• Should I leave my boyfriend because months ago he undressed me when I was asleep and sick?

    Months ago I posted a question in which I described the whole situation and most of the answers justified his behaviour claiming that he did the right thing. I had high fever (39°), and he was sleeping at my house for the first time because my parents were abroad. I was alone at home and had fever. The first day... show more
    Months ago I posted a question in which I described the whole situation and most of the answers justified his behaviour claiming that he did the right thing. I had high fever (39°), and he was sleeping at my house for the first time because my parents were abroad. I was alone at home and had fever. The first day that I was sick he stood by me, gave me medicines and cooked for me. The second day the temperature raised and I really really sick, and I woke up in the middle of the night shivering, naked (without the upper part of the pj, the undershirt and bra) and when I asked him why, almost crying, he said: because you were sick and your clothes were wet and I had to. He gave me dry clothes and something to lower the temperature. He turned off the light and I felt so ashamed and angry at him and at myself because he had seen me naked. He had never seen me naked before, it was humiliating. I'm also hurting because I think that I'm mean for thinking bad about him, because he did it for good, but I don't know, it's like he isn't the perfect guy I had always thought of, I was really in love with him, but I dare you to find yourself suddenly naked and not to be angry or resent him. I always thought he was perfect but after all these months I still have nightmares about that night.
    51 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 days ago
  • Your opinion on a woman who only dates black guys?

    Best answer: I don't know why but I usually think of them as sl*tty or big ego.
    Best answer: I don't know why but I usually think of them as sl*tty or big ego.
    31 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • Is there hope for this relationship?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for about four months. He pressured me into moving in with him after 8 weeks. At first, I told him it was too soon but then I gave in and moved in with him because he kept pressuring me. Since then, we've had a lot of problems. I pay him rent, I buy groceries...I cook, he... show more
    My boyfriend and I have been together for about four months. He pressured me into moving in with him after 8 weeks. At first, I told him it was too soon but then I gave in and moved in with him because he kept pressuring me. Since then, we've had a lot of problems. I pay him rent, I buy groceries...I cook, he drives my car. I do everything for him that he complains his exes never did. He picks fights with me almost every day over petty things. Then we argue and he tries to manipulate me and blame me for everything. I called out of work last week because I was too upset to go to work after arguing with him. I am seeing so many red flags with him...he's an alcoholic and he's in massive debt. He lies to me about everything and if I confront him, we get into terrible fights and he never takes responsibility for anything he does. I really can't talk to him about anything because he's super sensitive and he acts like a child. We never go out on dates anymore...I feel like I'm living a nightmare and I have nowhere else to go. We fought yesterday because he suggested that I put his Disney pass on my credit card, because he can't afford it, then he blew up on me. He said, "I'm not feeling good about our relationship. I'll leave it up to you if you want to end it". Then I said that I would leave if he wanted me to and he said, "I don't want you to leave. I just don't know how to fix this". I am so stressed out and unsure of what to do, or if this can be fixed.
    20 answers · Singles & Dating · 18 hours ago
  • My parents don t want to cope with me anymore?

    I m 19 years old, and for as long as I can remember, I ve had all sorts of anxieties and depression from a young age. Long story short, the other week, after my mum got married to her new husband, she had a go at me for crying when I dropped my phone on my toe. I thought crying when you ve hurt yourself is a... show more
    I m 19 years old, and for as long as I can remember, I ve had all sorts of anxieties and depression from a young age. Long story short, the other week, after my mum got married to her new husband, she had a go at me for crying when I dropped my phone on my toe. I thought crying when you ve hurt yourself is a completely normal reaction, but then it continued with her telling me I need to get help and that she s fed up with it. I really don t get how it s gone from hurting my toe, to I need therapy... Whenever I try to talk to her about my personal problems, it always ends up in shouting and arguing. She will now cut me off straight away when I try to open up. She s the only person who has been with me my whole life, and now she doesn t want anything to do with me. This has really affected me badly. And even though I feel I m better, these situations drag me back down again. I don t know what to do anymore. I can t move out, I ve got no one to stay with, I can t even talk to my own parent anymore... I couldn t get any advice online so I ve come here. I m sorry if none of this makes sense, and that it s really long, I m just all over the place about this and need someone to give me advice or their opinions.
    32 answers · Family · 3 days ago
  • Is it bad to have 2 boyfriends?

