• Just needing some outside advise...?

    I'm 22, married and have a 2 year old... My dream my whole life was to travel a few places I've always wanted to see and go to college and be an artist or join law enforcement, enjoy life a bit while I was at it. But then I met my husband and everything happened so quickly... We got pregnant, he doesn't... show more
    I'm 22, married and have a 2 year old... My dream my whole life was to travel a few places I've always wanted to see and go to college and be an artist or join law enforcement, enjoy life a bit while I was at it. But then I met my husband and everything happened so quickly... We got pregnant, he doesn't want me to work (because he doesn't want me to deal with that kind of stress per his words) every time I applied or even mention applying for college he told me to wait, he doesn't want me to do law enforcement because he doesn't believe I could handle it due to my personality ( I believe there is good in people if you give them the chance, he believes EVERYONE is...well...on drugs or stupid) but I just feel like I want to do more with my life than be a stay at home mom and do the same thing every day till I die... Is that selfish? Is it too late? And yes I know that having a child and getting married young was my decision and you reap what you sow... (Also things happened in that order) I just want to know others thoughts on what I'm feeling, and just to clarify I will never consider leaving my child and husband on their own just to make myself happy.
    21 answers · 1 day ago
  • Do men in their early 60's cheat?

    Concerned wife who believes my husband is always staring at another woman he's known and have to be around for 4 yrs. She's in her 40's. Maybe it nothing but just curious.
    Concerned wife who believes my husband is always staring at another woman he's known and have to be around for 4 yrs. She's in her 40's. Maybe it nothing but just curious.
    25 answers · 2 days ago
  • My wife wants to quit her job and take a year vacation without me?

    My wife has decided she has enough working and has been secretly saving hundreds of thousands of dollars to take a year vacation starting in July. I've always wondered why her income was coming up shorter than usual and she has saved up lots of money to take a year vacation. She said she needs this for her... show more
    My wife has decided she has enough working and has been secretly saving hundreds of thousands of dollars to take a year vacation starting in July. I've always wondered why her income was coming up shorter than usual and she has saved up lots of money to take a year vacation. She said she needs this for her and has been saving this type of money for years and this upsets me. I didn't look into this because I trust and love my wife She said she needs to do this alone and when she gets back it would be a "new her" What should I do about this?
    18 answers · 1 day ago
  • Am I a racist if I refuse to marry a white person. I'm not anti marriage just not to a white person?

    Best answer: No. If you dislike anyone solely based on their skin color, that would be racist. Having a physical appearance preference or cultural preference with regard to whom you date our marry, is just a preference. You didn't say that you don't like white people in general, just that you don't want to marry one. show more
    Best answer: No. If you dislike anyone solely based on their skin color, that would be racist. Having a physical appearance preference or cultural preference with regard to whom you date our marry, is just a preference.

    You didn't say that you don't like white people in general, just that you don't want to marry one.
    21 answers · 2 days ago
  • How to cope with run away wife?

    So, my wife deserted me, and the whole world is crumbling infront of my eyes. Some say i didnt have much of a marriage anyway and that she did me a favor by leaving. Her parents ignore my calls and she randomly answers her phone. She says that she we're still married and she needs time etc Yet she acts like... show more
    So, my wife deserted me, and the whole world is crumbling infront of my eyes. Some say i didnt have much of a marriage anyway and that she did me a favor by leaving. Her parents ignore my calls and she randomly answers her phone. She says that she we're still married and she needs time etc Yet she acts like a spoiled brat on the phone and accusses me of all sorts of things. It seems she is enjoying herself with her cousins and sisters at her parents home; she refuses to see me in person. Her brothers say that they'll talk to her but then just ignore me and never call back. The legal path is painful and miserable; plus i'll have to do everything on my own and its time consuming. She is basicaly acting crazy and in a very immature manner in respect to my feelings and as a person. What should i do ? Is there a way to talk some sense into her ? The only reaction i got from her was when i told her i will walk away and make the divorce procedure extremly time consuming. At that point she shut her phone off and havent heard of her.
    15 answers · 1 day ago
  • Girls, why are you allowed to travel solo but your boyfriend or husband can't?

    I have a friend who I used to travel with so much, but he got married last year and he tells me he can't travel anymore because his wife won't let him. Then I have another friend who's wife jumped on a cruise without checking with him, and she said "I'm going, I don't need to ask... show more
    I have a friend who I used to travel with so much, but he got married last year and he tells me he can't travel anymore because his wife won't let him. Then I have another friend who's wife jumped on a cruise without checking with him, and she said "I'm going, I don't need to ask you" I personally love to travel, and I cannot imagine that getting a wife means I can no longer travel just because she said so
    19 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should i just get a divorce?

