I WAS IN THE EXACT SAME SITUATION WHEN I WAS 16! So weird to read this! It's so similar to my situation! Anyway, 1) you are not alone, 2) please don't force yourself to try to be funny and interesting against your instinct. I tried it and ended up saying and doing incredibly humiliating things. Now, since...
Best answer: I WAS IN THE EXACT SAME SITUATION WHEN I WAS 16! So weird to read this! It's so similar to my situation! Anyway, 1) you are not alone, 2) please don't force yourself to try to be funny and interesting against your instinct. I tried it and ended up saying and doing incredibly humiliating things. Now, since our situations are so similar, I'll tell you some things I found out about myself, that may be true for you too, that can make you feel better. The reason you went quiet is probably BC you're new and you don't want to attract all the attention to yourself (bc fun-you is loud), or you think you're kind of weird (in a fun way) but people may make fun of you for that so you stay subdued instead of being your loud, fun self. It could also be the case that the last school you went to had a really nice atmosphere, and when the atmosphere is cool and fun by itself, you have no trouble being and having fun, but when the atmosphere is way different (not necessarily in general but just for yourself) you can't get yourself to make the mood any better. You could also just be someone who needs some very specific friends so bring out the best in you. everyone's different depending on who you're with, there exist so many versions of ourselves! When I'm with friends I'm really fun and cool and when I'm with people i don't know I'm boring and timid, and i would really like to change that but at least i know cool me is always somewhere in there. Please don't think this is the way you will be for the rest of your life, and please don't constantly compare yourself to the best version of yourself. I know some people seem like they're always interesting and cool, but they are probably extroverts, and probably very confident people. If I may take a guess i think you might be a pretty shy person deep inside, maybe try taking a course for confidence? And please don't over think everything you say or do, it will only make you more timid. Instead of thinking "how can I be more interesting" try thinking "how can I have more fun?"and please don't let this take over your life, you will only lose some crucial years until you grow up and find out al that worrying was pointless. I really hope this helped
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