    I can’t believe this is happening when before I was crying about being single but now it looks like I’m about to have not 1 but 2 dudes in my life. This guy that used to work at my job really likes me he lives next to me and wants to ask me out and try’s his hardest to get with me. The other day he came knocking on... show more
    I can’t believe this is happening when before I was crying about being single but now it looks like I’m about to have not 1 but 2 dudes in my life. This guy that used to work at my job really likes me he lives next to me and wants to ask me out and try’s his hardest to get with me. The other day he came knocking on my door but ran.. there’s this new guy at my job and he’s already flirting with me he’s always smiling at me there just no telling when he’s gonna go in for the kill..and i gotta say he’s really cute.. to be honest I’m not gonna say no to neither one..I think it’s fun 2 have 2 boyfriends I just can’t believe this is happening I’m so happy overal is this bad?
    34 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 days ago
  • Which girl do you think is better looking?

    Which girl do you think is better looking?

    Best answer: left
    Best answer: left
    5 answers · Other - Family & Relationships · 7 hours ago
  • What to get 9 year old brother?

    It's my brothers birthday soon and i dont know what to get him. He has plenty of toys and games so doesnt really need any more. I dont live with him or see him much so i dont really know what hes into except video games but im not getting him one of them. he says hed rather have a gift than a day out... any ideas?
    It's my brothers birthday soon and i dont know what to get him. He has plenty of toys and games so doesnt really need any more. I dont live with him or see him much so i dont really know what hes into except video games but im not getting him one of them. he says hed rather have a gift than a day out... any ideas?
    17 answers · Family · 22 hours ago
  • How do I make my mother understand that not everyone is cut out for a job?

    Hi I'm 27 and my mother wants me to get a job so I can move out. The problem is, I don't think I'm quite cut out for a job. I'm still a virgin and I think that I should get laid before I get a job and move out so that way I have someone to buy a home with, but most girls don't like me for some... show more
    Hi I'm 27 and my mother wants me to get a job so I can move out. The problem is, I don't think I'm quite cut out for a job. I'm still a virgin and I think that I should get laid before I get a job and move out so that way I have someone to buy a home with, but most girls don't like me for some reason. I'm horny all the time and I don't wanna take away my time from pleasing myself because it's kind of a burden. I can't even go to the grocery store without having to wear baggy pants because I'm hard all the time. She also recently found my hentai collection and threw it all away and I was super pissed because I worked hard on drawing it. I also don't wanna take away from my gaming time because I have a passion for Fortnite. My mother also said I need to go on a diet and even signed me up for a gym membership. I only went to the gym once and it was super lame so I never went again. I don't have many friends so I do get kind of lonely but I MAINLY wanna get laid so I can feel accomplished in life, y'know? But the main thing my mom wants me to do is get a job. She called me pathetic and told me to get my lazy *** out the door. My dad left me when I was 5 so I can't contact him. I miss him sometimes. I was so young and innocent and he left me and it messed me up and for my mom to have the audacity to wanna push me out. I think my mom needs a dude around not in a sexual or weird sense because my mom is pretty ugly but just because my dad left.
    15 answers · Family · 15 hours ago
  • My boyfriend won’t be intimate with me, and I don’t know how to fix it.?

    I don’t mean just sexually, although that is a major part of it (if I never initiated, we’d probably have sex less than every other month). I mean, he’s gotten super non-affectionate or romantic, and I feel more like I’m just a friend of his who he happens to sleep in the same bed with. I understand that he hurts... show more
    I don’t mean just sexually, although that is a major part of it (if I never initiated, we’d probably have sex less than every other month). I mean, he’s gotten super non-affectionate or romantic, and I feel more like I’m just a friend of his who he happens to sleep in the same bed with. I understand that he hurts constantly, and is tired from work (he is a technician), but I just want HIM to cuddle with ME sometimes. Or to hold MY hand. I’m always the one who has to ask to cuddle, or take his hand. I know it sounds like he is just not interested in me anymore, but I am sure it’s not that. And I’ve brought up a conversation about it a few different times, but he always just ends up convinced he’s a jerk and doesn’t oay attention to my needs, even though that’s all he tries to do constantly. He always makes me choose whatever I want to do, and he tried to do what he thinks will make me happy. But anyways, how to I try to fix this? Or at least, how can I try communicating with him in a way that he doesn’t feel bad? (Even though that’s all I try to do. Each time I’ve brought it up I’ve tried phrasing things differently, etc, so he recieves it better, but he always ends up thinking he’s the a**hole.)
    14 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • Is divorce the worst thing a parent can do to a child?

