• Why doesn’t my friend want my children at her wedding?

    I am the mother of two girls age 18 months. My good friend has gotten engaged and I am bridesmaid. She has specified ‘no children’ the wedding is two hours away so now I will have to travel with my husband and hire a sitter. They are well behaved children and wouldn’t cause a scene. I can’t help but feel upset that... show more
    I am the mother of two girls age 18 months. My good friend has gotten engaged and I am bridesmaid. She has specified ‘no children’ the wedding is two hours away so now I will have to travel with my husband and hire a sitter. They are well behaved children and wouldn’t cause a scene. I can’t help but feel upset that they aren’t being included. One of her cousins is 11 and has been invited which I think is slightly hypocritical.
    32 answers · 2 days ago
  • Do the guests judge you if you can't dance at your wedding?

    I'm a kind of person who doesn't wear make up, I'm not into fashion... Generally I don't care what others think. But my husband thinks we have to dance, and as we get closer to the date, I'm starting to get worried about people's opinion on my dress, on my looks, on how I dance,etc.
    I'm a kind of person who doesn't wear make up, I'm not into fashion... Generally I don't care what others think. But my husband thinks we have to dance, and as we get closer to the date, I'm starting to get worried about people's opinion on my dress, on my looks, on how I dance,etc.
    15 answers · 1 day ago
  • My friend wants her family from out of town to stay with me for a week to be present for her wedding?

    A good friend of mine is getting married next month on the 15th and has asked if her mother and father can stay the week at my house to be present for the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner and wedding. I figured they wouldn't be at my place that much since they have so many events to go to throughout the week so... show more
    A good friend of mine is getting married next month on the 15th and has asked if her mother and father can stay the week at my house to be present for the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner and wedding. I figured they wouldn't be at my place that much since they have so many events to go to throughout the week so I said yes and being that her and her fiance both share a small apartment I could see how it wouldn't be much space for her parents... But anyway this was two months ago, today she calls me and tells me her sister along with her husband and two children and her brothers will also need to come to my place and here's the thing she didn't ask me she basically just told me and I don't know how many brothers she has but I only have a three bedroom house not big enough for my boyfriend myself, and 6 people including her "brothers" I don't know what to do. I did stay with her 1 year ago for about 2 months and I felt like me allowing her parents to come to my place was basically paying the favor back but I can't allow her whole family and I don't know what to tell her without her being upset and causing conflict in our friendship I also will like to mention I did pay her while staying with her and I offered ... She hasn't offered me any money and she has been talking about how she barely can afford her wedding so I doubt she plans to give up any money in exchange what should I do? Should I offer to get them a motel or something? I know I need to tell her something soon.
    18 answers · 2 days ago
  • Turkish women marrying American men- How do you deal with the clashing traditions of who pays for the wedding?

    Grooms family insists on only paying for the rehearsal and Turkish parents think it s unfair to pay for the main event. Heart broken and disappointed at how stubborn both sides are being. Never nought it would be this kind of stressful. I know I can t be alone here- how did you figure out how to make everyone feel... show more
    Grooms family insists on only paying for the rehearsal and Turkish parents think it s unfair to pay for the main event. Heart broken and disappointed at how stubborn both sides are being. Never nought it would be this kind of stressful. I know I can t be alone here- how did you figure out how to make everyone feel comfortable? I can pay for majority of it myself but wish there was a better option.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • Bridesmaid dress colors?

    Best answer: It's her wedding. Find some makeup that will make you look fine in it.
    Best answer: It's her wedding. Find some makeup that will make you look fine in it.
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • Bride changed her mind for bridesmaid?

