• Should I just lower all my standards for friendships due to constant rejection?

    The more older you get, the harder it is to make friends. The sad thing is that I agree. I thought I would have been better off being patient and waiting for the right friends, but it’s driving me crazy because it’s about to be 3 years and that’s too long. Sometimes I would rather trade my success for friends... show more
    The more older you get, the harder it is to make friends. The sad thing is that I agree. I thought I would have been better off being patient and waiting for the right friends, but it’s driving me crazy because it’s about to be 3 years and that’s too long. Sometimes I would rather trade my success for friends because I’m tired of feeling alone or that I’m in competition with other women (only the ones who were childishly hostile towards me, not all women). I would rather have a group of friends than to be unsuccessful and unhappy. I wasn’t always well liked with a lot of friends growing up. I don’t care if I’m smarter and more successful than some of the teenagers who constantly bullied and shunned me. My only concern is that me feeling unwanted is turning me into an angry and negative person.
    10 answers · 7 hours ago
  • A bartender /friend is starting lies about me to my friends and others. should I confront her?

    she used to be my friend , but recently she has gone around telling people lies about me. I want to confront her. Should I do it in person, or via a text?
    she used to be my friend , but recently she has gone around telling people lies about me. I want to confront her. Should I do it in person, or via a text?
    6 answers · 4 hours ago
  • Person at school keeps trying to be my friend?

    there's this girl at my school who i can tell is trying really hard to be my friend, asking to hang out and stuff, but i just don't really want to... she's not dumb or mean or anything, but she sometimes kind of annoys me and she's rrrreally hard to hold a conversation with. i don't want to hang... show more
    there's this girl at my school who i can tell is trying really hard to be my friend, asking to hang out and stuff, but i just don't really want to... she's not dumb or mean or anything, but she sometimes kind of annoys me and she's rrrreally hard to hold a conversation with. i don't want to hang out with her because i feel like it would be awkward and not enjoyable at all for me, but i don't know how to turn her down without seeming like a jerk when she keeps asking, especially since she doesn't seem to have many friends
    17 answers · 1 day ago
  • What would you do if a friend wanted to use your bank account?

    Best answer: No, no, definitely not. Look buddy there are some things in life that are not for sharing and your bank account is one of them. The reason is everyone can get a bank account and save their own money and try and make something for themselves. I know it's your mate but if his bank account got closed because of... show more
    Best answer: No, no, definitely not. Look buddy there are some things in life that are not for sharing and your bank account is one of them. The reason is everyone can get a bank account and save their own money and try and make something for themselves.
    I know it's your mate but if his bank account got closed because of something stupid he did that's not your problem. He should get his act together and ammend he's own mistake. Good friends don't put friends in awkward positions like this, if you say no which I think you most definitely should say, your friend should accept it, if your friendship ends over that it's his fault and it's not a strong bond. That's the reason why not, civil partnerships and marriage are strong bonds and even then people know its a huge step to take to share an account, only when you become one through marriage or other should your private things like this be considered for sharing.
    21 answers · 3 days ago
  • Do white guys like black women?

    This white asked me to hangout he's someone I met at a grocery store he works there as a cashier.
    This white asked me to hangout he's someone I met at a grocery store he works there as a cashier.
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • My mum is 43 and I am 16. Is she old?

    My best friend whose mum is 4 years younger told me that my mum is old.all of my classmates mum's are in their thirties.please be honest people
    My best friend whose mum is 4 years younger told me that my mum is old.all of my classmates mum's are in their thirties.please be honest people
    8 answers · 3 hours ago
  • Help!!! I like bullying people?

    Best answer: You should keep bullying people, you don't need friends. Just be tough and keep bullying people and everyone will be afraid of you. You are awesome.
    Best answer: You should keep bullying people, you don't need friends. Just be tough and keep bullying people and everyone will be afraid of you. You are awesome.
    61 answers · 6 days ago
  • My best friend has became a COMPLETE WHORE Should I end our friendship!!?