    Best answer: IF YOUR parents divorce, it can seem like the end of the world, a catastrophe that generates enough misery to last forever. It often triggers a wave of shame, anger, anxiety, fear of abandonment, guilt, depression, and profound loss—even a desire for revenge. Whatever the case, the fact that your parents may have... show more
    Best answer: IF YOUR parents divorce, it can seem like the end of the world, a catastrophe that generates enough misery to last forever. It often triggers a wave of shame, anger, anxiety, fear of abandonment, guilt, depression, and profound loss—even a desire for revenge.
    Whatever the case, the fact that your parents may have chosen to be silent or to give you only vague answers to your questions regarding the divorce does not mean they do not love you. Wrapped up in their own hurt, your parents may simply find it hard to talk about the divorce. They may also find it awkward and embarrassing to admit to their mutual failures.
    • Identify your fears. Because divorce can turn your world upside down, you may find yourself worrying about things that you formerly took for granted. Even so, you may be able to shrink your fears to a manageable size by first identifying what they are.
    ● Resist false expectations. Your first instinct might be to try to get your parents back together. Recalls Anne: “After they separated, my parents would still take us out together sometimes. My sister and I would whisper to each other, ‘Let’s run ahead and leave those two together.’ But I guess it didn’t work. They never did get back together.”
    Proverbs 13:12 says: “Expectation postponed is making the heart sick.” To avoid becoming unduly distressed yourself, remember that you cannot control what your parents do. You didn’t cause their separation, and in all likelihood you cannot step in and patch up their marriage either.
    ● Avoid hatred. Harboring anger and hatred toward one or both of your parents can cause you long-term damage. Tom recalls his feelings at age 12: “I started to feel real anger toward my dad. I don’t like to use the word ‘hatred,’ but I had a terrible grudge. I couldn’t see how he could care about us if he left us.”
    Separation, though, is rarely as simple as one parent being all good and the other being all bad. The fact is, your parents probably haven’t told you everything about their marriage or its breakup; they may not even understand it themselves. So avoid judging a situation when you don’t have the whole picture. Granted, anger is hard to resist, and it’s quite natural for you to feel deeply upset for a time. But nursing an angry and vengeful spirit can gradually poison your personality. For good reason the Bible tells us: “Let anger alone and leave rage.”—Psalm 37:8.
    20 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 3 days ago
  • Can't afford my friends birthday, what do I say?

    Friend A has a birthday in a week, and a close friend of her (lets call her friend B) asked me if I could celebrate her birthday with a few other friends. Friend B told me to bring the present I bought (I didn't buy a present.. I didn't even think about buying one for her. We aren't really close and... show more
    Friend A has a birthday in a week, and a close friend of her (lets call her friend B) asked me if I could celebrate her birthday with a few other friends. Friend B told me to bring the present I bought (I didn't buy a present.. I didn't even think about buying one for her. We aren't really close and she didn't do anything for my birthday) and meet up at the mall. She said that we will go the the cinema then bowling, and later on go to a restaurant and eat cake. She also added that she will buy balloons and snacks and that we will pay her back later. Now the problem is that I don't have enough money to buy a present, to go the movies, go bowling AND to eat at a restaurant. Don't forget the balloons and snacks. Plus, Friend A sent me a list of things she wants for her birthday and told me to buy her one of the things on the list. ??? We aren't even close friends? I don't even want to spend money on her birthday! Friend A didn't do anything for me.. I have no problem about buying a small gift and mabye eat out or go to the movies. But what she wants to do is wayy too much. I feel bad about not coming at all, it's still her birthday. What do I say?
    14 answers · Friends · 18 hours ago
  • Is my husband's ex wife going to ruin my marriage?

    Best answer: "I texted her scolding her for refusing to state who their newest primary care physician..." Well, she sounds awful and immature, but this stuff isn't helping. Your husband is the one who should be communicating with her, especially when it's about a problem. Ideally, this wouldn't be... show more
    Best answer: "I texted her scolding her for refusing to state who their newest primary care physician..."