    Best answer: I think you need to clear the air and talk about this before things progress any further. Ask her to meet you for coffee and talk to her, calmly, and ask what happened. Be honest and upfront that you had put a deposit on the dress. If she is a good friend, she should take care of the deposit and reimburse you if... show more
    Best answer: I think you need to clear the air and talk about this before things progress any further. Ask her to meet you for coffee and talk to her, calmly, and ask what happened. Be honest and upfront that you had put a deposit on the dress. If she is a good friend, she should take care of the deposit and reimburse you if you cannot get it back. Now, as for the communication about being a bridesmaid, ask her when she changed her mind and tell her that it would have been better to be truthful and tell you that you were no longer going to be a bridesmaid. Thank her for meeting you and that you hope the wedding plans are going well. Then, it's up to you if you want to attend the wedding. Do you feel that your friendship can continue after this problem? Can you forgive her for changing her mind and not telling you? If you can seriously work past these disappointments, then attend the wedding. But, if you're always going to feel some resentment, then you shouldn't attend. Send your regrets and leave it at that. If you choose to continue the friendship at a later time, that's great. But, if this friendship is over, and it might very well be, then move on and don't fixate on this situation. It's all up to you to decide.
    14 answers · 3 days ago
  • Is fiancé being childish?

    My fiancé and I have know one another for 2 years. We got engaged 9 months ago. He moved into my place 7 months ago. Whenever he gets angry or upset with me he ignores me for the day! Sometimes for two or three days. He stays in our room, makes food or goes to the bathroom. Otherwise he stays in our room. I guess I... show more
    My fiancé and I have know one another for 2 years. We got engaged 9 months ago. He moved into my place 7 months ago. Whenever he gets angry or upset with me he ignores me for the day! Sometimes for two or three days. He stays in our room, makes food or goes to the bathroom. Otherwise he stays in our room. I guess I don’t help matters by avoiding going into my room because I don’t want it to make him more angry! I believe that couples need to be a team and equally work together and talk through things vs giving the other the cold shoulder. What do I do?
    19 answers · 4 days ago
  • Would you attend a nude wedding?

    Best answer: Yes.

    Gosh, that's a clever way to cut down on costs. You don't have to spend money on a wedding dress or bridesmaids dresses and it probably cuts down on the guest list.
    Best answer: Yes.

    Gosh, that's a clever way to cut down on costs. You don't have to spend money on a wedding dress or bridesmaids dresses and it probably cuts down on the guest list.
    21 answers · 5 days ago
  • Fiance not wanting to marry me anymore because I wont combine finances?

    My fiancé has a lot of debt and children from their previous marriage whom they are financially responsible for. Their ex is still alive and well and employed and sees the kids too. My fiancé wants to combine finances with me when we get married. I do not want to do this until their debts are paid off front he past... show more
    My fiancé has a lot of debt and children from their previous marriage whom they are financially responsible for. Their ex is still alive and well and employed and sees the kids too. My fiancé wants to combine finances with me when we get married. I do not want to do this until their debts are paid off front he past and they can prove they are capable of making good choices with money and saving some. I have a lot of money saved and a good jobs nd no debt and no kids. Why do they want me to combine finances so bad?
    14 answers · 5 days ago
  • Simple ideas for a bridal shower. It is my first time.?

    Hello! I need advise on how to throw a bridal shower for my friend. The problem is, she has a different set of friends so basically we (her friends) do not know each other personally. What is the best type of bridal shower for this? She wants it fun but simple. Just good for us to have a great bonding experience. I... show more
    Hello! I need advise on how to throw a bridal shower for my friend. The problem is, she has a different set of friends so basically we (her friends) do not know each other personally. What is the best type of bridal shower for this? She wants it fun but simple. Just good for us to have a great bonding experience. I havent been on a bridal shower before so i need lots of ideas. :( thanks!
    8 answers · 4 days ago
  • How to avoid this honeymoon concern?

    Best answer: I've been a best man a dozen times and have been to two dozen weddings of every variation. Beyond asking the groom if he needs me to take care of anything on the day for him or pick any last-minute items, at no point have the details of their wedding night come up for discussion (I've never brought it up... show more
    Best answer: I've been a best man a dozen times and have been to two dozen weddings of every variation. Beyond asking the groom if he needs me to take care of anything on the day for him or pick any last-minute items, at no point have the details of their wedding night come up for discussion (I've never brought it up because I've always assumed that this is between you and your spouse).

