• Who is responsible for paying for a wedding?

    I understand that it has always been the tradition for the brides family to cover the cost of the wedding. But, it has also always been the tradition for a man to pay on dates, hold the door, etc. Very few young men are chivalrous in this way. Oftentimes, women are expected to pay for their portion of the meal when... show more
    I understand that it has always been the tradition for the brides family to cover the cost of the wedding. But, it has also always been the tradition for a man to pay on dates, hold the door, etc. Very few young men are chivalrous in this way. Oftentimes, women are expected to pay for their portion of the meal when on dates. Personally, I have paid my half for every date past the very first few. That being said, times have certainly changed, however, I was wondering if expecting the brides family to pay for the wedding is an outdated tradition? I really hate to be cheap in this situation, however, weddings are always very costly (average $40,000) and I come from a family of 6 girls. My parents simply cannot afford it even if we get a great deal and pay half of the average price. I am also worried that the grooms family will be somewhat judgmental if we decide to go the less expensive route and spend what is in our price range. Many of them have not met my family or myself and I don't want to come across as tacky. Yet, I am unsure of whether or not they would be more upset if they found out that my side of the family wasn't able to pick up the entire tab. Would it be terrible to split the cost of the wedding with the grooms family?
    51 answers · 3 days ago
  • What should I do?

    I’m the bride and my closest friend ever is a guy and I want him to be one of the groomsmen. My fiancé doesn’t want him to Bc he wants to pick other people. I understand wanting to pick other people too because the groom picks the groomsmen but idk why he can’t pick all his friends and then I add in my best friend.... show more
    I’m the bride and my closest friend ever is a guy and I want him to be one of the groomsmen. My fiancé doesn’t want him to Bc he wants to pick other people. I understand wanting to pick other people too because the groom picks the groomsmen but idk why he can’t pick all his friends and then I add in my best friend. Idk if this is a thing that people do but I don’t think it’s that weird to include a bride’s friend as a groomsman? Is it unfair of me to think it’s okay for me to pick him to be one of the groomsmen since the groom picks them? What should I do?
    34 answers · 5 days ago
  • My boyfriend proposed?

    Best answer: Don't jump to conclusions, you don't know what kind of ring he's going to get you. Unless he asks you to marry him after you receive the ring then he hasn't proposed yet.
    If he does get you an engagement ring, when your wedding date gets closer you can buy him a wedding band.
    Best answer: Don't jump to conclusions, you don't know what kind of ring he's going to get you. Unless he asks you to marry him after you receive the ring then he hasn't proposed yet.
    If he does get you an engagement ring, when your wedding date gets closer you can buy him a wedding band.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • My fiance's mom secretly wishes we weren't getting married?

    We are having a small ceremony and I found out she has been bad mouthing me for years and never wanted us to get married. I don't want her at the wedding but I know he does.. what do I do?
    We are having a small ceremony and I found out she has been bad mouthing me for years and never wanted us to get married. I don't want her at the wedding but I know he does.. what do I do?
    41 answers · 6 days ago
  • Legal marriages?

    Hi, I just wanted to ask if my parents got married in Bangladesh and then came to london, will their marriage be considered a legal marriage in the uk
    Hi, I just wanted to ask if my parents got married in Bangladesh and then came to london, will their marriage be considered a legal marriage in the uk
    11 answers · 3 days ago
  • When to stop birth control?

    My fiance and I are getting married and we want to start trying to have a baby right away. I am wondering if I should wait until after our week long honeymoon to stop my birth control, then that will cause to me start my period, then we can start trying OR if I should stop my birth control to where I have my... show more
    My fiance and I are getting married and we want to start trying to have a baby right away. I am wondering if I should wait until after our week long honeymoon to stop my birth control, then that will cause to me start my period, then we can start trying OR if I should stop my birth control to where I have my period right before the wedding and then while we are away on our honeymoon, we would technically be unprotected. My concern is if by chance I did get pregnant on my honeymoon, I wouldnt know right away obviously and I would be drinking while on the honeymoon.
    28 answers · 1 week ago
  • Is it rude to refuse someone’s wedding invitation?

    I have social anxiety. Social situations make me very uncomfortable, especially weddings. So I would much rather stay home. The thing is it’s my cousin’s wedding and it’s kinda expected from me to be there. Most of the family is going. Except my father who doesn’t really care.
    I have social anxiety. Social situations make me very uncomfortable, especially weddings. So I would much rather stay home. The thing is it’s my cousin’s wedding and it’s kinda expected from me to be there. Most of the family is going. Except my father who doesn’t really care.
    38 answers · 1 week ago
  • My fiance Returned the engagement ring!? Should I give him another chance?

    Best answer: While it may be unfashionable to be engaged for several years, while The Wedding Industry may promote the myth that "engagement means you set a date (plunk down $$$ for a deposit) and start planning your wedding (buying stuff)," the fact of the matter is that engagement is for MARRIAGE planning -- not... show more
    Best answer: While it may be unfashionable to be engaged for several years, while The Wedding Industry may promote the myth that "engagement means you set a date (plunk down $$$ for a deposit) and start planning your wedding (buying stuff)," the fact of the matter is that engagement is for MARRIAGE planning -- not WEDDING planning. While The Wedding Industry insists (based on what?) that engagement is NOT "marriage lite," that is EXACTLY what engagement is -- the period when a pair "tries on" couple-hood and all that goes with it, like having in-laws, like budgeting/spending/saving together, like formulating their own way of CONSTRUCTIVELY dealing with the differences and frustrations of shared lives. My thought is that if an engagement isn't broken off at least once, then the couple isn't really doing the serious work of MARRIAGE planning.