    Ok so one of my best friends from elementary school lets just say totally when in a different direction I was going I'm 23 & shes 24 I've had my medical job for two years now have my own savings , car & no kids but she hasn't had a job since we graduated high school in 2012 & that was... show more
    Ok so one of my best friends from elementary school lets just say totally when in a different direction I was going I'm 23 & shes 24 I've had my medical job for two years now have my own savings , car & no kids but she hasn't had a job since we graduated high school in 2012 & that was McDonald's the only thing she's been doing for the past 5 years is live with her boyfriend who she didn't even want to marry but she accepted the engagement and still went along with it made him make they're account a joint account so she could use his money (even tho he's only a truck driver) so basically all she's done is live off a guy & sat at home all day just playing on social media anyways they recently had a baby but since the baby came he started making her do everything & controlling then one day she gets sick of it & leaves her "fiancé " to be with her old ex from high school who use to cheat on her & disrespect her and her baby daddy and her ex use to be friends and now she lives with the guy am I wrong for not respecting her as a woman anymore ? It's like she hopped from one guys house to another It's like she can't survive without a man what should I do In this situation I'd hate to cut her off but I'm so disappointed in her high school like decisions & mindset & both of her bfs are broke as a joke and dropped out of high school it's not like she's even picking guys with real money they barely make over minimum wage
    25 answers · 5 days ago
  • Why does my best friend come online on whatsapp and ignore my message?

    I can see her last seen. She will come online reply to everyone elses message but mine. Then 4 hours later she replies. Is this rude or am I being paranoid as it is starting to annoy me?
    I can see her last seen. She will come online reply to everyone elses message but mine. Then 4 hours later she replies. Is this rude or am I being paranoid as it is starting to annoy me?
    7 answers · 16 hours ago
  • A female friend/work colleague asked me to help her move some furniture down her stairs after work. i feel so used?

    Best answer: you move a lamp, that's a handjob, you move a desk, ********. you move a bed, she supposed to sleep with you, stupid chick doesn't know the rules, I'd call the cops on her
    Best answer: you move a lamp, that's a handjob, you move a desk, ********. you move a bed, she supposed to sleep with you, stupid chick doesn't know the rules, I'd call the cops on her
    7 answers · 16 hours ago
  • I’m being stalked online?! What do I do?

    So there’s this kid who is 3 years younger then me and he stalks me!!!!! Every time I block him he makes a new account or phone number to spam me till I unblock him and he won’t stop and when I unblock he will keep trying to talk to me and I’m so tired of it. He also forces me to add him on Snapchat and Instagram... show more
    So there’s this kid who is 3 years younger then me and he stalks me!!!!! Every time I block him he makes a new account or phone number to spam me till I unblock him and he won’t stop and when I unblock he will keep trying to talk to me and I’m so tired of it. He also forces me to add him on Snapchat and Instagram or he’ll keep spamming till he gets his way. And keep making new accounts. He also goes to my school. He won’t leave me alone and if I don’t answer he’ll insult me and call me swear words
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • Should I tell someone I feel depressed, have sucidal thoughts sometimes, and struggle with anxiety?

    I'm having a hard time getting up in the morning when I used to go for workouts at 6am. I feel like I just want to sleep. I have been hurt by people in the past year which I believe led to this. I don't let anyone inside and like to portray everything is perfect but know one person (my landlord) I can talk... show more
    I'm having a hard time getting up in the morning when I used to go for workouts at 6am. I feel like I just want to sleep. I have been hurt by people in the past year which I believe led to this. I don't let anyone inside and like to portray everything is perfect but know one person (my landlord) I can talk to if I need. I'm getting tired of faking my happiness, while im doing things I used to enjoy I now question how I used to enjoy it. Should I try talking to her again? : I would want the conversation to be confidential and between only us. I dont want others to find out because im embarrassed. I'm 24 years old at university wanting to become a dentist which has been my dream job. I sometimes question now if its even worth it. Is it fair if I ask the person to keep it private?
    6 answers · 7 hours ago
  • How do I tell a lifelong friend I don't want to hangout anymore?

    So Me and my friend since 1st grade are now 18 and are seniors in high school. We have been best friends for basically our whole lives but when we were about to leave middle school he choose to go to a private high school instead. For freshman and Sophomore year we played on the same rec soccer team to stay close... show more
    So Me and my friend since 1st grade are now 18 and are seniors in high school. We have been best friends for basically our whole lives but when we were about to leave middle school he choose to go to a private high school instead. For freshman and Sophomore year we played on the same rec soccer team to stay close but I quit after that. We still hung out over junior year. However now a days we have different groups of friends and I can't stand his friends and he can't stand mine. He still begs me to chill every weekend but I just don't want to. We aren't as close as we used to be. How do I tell him I don't want to hangout anymore. It should be easy but it's not, this still the same guy who told me he wanted me to be the best man at his wedding. Thanks in advance
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • How to get my friend to stop stealing from me?

