen in Logos Bible Software (if available))
    46 answers · 5 days ago
  • My girlfriend didn’t invite me to her graduation and then got moody with me because I was upset. Was I being too sensitive about it?

    Best answer: The biggest factor in breaking up is expecting the other person to do (or treat us) the way WE would treat them. She didn't invite you to her graduation. She isn't you. You helped her with her assignments and you expected appreciation back. Love is about giving not because we are trying to "buy"... show more
    Best answer: The biggest factor in breaking up is expecting the other person to do (or treat us) the way WE would treat them.

    She didn't invite you to her graduation.
    She isn't you.
    You helped her with her assignments and you expected appreciation back. Love is about giving not because we are trying to "buy" behavior, but because we give without expectation.

    You either accept her as she is, or risk losing her. You either act because you care about her happiness (instead of expecting something back) or you don't love.

    At the same time, not everyone is worthy of your love .. and she might not be.
    But as long as you are being jerked around by your own emotions, you are not ready for a good relationship.

    And anytime we get upset with someone, the underlying message is "You are not good enough as you are. I don't care about you as you are" .. so of course this alienates them.
    Marriages only work well once we learn to take responsibility for our own emotional reactions and work with them ourselves instead of expecting the other person to fix our emotions. And usually it takes about 10-20 years of being together before we figure out how to do this.
    9 answers · 6 hours ago
  • What is wrong with my parents?

    I am a 20 year old young man and my mom had me write some Thank You notes and I chose not to. She said either write the notes or send everything you got back and I called her an idiot. My dad screamed at us and I wrote some notes. I so f**king hate them right now. I feel like I don't know them anymore and I... show more
    I am a 20 year old young man and my mom had me write some Thank You notes and I chose not to. She said either write the notes or send everything you got back and I called her an idiot. My dad screamed at us and I wrote some notes. I so f**king hate them right now. I feel like I don't know them anymore and I kinda wished my grandpa was here to help me but he wasn't
    12 answers · 1 day ago
  • Should I just move out?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 years now. I moved in with him and his mom for about two years. I do my part in paying bills. I pay cable and national grid and give his mom 100 dollar every other week to help her out. Anyways I just feel like I need to get out of there and get my own place due to... show more
    My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 years now. I moved in with him and his mom for about two years. I do my part in paying bills. I pay cable and national grid and give his mom 100 dollar every other week to help her out. Anyways I just feel like I need to get out of there and get my own place due to the fact that I just want my own space and privacy. Couple days ago my boyfriend moved some of my stuff from our room to a different room saying it’s taking up space because he was mad at me meanwhile he has clothes and all his stuff thrown all over the room. I hate other people touching my stuff that is why I have it in my room. Especially because his brother who have little kids live upstairs from us and their always downstairs. Again I don’t like my stuff being touched. I think I’m beginning to dislike my boyfriend because of his attitude and anger. Am I just being childish about not wanting my stuff touched?
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • Cousin is mooching off my parents and sharing my room. What do I do?

    so my cousin has been living with us for about year. And because I have the biggest room (the basement), he shares the room with me. This was supposed to be a 6 month thing and ended up being a one year thing. He hasn’t been looking for a new place, he hasn’t made an effort to save money, he spends way too much... show more
    so my cousin has been living with us for about year. And because I have the biggest room (the basement), he shares the room with me. This was supposed to be a 6 month thing and ended up being a one year thing. He hasn’t been looking for a new place, he hasn’t made an effort to save money, he spends way too much money on weed and just plays video games all day. It’s really stressful for me because I’ve never had my own room and when I finally got my own room he moved in. My parents are very fed up with him but don’t want to ruin their relationship with him. Him and I fight all the time mostly becuase he doesn’t clean up after himself and I am physically tired of cleaning up after him all the time. Recently we got into a big argument because he’s angry that I tell my mom how dirty he is becuase she ends up yelling at him to clean up. But I have no choice becuase when I tell him to clean up he just yells at me and spoils endings of tv shows and video games to get me out of the room. He’s 28 years old and I’m a 22 year old woman. I can’t even bring my friends or boyfriend over because his clothes are all over the floor. I just really don’t know what to do at this point. What do I do?
    28 answers · 5 days ago
  • My parents bought me a car against my own wishes. What do I do?