    Couples don't have to agree on everything, but they do have to agree on how they're going to handle things when there's disagreement.

    This isn't a question of you giving him another chance or him giving you another chance, but a question of both of you giving the relationship another chance. A good relationship is where BOTH people are ready and willing to sacrifice for the other, ready and willing to say "This seems to be more important to you than it is to me, so I'll go along with you want -- I still won't like it much, but I'll go along with it for love of you." A not-good relation is where EITHER person is ready and willing to demand sacrifice from the other.

    So if either of you is in favor of ending the relationship over ONE out-of-control disagreement, do it. But if both of you want to dig into the hard work or LEARNING how to handle disagreement constructively, the hard work of LEARNING how to function as a loving couple, then get back together and get to work. But don't even THINK about starting the exciting whirl of wedding planning until you've spend a few years marriage planning and have things like budgeting, in-law dynamics, and various other "these are the rules we follow to make our marriage work" strategies tested and working well.
    17 answers · 6 days ago
  • Is this dress too white to wear as a wedding guest?

    Is this dress too white to wear as a wedding guest?

    yes, I'm aware of the whole "if you have to ask, don't" but i really love this dress and it fits me like a glove and compliments my figure in all the right ways. or i could message the bride and ask her if she is ok with it.
    yes, I'm aware of the whole "if you have to ask, don't" but i really love this dress and it fits me like a glove and compliments my figure in all the right ways. or i could message the bride and ask her if she is ok with it.
    36 answers · 1 week ago
  • Should I buy a new wedding dress?

    My cousin got married this weekend. I’m engaged and getting married in the fall. I’ve already bought a wedding dress and have had it since right when I got engaged. My cousin got hers after mine and we ended up getting the same dress. I didn’t find out until her wedding this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want... show more
    My cousin got married this weekend. I’m engaged and getting married in the fall. I’ve already bought a wedding dress and have had it since right when I got engaged. My cousin got hers after mine and we ended up getting the same dress. I didn’t find out until her wedding this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want people to think I’m copying her because I’m not, but I LOVE my wedding dress and can only see myself getting married in that dress. Every dress I tried on didn’t compare to the dress I got. Idk what to do, I really don’t want it to be a topic or discussion at my wedding which I know it will be. I also don’t want to piss off my cousin and make her think I copied her. What do I do? Take back my dress and settle for one I don’t love?
    23 answers · 1 week ago
  • What do wedding guests really want for entertainment?

    We are looking for something extra to make the big day more memorable for our families and guests. We will have a live band playing for the evening reception but what other ideas should we consider - last minute ideas especially.
    We are looking for something extra to make the big day more memorable for our families and guests. We will have a live band playing for the evening reception but what other ideas should we consider - last minute ideas especially.
    17 answers · 7 days ago
  • Bridesmaids? Should I include my future sisters in law?

    Best answer: No do not. Are there a few that you are closer to or more your age or not married. I am not a fan of make up duties, like guest book attendant, but I got married in a church where there were roles that we could of filled. Like readers, we needed two. Two of my three brothers did that, the married ones. The single... show more
    Best answer: No do not.
    Are there a few that you are closer to or more your age or not married.

    I am not a fan of make up duties, like guest book attendant, but I got married in a church where there were roles that we could of filled.
    Like readers, we needed two. Two of my three brothers did that, the married ones.
    The single one, was a groomsmen.

    I think they will understand that 14 bridesmaids is a bit much for most.

    I think more than five or six is to much.

    Also if you are planning on asking, talk to your fiance about who to ask as well.
    15 answers · 7 days ago
  • Do I still have to pay?

    I am in my friends bridal shower. Her bridesmaid planned the bachelorette party for this upcoming weekend a month ago. I love about 45mins-hour away from the event; and all the rest live 6 hours away. They rented a hotel room in downtown, and we are doing a cycle saloon thing. Staying the night, then the... show more
    I am in my friends bridal shower. Her bridesmaid planned the bachelorette party for this upcoming weekend a month ago. I love about 45mins-hour away from the event; and all the rest live 6 hours away. They rented a hotel room in downtown, and we are doing a cycle saloon thing. Staying the night, then the following day going out. The hotel and the bike thing are a total of $234.00. A person. I am the only one with a baby, he’s 5 months old. My sitter cancelled for this Friday’s events. So I will not be able to make it. However the whole bridal party wants me to pay for the hotel and cycle thing still for the first night. Which totals $136.00. When I won’t be staying there, doing the cycle thing, or even attending that day. Do I have to pay? Or do they need to split the cost between them for that day?
    20 answers · 1 week ago
  • Joint bachelor/bachelorette party on a budget ideas?

    The bride wants a joint party. There are two bridesmaids and one groomsmen. So there are 5 people and three people are paying. The budget is about 350 for the whole party. A little over 100 each person. Have any fun ideas?
    The bride wants a joint party. There are two bridesmaids and one groomsmen. So there are 5 people and three people are paying. The budget is about 350 for the whole party. A little over 100 each person. Have any fun ideas?
    7 answers · 4 days ago