    My husband refuses to go to a marriage counselor with me. We have a lot of issues 1. He is very selfish and but his needs and his friends before me 2. Doesnt help out much with our newborn 3. Doesnt want to take me out on dates. If we go on a date i have to plan it and a lot of times pay. (He makes enough to take... show more
    My husband refuses to go to a marriage counselor with me. We have a lot of issues 1. He is very selfish and but his needs and his friends before me 2. Doesnt help out much with our newborn 3. Doesnt want to take me out on dates. If we go on a date i have to plan it and a lot of times pay. (He makes enough to take me on dates ..he used to take me before we got married but rather use his money on $200 shoes, his school, clothes etc) 4. I recently discovered he has a dating profile and refuses to delete in. He says its hard for him to stop going on those sites 5. I dont feel appreciated. I cook, clean, pay majority of bills, take care of the baby and he never says thank u or lends a hand. 6. Never buys gifts for holidays or birthdays but is always expecting a gift on those days 7. When i mention problems he says he will change. Ill ask him what he will do to change and he just says " i dont know" 8. Many times when i bring up issues we are having he says he doesnt want to talk, tries to ignore the problem or is silent for days. It is very hard talking to him and he acts like he cant express himself 9. He never texts me during the day. He used to do that before we got married but if i text him asking hows his day going i may or may not get a reply.
    16 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is this cheating?

    My husband has gone alone to strip clubs on many occasions and got private lap dances! I just found out. I feel hurt and not good enough! I feel like this is acceptable cheating in a mans world! Is this cheating?
    My husband has gone alone to strip clubs on many occasions and got private lap dances! I just found out. I feel hurt and not good enough! I feel like this is acceptable cheating in a mans world! Is this cheating?
    20 answers · 2 days ago
  • My husband is having an affair?

    My husband is having an affair with a married woman. I found out. He said he never stop loving me, he doesn't love that woman, just because she's so good in bed that makes him cannot leave her . He said that woman pleases him anyway he wants in bed while I'm just like a pillow. I checked his phone. he... show more
    My husband is having an affair with a married woman. I found out. He said he never stop loving me, he doesn't love that woman, just because she's so good in bed that makes him cannot leave her . He said that woman pleases him anyway he wants in bed while I'm just like a pillow. I checked his phone. he texts her everyday to chat and begs her to make love with him but she refuses, she said she just want to be friend with him, she wants to stop the affair. Did I do something wrong, what should I do now. Thanks for help.
    34 answers · 4 days ago
  • What should I do if I have a husband who is a mamaboy and won't leave his mom?

    I have been married for 10 years and my husband has not grown up and goes to his mom for everything. He even leaves our home to go and sleep over at his mother's. I have had enough and want to go my separate ways. I've talked with him, argued with him about this issue and he still does not get it.
    I have been married for 10 years and my husband has not grown up and goes to his mom for everything. He even leaves our home to go and sleep over at his mother's. I have had enough and want to go my separate ways. I've talked with him, argued with him about this issue and he still does not get it.
    13 answers · 1 day ago
  • Is it true that married women with kids want their husbands attention, but want them to initiate it?

    Best answer: My husband and I went to couples counseling after having kids. We were able to talk about our needs and how we feel. It helped us communicate and understsnd eachother. My husband and I make more time for eachother and just bring up a possible date time. I write him love notes on the fridge and if kids are occupied... show more
    Best answer: My husband and I went to couples counseling after having kids. We were able to talk about our needs and how we feel. It helped us communicate and understsnd eachother. My husband and I make more time for eachother and just bring up a possible date time. I write him love notes on the fridge and if kids are occupied for 20 minutes or so, we lock eachother in our room. We are still so much in love after 5 years.
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • My ex-wife has refused to let me see my daughter for over a year now and says she only will if I pay the child support she waived.?

    My ex-wife has been refusing to let me see my little girl. When the divorce went through she told the judge she did not want me to pay child support. Now that her husband is cheating on her and wants a divorce she is taking it out on me by claiming she can take me back for child support, which is difficult as I am... show more
    My ex-wife has been refusing to let me see my little girl. When the divorce went through she told the judge she did not want me to pay child support. Now that her husband is cheating on her and wants a divorce she is taking it out on me by claiming she can take me back for child support, which is difficult as I am caring for my grandmother, as well as not letting me see my daughter.
    32 answers · 4 days ago
  • Marriage: Is it because of culture?