    People that are attending your wedding don't care about your wedding night (and truth be told don't want to know about it). In no particular order, people would like an open bar, decent food, and a chance to offer congratulations to you and your spouse (they might wish you a happy honeymoon is a completely innocent way). As a career bachelor, I can't remember ever giving it a thought. The singles at your wedding/reception will be thinking about their own lot and if there's anyone at the reception worth having a drink (or more) with, and the married couples will either be thinking "how quickly can we leave so we don't have to pay extra for the babysitter" or hitting that open bar hard because they don't have kids and want to tear it up. Most of the women will be re-thinking their choices in shoes and foundation-wear (Spanx apparently aren't that comfortable). If I'm your best man I've written a toast/roast that will be equal parts funny, marginally humiliating to you, and finish with some nice words about you and your spouse. What you and your spouse do is unspoken; similar to if you see someone going to use the washroom (you know what they're doing but you don't spend time thinking about it).

    If this person you're going to marry is really the right person, then what other people think won't matter. And if you still can't move beyond it, then it says here you lack the basic maturity to handle the complexities of love, marriage, and being someone's spouse.

    Failing all of that, if you're that concerned about performance anxiety, go see your doctor and get a Viagra prescription and you should be good to go.
    19 answers · 7 days ago
  • Is it rude to ask wedding guests to pay for accommodations that you provide?

    My fiance and I have family coming from out of town for the wedding, and we only have a 1 bedroom apartment. To save money, we're renting a large home (10-ish bedrooms) on the beach where we'll host both the wedding and the reception. I want to let people stay there, and I'll be providing at least 3 of... show more
    My fiance and I have family coming from out of town for the wedding, and we only have a 1 bedroom apartment. To save money, we're renting a large home (10-ish bedrooms) on the beach where we'll host both the wedding and the reception. I want to let people stay there, and I'll be providing at least 3 of the meals, but it's quickly beginning to stretch our budget. Would it be out of line to put in the invitations "A limited number of private suites available on location for $50/night"? If that seems inappropriate, I CAN provide rooms for free, but it might mean I'll have to make cuts in other areas. Note that most of the people coming in are fairly well off and would be getting a hotel room anyways, plus probably a rental car to get to and from the festivities.
    27 answers · 1 week ago
  • Feel left out. My fiancé goes out every night...?

    My fiancé works as a chef and he's been hanging out with all his co workers. They all have a little group in the city everyone who Is in culinary, cooking, pastry etc.. I feel So left out. I'm a finance major and I feel he's changing and most ppl who are into Chef stuff dates ppl In that area of interest. show more
    My fiancé works as a chef and he's been hanging out with all his co workers. They all have a little group in the city everyone who Is in culinary, cooking, pastry etc.. I feel So left out. I'm a finance major and I feel he's changing and most ppl who are into Chef stuff dates ppl In that area of interest.
    10 answers · 5 days ago
  • Is 80 pounds expensive for wedding makeup?

    Best answer: It's not that expensive considering the prices others charge. Make sure that this person or company has a valid license and I would suggest asking for references from previous clients. Don't rely on pictures that they show you since it's pretty easy to use pictures of people that they didn't... show more
    Best answer: It's not that expensive considering the prices others charge. Make sure that this person or company has a valid license and I would suggest asking for references from previous clients. Don't rely on pictures that they show you since it's pretty easy to use pictures of people that they didn't necessarily do the make-up on. Anywhere from 80 to 100 pounds would be the range of prices. While I wouldn't pay that kind of money for my make-up, this range of prices is the norm. I would rather go and purchase the make-up items that I need and do it myself. This way, you can spread out the cost of the items over a few months and not blow your budget in one shopping spree. Good luck with the wedding! I'm sure you'll look lovely.
    9 answers · 5 days ago