A toddler's brain is not physically advanced enough to think logically when she or he has an impulse. When tired or hungry the child will deal less effectively with an impulse. Is your child in a shopping cart? It is developmentally appropriate to keep the child in a cart and out of reach of sunglasses, etc...
Best answer: A toddler's brain is not physically advanced enough to think logically when she or he has an impulse. When tired or hungry the child will deal less effectively with an impulse. Is your child in a shopping cart? It is developmentally appropriate to keep the child in a cart and out of reach of sunglasses, etc at this stage.
It is a mistake to assume "a child has no good reason to do what they are doing". Your child is doing exactly what a toddler's brain does . . . to pick things up and see how they work. It really makes no logical sense that we have to pay for things before we play them until we learn that societal norm.
I'd practice using a shpping cart and repeat as necessary until your child understands that the store owns things until you buy them.
Here is my idea to get things back on track.
1) Say you want your toddler to do something special to help you grocery shop. This is a new adventure. Announce the adventure the day before. The day of show, use your excited tone of voice to say "You are going to help me pick out things then put them in a cart. After we get a few things we will take them back out of the cart. Then you can see how the conveyor belt moves." Maybe pick a new store if possible.
2) Make sure your child is well rested. Bring a healthy snack out of your purse (surprise!!) to give your child after they get in the shopping cart in the parking lot. "I will give you this xxxx once I lift you in and bucke you up."
3) When inside the store your tone of voice really counts. "Hey, you can pick out which bananas to put in the cart, can you count three for me?"
4) They can pick up the food. "Do you want to put it in the cart or do you want to hold it until we get to the checkout stand?"
5) Say your three year old son really likes pickles. "Do you want to help me pick out this . . . or this? This one is sour, and I think this is your favorite . . . " The goal is keep your child engaged in the shopping experience, and for you to not brush up against those displays they put mid-asile.
6) Your child has a really small attention span so get to the check out counter after a few things. Tone of voice matters more than what you say. "This is great, I'm proud of you. Did you want me to hand you the stuff so you can put it on the belt? " Serious smile as your toddler puts things on the conveyor belt.
7) Interact with the cashier, and then when they say how much it is, On the second field trip invite your child to participate. "<Child's name> this costs $xx dollars, should we pay for the food?" The cashier might laugh. Make it a social interaction so that your child kind of knows what is going on. Walking out, you might mention "I just paid xx and we got all this food. Here is the page that says what we bought." Next time maybe you bring cash and have your toddler pay for the food with a $20.
8) Bucking up in the car "I'm so grateful I had your help today, I hope I can have your help next time too."
p.s. Don't forget the family friendly check out lane and to keep the cart close to the belt. Keep yourself stationed between the cart and the very appealing trinkets right behind you.
You are a great mother. You are reaching and noticing that you are uncomfortable with the situation.
You got this momma!
2 weeks ago