    I currently drive a 2001 Hyundai. Even though I'm 19, I recently started driving, and am starting to get very comfortable driving the Hyundai. My parents, however, decided it wasn't 'safe' enough for me to commute to school in and bought me a 2018 Cross-Trek. They had been talking about buying me a... show more
    I currently drive a 2001 Hyundai. Even though I'm 19, I recently started driving, and am starting to get very comfortable driving the Hyundai. My parents, however, decided it wasn't 'safe' enough for me to commute to school in and bought me a 2018 Cross-Trek. They had been talking about buying me a new car for a while, and even bought themselves a new Forester last year. I begged and pleaded with them not to buy me the Cross-Trek because it's very expensive (we're not poor, but both of my parents are medically retired so their funds are sort of limited + I can't afford to pay them back). I also hadn't test driven any other vehicles, which I view as a must when buying a car, and when I did test drive it, all the safety gismos and warnings freaked me out a little. I've driven the Cross-Trek twice and both times, I felt like the driver's seat was in an awkward position; It's not high enough and makes me feel the hood is right in front of my face. I'm really not a fan of the car, so far at least. I don't want to come off as a spoiled brat here, but I wish that they had just let me continue to get comfortable with driving on the Hyundai and not bought me the Cross-Trek. Further, every time my family sees people we know I feel like I have to put on a fake smile and pretend all is well with the car, I couldn't be happier, etc. I sort of feel like this is hanging over my head and this question is venting more than anything, but some advice would be much appreciated.
    9 answers · 3 hours ago
  • How do I deal with this?

    Best answer: You're not being silly at all. However, you're making things a lot harder on yourself, but this isn't your fault. When you started asking questions, I have no idea how why your mum didn't explain this to you. Miscarriages are a lot more common than people realize, and it's even possible to... show more
    Best answer: You're not being silly at all. However, you're making things a lot harder on yourself, but this isn't your fault. When you started asking questions, I have no idea how why your mum didn't explain this to you.

    Miscarriages are a lot more common than people realize, and it's even possible to have one without realizing it. This usually means there's something very wrong with that baby. So it's fair to assume most of us have "missing" siblings.

    Here's where your situation might be different. My mom had a miscarriage, and she told me about it when I was in high school. It had no impact on me at all. I wasn't even sad. It was just something that happened. However, I grew up in a happy, healthy home with 4 younger sibs and a happily married mom and dad. See where I'm going with this?

    You haven't been so lucky. It doesn't sound like you have a loving dad in your life, because he'd be the obvious person to ask. And then you have an abusive older brother. So what you're doing here is very understandable. You're trying to create a happy family in your head and thinking about what could have been. You're creating an older, protective brother, but with what little I know about your life, my guess is that wouldn't have happened. I don't mean to trash your mum, but facts are facts. She's the one who raised your older brother. What makes you think she would have done a better job back when she was a lot younger? You might have ended up with a sister who turned out to be your worst nightmare.

    What you want to do is force yourself to look ahead, not behind. If you have a trustworthy older relative, talk to them about this. Make sure they're trustworthy, though. If someone besides your mum told you this, that isn't the person you want. Talk to them about your feelings, because honestly, it's obvious what's happening. You WANT that happy family you don't have, and you don't have an older protective male influence, so this makes you assume you missed out because of the miscarriages. That's not why your life is lacking.
    8 answers · 6 hours ago
  • Why are older brothers more protective of their younger sisters when it comes to dating than younger brothers are to their older sisters?

    Best answer: it may be because that's how the family dynamic work or instinctively boys are more protect of girls than vice versa also this is not true in all cases but do see what you mean.
    Best answer: it may be because that's how the family dynamic work or instinctively boys are more protect of girls than vice versa also this is not true in all cases but do see what you mean.
    10 answers · 4 days ago
  • Is it normal that my parents tell me how long to shower for?

    Best answer: Tell them to leave you alone because you are masturbating. They will probably stop talking to you while you are anywhere near a shower.
    Best answer: Tell them to leave you alone because you are masturbating. They will probably stop talking to you while you are anywhere near a shower.
    14 answers · 2 days ago