    My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other since October - almost 9 months. We are in our mid-twenties. He is African and I am African American. We get along very well and we don’t have many issues. I’ve met his friends and his roommate. He knows my family and even hangs out with my brother. He wants us to... show more
    My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other since October - almost 9 months. We are in our mid-twenties. He is African and I am African American. We get along very well and we don’t have many issues. I’ve met his friends and his roommate. He knows my family and even hangs out with my brother. He wants us to live together and asked me if I would be okay with this. He said that after we move in together then we should get married. Here’s my issue: I have many friends from his country and I’ve met some people from his tribe. Ive been told that dating is not long and that a man normally wouldn’t live with a woman before marriage. It’s just an African thing. Also, I’ve never spoken to any of his siblings or parents. On the contrary, I feel that he hide them from me. He prevents me from having his family on Facebook and Instagram. He doesn’t let me have his friends on my social media. He said he loves me and doesn’t want people in his business but I don’t like how he’s hiding me. He doesn’t post my picture anywhere and doesn’t want me posting his pictures. I just don’t want to move in or marry a man if I don’t know his family.
    10 answers · 8 hours ago
  • Why are wealthy handsome men so unfaithful to their wives???

    Best answer: Because they think or know that money gives them power and they abuse that power by taking what they want, when they want. They assume money will keep a woman with them no matter much he abuses the marriage and other women. Trump is a prime example of a wealthy, abusive adulterer and he looks like a warthog.
    Best answer: Because they think or know that money gives them power and they abuse that power by taking what they want, when they want. They assume money will keep a woman with them no matter much he abuses the marriage and other women. Trump is a prime example of a wealthy, abusive adulterer and he looks like a warthog.
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should I tell my wife that I changed my mind about attending her family reunion?

    My wife's family on her mother's side is having its annual 4th of July family reunion in a couple of weeks. The party is a six hour drive from where we live and lasts 3-4 days. My wife does not go every year. This year my wife wants to go because her mother is not in good health. I am very uncomfortable... show more
    My wife's family on her mother's side is having its annual 4th of July family reunion in a couple of weeks. The party is a six hour drive from where we live and lasts 3-4 days. My wife does not go every year. This year my wife wants to go because her mother is not in good health. I am very uncomfortable around my wife's family-which is much larger than mine- and, I am afraid, I left that discomfort show more than once. It caused some stress in her family and made my wife angry at me. I am not proud of that. I am also uncomfortable because I feel that my life has because I have no control over my life during those visits and I don't like it. I am reconsidering my decision about not attending. My wife said I could stay home if I wanted to, although I might be dealing with that fallout later. When I asked her if her going without me would be hard on her with our four year old twins, she said " well I know that you don't want to be there and that would cause me more stress." She will have some family to help her if needed. I still really don't want to go,and she might not want me to go, but I now feel guilty about not going because I could help her and I want our family time. Plans may have been completed assuming I am not going. I am considering saying nothing and keeping my word that I am not going or telling her that I'd like to go and help her and have our family time and play baby sitter and driver while she goes. What should I do? Thank you for reading!
    15 answers · 3 days ago
  • How to afford a child ?

    I’m 27 with my partner for 5 years and thinking of starting a family in the next 2 years but I’m worried if I can financially afford it. I have a degree but have done low wage jobs and am currently in a support worker type role earning nearly min wage partner similar situation and also supports child from... show more
    I’m 27 with my partner for 5 years and thinking of starting a family in the next 2 years but I’m worried if I can financially afford it. I have a degree but have done low wage jobs and am currently in a support worker type role earning nearly min wage partner similar situation and also supports child from previous marriage so he is financially worse then me. Our housing costs are cheap (council) 1 bed flat and we live in a very cheap area (think Grimsby - grim but cheap) but I’m worried I’d hate to be stuck in poverty with a child forever but it’s unlikely either of us will increase our earnings much. If we moved where there’s better jobs our housing would triple - where we live there’s barely jobs but I have family support. If we were to have a child I’d work 2-3 days per week, partner full time obvs. But it still doesn’t seem enough to even survive. Should I have a child when I’m not financially able too?
    8 answers · 10 hours ago
  • How to get over the guilt of cheating on my wife? Someone one night showed a lot of interest and I miss that. And then it happened.?

    Best answer: What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her. So keep your lips zipped.
    Best answer: What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her. So keep your lips zipped.
    22 answers · 4 days ago