    I met this girl at work and she seems like the biggest drama queen. She’s always complaining and running her mouth about her family anyone that you could think of. She’s the type of person who acts like only they have problems. And my dumb *** just listens and feels sorry for her. We live next to each other so I... show more
    I met this girl at work and she seems like the biggest drama queen. She’s always complaining and running her mouth about her family anyone that you could think of. She’s the type of person who acts like only they have problems. And my dumb *** just listens and feels sorry for her. We live next to each other so I been giving her rides to our job but it’s like whenever I take her anywhere it’s like I always have money missing but this girl is so fake and such a sneaky liar that she would be ready to cry if you excused her..please how to stop getting robbed? I’m tried of her complaining about being broke but thinking that she could just steal all my money too so I have nothing too
    65 answers · 1 week ago
  • Made fun of because i need coloured pens to learn?

    I don’t know why, black pens, blue pens and red pens don’t work. At school, i guess we aren’t allowed to use red pen and that was the only pen i had AND out of the three, helps me learn best. Don’t ask me why, my brain functions better when there’s ‘colour.’ My teacher came over to help me and the class was dead... show more
    I don’t know why, black pens, blue pens and red pens don’t work. At school, i guess we aren’t allowed to use red pen and that was the only pen i had AND out of the three, helps me learn best. Don’t ask me why, my brain functions better when there’s ‘colour.’ My teacher came over to help me and the class was dead silent and he asked out loud “Why are you writing in red pen?” and i said “because it helps me learn” in a quiet tone and he said out loud “it helps you to learn? what’s wrong with blue and black pen” and i didn’t know what to say and my classmates chimed in and kept saying “are you too dumb to use black and blue pen” “nah she just thinks she’s better” “are you dyslexic” “she’s dumb that’s why” and i just felt awkward and a little bit upset. Am i in the wrong?
    5 answers · 4 hours ago
  • What are some excuses to leave a sleepover?

    So, I’m currently at my friends house, meaning to sleepover. But, the thing is, her bed is very uncomfortable and I have to get up early. And, I’m homesick. We had a sleepover at my house yesterday, and she wanted to have a double sleepover. I said yes, but I regret it. I have an ESA (emotional support... show more
    So, I’m currently at my friends house, meaning to sleepover. But, the thing is, her bed is very uncomfortable and I have to get up early. And, I’m homesick. We had a sleepover at my house yesterday, and she wanted to have a double sleepover. I said yes, but I regret it. I have an ESA (emotional support animal) And I, of course, couldn’t bring her and I really miss her. I want to leave, but I don’t have any excuses. I texted my mom and she said that if I didn’t feel better later, she would come up with some excuse, but I can’t think of any. Any idea?
    9 answers · 3 days ago
  • I’ve lost myself?

    Best answer: I WAS IN THE EXACT SAME SITUATION WHEN I WAS 16! So weird to read this! It's so similar to my situation! Anyway, 1) you are not alone, 2) please don't force yourself to try to be funny and interesting against your instinct. I tried it and ended up saying and doing incredibly humiliating things. Now, since... show more
    Best answer: I WAS IN THE EXACT SAME SITUATION WHEN I WAS 16! So weird to read this! It's so similar to my situation! Anyway, 1) you are not alone, 2) please don't force yourself to try to be funny and interesting against your instinct. I tried it and ended up saying and doing incredibly humiliating things. Now, since our situations are so similar, I'll tell you some things I found out about myself, that may be true for you too, that can make you feel better. The reason you went quiet is probably BC you're new and you don't want to attract all the attention to yourself (bc fun-you is loud), or you think you're kind of weird (in a fun way) but people may make fun of you for that so you stay subdued instead of being your loud, fun self. It could also be the case that the last school you went to had a really nice atmosphere, and when the atmosphere is cool and fun by itself, you have no trouble being and having fun, but when the atmosphere is way different (not necessarily in general but just for yourself) you can't get yourself to make the mood any better. You could also just be someone who needs some very specific friends so bring out the best in you. everyone's different depending on who you're with, there exist so many versions of ourselves! When I'm with friends I'm really fun and cool and when I'm with people i don't know I'm boring and timid, and i would really like to change that but at least i know cool me is always somewhere in there. Please don't think this is the way you will be for the rest of your life, and please don't constantly compare yourself to the best version of yourself. I know some people seem like they're always interesting and cool, but they are probably extroverts, and probably very confident people. If I may take a guess i think you might be a pretty shy person deep inside, maybe try taking a course for confidence? And please don't over think everything you say or do, it will only make you more timid. Instead of thinking "how can I be more interesting" try thinking "how can I have more fun?"and please don't let this take over your life, you will only lose some crucial years until you grow up and find out al that worrying was pointless. I really hope this helped
    8 answers · 5 days ago