    Well, she sounds awful and immature, but this stuff isn't helping. Your husband is the one who should be communicating with her, especially when it's about a problem. Ideally, this wouldn't be handled by text, either. That's not a good way to communicate about a serious issue concerning a child.

    Also, you didn't say how old your stepson is, but you need to be careful about instilling discipline, especially involving a spanking or whatever. He's already confused and hurt about the changes in his life and if he deserves a spanking, his dad should be the one to give it. This is one of the most basic blended family rules of all.

    You need to get your husband to understand that life will be better for EVERYONE involved here if he can try to stay on the best possible terms with his ex. This might mean apologizing for a couple things you did that weren't helpful. Everything always boils down to communication.
    21 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 3 days ago
  • My wife slept with a young guy??????

    Soo my wife is 36 years old, and we have 2 beautiful kids. But recently I just found out my wife cheated on me with a 23 year old guy from work. Like why would she sleep with a 23 year old????????? Why?????????
    Soo my wife is 36 years old, and we have 2 beautiful kids. But recently I just found out my wife cheated on me with a 23 year old guy from work. Like why would she sleep with a 23 year old????????? Why?????????
    20 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • My mum wants me to cancel my holiday to New York due to her shoulder replacement operation. Should I?

    My mum's shoulder replacement operation is on 14th September. I've saved up for years to go to New York City and I finally got enough money for a 3 week holiday. However, the day I leave also falls on the day of my mum's shoulder replacement op. Because of this, she wants me to cancel my... show more
    My mum's shoulder replacement operation is on 14th September. I've saved up for years to go to New York City and I finally got enough money for a 3 week holiday. However, the day I leave also falls on the day of my mum's shoulder replacement op. Because of this, she wants me to cancel my once-in-a-lifetime trip to New York to look after her while her shoulder heals. This is a once-in-a-lifetime trip for me. If I don't go, I probably won't ever be able to go in the future. I've asked her if she wants other people to look after her when she's gone. However, she doesn't want anyone to look after her besides myself. While her shoulder heals, she can't pick up anything that is heavier than a glass of water. What should I do? Should I cancel the trip to look after her? Or should I go? If I go, she'll never forgive me.
    20 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • I'm 33 and a man and have still never had sex and I feel like I've totally missed out and am quickly losing my chance?

    Even though I've never had it I'm sure it is lifes greatest pleasure than one can experience. I'm not a virgin because I'm ugly either. In fact I'm somewhat the opposite. I've just lived as such a recluse for so long due to debilitating social anxiety. I also have little confidence. I... show more
    Even though I've never had it I'm sure it is lifes greatest pleasure than one can experience. I'm not a virgin because I'm ugly either. In fact I'm somewhat the opposite. I've just lived as such a recluse for so long due to debilitating social anxiety. I also have little confidence. I was also waiting for marriage for several years which I now know many regret. Plus I was religious for a long time and I'm not now. I can NEVER get my younger years back now and I feel I've missed out completely on the ultimate pleasure.
    43 answers · Singles & Dating · 5 days ago
  • How do I get ex husband to forgive me so we can be friends?

    I left him and our children over 30 years ago. I was addicted to drugs alchohol and cheating.Our daughters forgave me. I am not that person anymore. He did well for himself and has a wonderful wife. He runs away like I am a ghost whenever he sees me and still trashes me.
    I left him and our children over 30 years ago. I was addicted to drugs alchohol and cheating.Our daughters forgave me. I am not that person anymore. He did well for himself and has a wonderful wife. He runs away like I am a ghost whenever he sees me and still trashes me.
    27 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 3 days ago
  • Sex and religion. I think I was judged?

    Best answer: To a lot of Jewish guys, gentile girls are a little exotic. Even today, most cannot or will not marry outside of their religion. Still some very strong cultural and family feelings on this issue. But I'm sure he enjoyed getting laid. Other faiths are like this, too, although they don't generally take it... show more
    Best answer: To a lot of Jewish guys, gentile girls are a little exotic. Even today, most cannot or will not marry outside of their religion. Still some very strong cultural and family feelings on this issue. But I'm sure he enjoyed getting laid.

    Other faiths are like this, too, although they don't generally take it as far as having sex. A Mormon or a Muslim will 'date' a gentile, but at the first sign that it is getting anywhere close to 'intimate', they run for the hills.

    Believe it or not, faith is still VERY important to a lot of people.
    17 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago