• Do you like your parents?

    93 answers · 3 days ago
  • My Dad wants to know how much I saved up. Is it any of his business?

    I just separated from the Air Force. I'm back home until I can find a job and start working again. My dad has had his job for 30 years and thinks I should be filling out applications door to door and looking in the paper at the want ads. He totally doesn't get that everything is by computer now. Even... show more
    I just separated from the Air Force. I'm back home until I can find a job and start working again. My dad has had his job for 30 years and thinks I should be filling out applications door to door and looking in the paper at the want ads. He totally doesn't get that everything is by computer now. Even though in a week, I've scored three job interviews. First two are tomorrow. Another thing is he keeps wanting to know how much I saved up in four years with the AIr Force. His advice was to add up what I would spend on rent, and food, and since those were free in the Air Force, to bank the rest. Well that would have left me with like $12, and I needed a car, and haircuts, and insurance, and a phone, and deodorant, and razors, and shaving cream. I was able to save quite a bit. But I'm sure he won't think it is enough. I am living with my parents now until I can get a job and a few paychecks. But Dad is treating me like I'm 16 all over again. How do I tell him to back off?
    24 answers · 1 day ago
  • Why do people even want children?

    Best answer: To pass on the existence of the species

    ~Aizen
    Best answer: To pass on the existence of the species

    ~Aizen
    22 answers · 11 hours ago
  • Does my brother think he's going to die?

    My brother is 24 and in August entered the USN. He is set to shove off on his first mission at sea for nine months later this week. It is a routine training exercise he claims. Friday he called me and said he had a will drafted and named me as the executrices and was sending me a copy. He said he was not sick and... show more
    My brother is 24 and in August entered the USN. He is set to shove off on his first mission at sea for nine months later this week. It is a routine training exercise he claims. Friday he called me and said he had a will drafted and named me as the executrices and was sending me a copy. He said he was not sick and had no foreboding about his mission but that no one has the promise of another sunrise. Then on Sunday I found he purchased a plot in the churchyard cemetery. Today I got a copy of the will. It leaves the bulk of his assets to his fiancée. The thing is it assumes he will die before he is married which is scheduled for Feb. as soon as he returns. His job has something to do with data gathering and encryption. He can't speak much about his job. He jokes that he could tell us but he'd have to kill us. Now I'm thinking he knows more than he's letting on and this mission isn't as safe and routine as he is claiming. I've been known to borrow trouble, but how many 23 yos are having wills drawn up and buying grave plots? DO I have a right to be worried.
    8 answers · 4 hours ago
  • Is it wrong for me not to wear a bra at home?

    I am a young adult that lives with my mother and stepfather.I cannot move out right now and I won't, at least not until I transfer into a university after college. I almost never talk/communicate with my stepfather. Whenever he comes home from work (or on his days off when he is home) I remain closed up in my... show more
    I am a young adult that lives with my mother and stepfather.I cannot move out right now and I won't, at least not until I transfer into a university after college. I almost never talk/communicate with my stepfather. Whenever he comes home from work (or on his days off when he is home) I remain closed up in my room in my bra-less pajamas. Whenever I go to the kitchen or need to be around him (stepdad) I usually wear a fuzzy sweater that completely covers my boobs, but oftentimes, it's waaay too hot to wear the fuzzy sweater, so I tie it around me like an apron to cover my chest (or I just wrap it around me). I do this every single time I leave my room so long as he is there. My stepdad and I have had a past that I don't want to bring up, and while all of that is in the past, I still don't trust him and I always keep a respectable distance. So, unlike a real father, who wouldn't care about whether his daughter was bra-less or not, my step father is a different kind of individual. In other words, I always need to wear a bra or cover myself, and I can't wear revealing outfits around this person because it makes me uncomfortable. But recently, my mom came up to me and told me that the whole fuzzy sweater thing was weird, and it made it look obvious that I was hiding something. Obviously it's just her opinion, but then she tells me that if she were in my position, she'd just wear a bra all the time and be respectable that way. (to be continued)
    15 answers · 1 day ago
  • Can I come back or did I burn that bridge when I left?

    I aged out of the foster care system. The last family I was with treated me very, very well. They treated me so well I forgot what every foster kid needs to never forget. I wasn't their kid. I had thought that there would be no problem staying with them when I aged out. I'd get a job and go to college,... show more
    I aged out of the foster care system. The last family I was with treated me very, very well. They treated me so well I forgot what every foster kid needs to never forget. I wasn't their kid. I had thought that there would be no problem staying with them when I aged out. I'd get a job and go to college, and it would be great. As the time for me to make plans was approaching, the way they were talking left no doubt staying with them was not an option. I aged out my last day of high school, and then I'd be on my own. So I entered the military. I did basic training the summer between my junior and senior year of hs so I could hit the ground running as soon as high school was over. My last day of high school was on a Wed. The next day I was being delivered by my foster father to MEPS to head out to A-School. It felt like he was delivering me to serve a four year sentence in a maximum security prison. I didn't help I would be missing graduation and all my friends' graduation parties. When I got out my foster father said probably the exact wrong thing to say at that moment. He told me that he loved me as if he was his own son. That infuriated me. SO instead of saying, "Thanks for all you've done, Mr. B. I'll see ya when I see ya." and left it at that, I instead said, "Really? So you're going to turn Parker and Jonathan out the day before their graduation to fend for themselves?" He tried to say something, but I just grabbed my duffel bag and left.
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • I caught my 13 year old daughter masturbating, what should I do?

    Just a day ago, I walked into my daughter's room and found her rubbing herself to porn. I've never had this experience with any of my other children, so I'm not sure what to do. She saw me too, and got all embarrassed. She hasn't talked to me since. What should I do?
    Just a day ago, I walked into my daughter's room and found her rubbing herself to porn. I've never had this experience with any of my other children, so I'm not sure what to do. She saw me too, and got all embarrassed. She hasn't talked to me since. What should I do?
    83 answers · 5 days ago
  • I do not have a Dad and so should I search for my birthfather or will he just hurt me again?

    He left my mother for another woman when I was two. I never saw him again. It hurts to see photos of him and know I have no memory of him. He looked so much like me also. I am 22 now and afraid if I search for him will he just hurt me again as he obviously does not love me. Or do I try to get him to love me? I am... show more
    He left my mother for another woman when I was two. I never saw him again. It hurts to see photos of him and know I have no memory of him. He looked so much like me also. I am 22 now and afraid if I search for him will he just hurt me again as he obviously does not love me. Or do I try to get him to love me? I am a guy and the only family I had was my Mom, aunt, and my grandmother. Never known a male person who is related to me other then some distant relatives I'd see once every other year and at funerals.
    11 answers · 6 hours ago
  • Do you get along with your family?

    Best answer: some of it, a lot of my family members ignore me, not sure why
    Best answer: some of it, a lot of my family members ignore me, not sure why
    89 answers · 5 days ago
  • My parents are forcing me to get a job RIGHT after school ends?

    Okay, so my dad basically got me a camp counselor job at a tennis camp for 5 year olds that starts literally the Monday after school ends (school ends on a Friday) and lasts until September 8th (two days before school starts) the hours are from 9am-3:30pm. He's already emailed the manager impersonating me and... show more
    Okay, so my dad basically got me a camp counselor job at a tennis camp for 5 year olds that starts literally the Monday after school ends (school ends on a Friday) and lasts until September 8th (two days before school starts) the hours are from 9am-3:30pm. He's already emailed the manager impersonating me and basically singing me up for a job I don't want RIGHT AFTER SCHOOL ENDS. I'm 15 years old and in 10th grade. Plus my mom is forcing me to a stressful SAT prep class every Tuesday at 4:15 (so right after the camp ends), and my mom has also signed me up for an internship at her work where I have to do sell sheets every week and a second internship where I have to make 15 second videos twice a week for my mom's friend's business. PLUS I'm being forced to do volunteer work at a store for poor people every Wednesday from 4-6pm AND I'm being forced to help out at a senior home every Friday from 5-7pm. My mom is also planning to make me read for 2 hours every day as well and I hate reading... I never get a break. And my parents have already accepted all of these jobs. I've never had a job in my life so this is A LOT to spring at me all at once... I don't even get a frikin day off over the summer. This is more stressful then school... I am SO bummed... Summer has always been my time off. HOW WILL I DO IT?
    9 answers · 4 hours ago
  • I m 15 and want to have a baby?

    I know I might be young and all , I don t want hear anyhing about how I shouldn t be thinking about having a baby at this age but I really want to . Like I m graduating next year due to the fact I m in homeschool and I m living pretty good. I actually think I ll be a perfect parent , I have 5 siblings that I took... show more
    I know I might be young and all , I don t want hear anyhing about how I shouldn t be thinking about having a baby at this age but I really want to . Like I m graduating next year due to the fact I m in homeschool and I m living pretty good. I actually think I ll be a perfect parent , I have 5 siblings that I took care of since I was 9 so taking care of a baby won t be so hard for me. At this moment I help my mom take care of twins while she s at work and also I get paid a lot too so I can pay for whatever.
    12 answers · 1 day ago
  • My mother is fat and ugly. How do I stop feeling embarrassed of her?

    Best answer: Look at your own attitude first. Whatever she is or isn't it doesn't mean she deserves your scorn or embarrassment. If I were her I'd be embarrassed too by your attitude.
    Best answer: Look at your own attitude first. Whatever she is or isn't it doesn't mean she deserves your scorn or embarrassment. If I were her I'd be embarrassed too by your attitude.
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • I am glad my father died as he was a deadbeat who never met me after age 7 and used to hit my mother. What do I do at the funeral?

    For my aunt and grandmother I am going to the funeral Friday. I am 19 now and hadn;t seen him in 12 years. He died in prison of a heart attack. He was serving time on rape charges.
    For my aunt and grandmother I am going to the funeral Friday. I am 19 now and hadn;t seen him in 12 years. He died in prison of a heart attack. He was serving time on rape charges.
    8 answers · 5 hours ago
  • My mums not normal?

    Hey guys. I'm a fourteen year old girl. I've been feeling quite down lately. I always help my mum, whether it be cleaning dishes or cleaning the house. My mum is a single mum, my dad lives somewhere else but visits at times. Earlier today my mum told me to wash the dishes and I was quite tired and told her... show more
    Hey guys. I'm a fourteen year old girl. I've been feeling quite down lately. I always help my mum, whether it be cleaning dishes or cleaning the house. My mum is a single mum, my dad lives somewhere else but visits at times. Earlier today my mum told me to wash the dishes and I was quite tired and told her to 'wait, I'll do it later'. Which I was going to. But my mum went to the kitchen and literally broke everything - she threw the cups and plates and they all shattered. she ended up injuring herself and there was blood. it was very disturbing. she was screaming a lot too. she then told me she didnt want me anymore and that she wanted me to 'go and live with my dad'. I didnt know what to do. i locked myself in my room. i can hear her complaining about me to my dad. if everyone is doing this to me, i want to run away from home or jump in front of a moving car. i dont want to go school tomorrow. my mum is alwaysviolent and for the smallest reason she goes crazy. ive had enough. shes thrpwn a vase at me before and it shattered beside me
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • I have an evil sister. If there is a hell does she deserve to go there?

    She is an adult bully.
    She is an adult bully.
    8 answers · 6 hours ago
  • My sister and brother in law don't value or appreciate my time. What do I do?

    Best answer: First of all, you can't control their reactions so stop trying to. Secondly, you have to figure out what exactly you're asking from them. Are you wanting to be paid? Appreciated? Respected? Thanked? The fact is that it's YOUR time to do with what you want, not theirs to abuse. So I think you say... show more
    Best answer: First of all, you can't control their reactions so stop trying to. Secondly, you have to figure out what exactly you're asking from them. Are you wanting to be paid? Appreciated? Respected? Thanked?
    The fact is that it's YOUR time to do with what you want, not theirs to abuse. So I think you say something like I'm letting you know that while I love watching Nephew, I do have other things to do including looking for a job. I can watch Nephew on X and Y days for $$$ if it's going to be a full day, or *whatever your terms are*. If your sister freaks out, remain calm. Repeat: As I said, I love babysitting Nephew but I can't do it all the time and whenever you want. I can do it on X and Y day. If that doesn't work for you then I'm sorry.
    They are taking advantage of you because you're allowing them to in every possible way and you're too chicken to stand up for yourself, I imagine because you're scared they won't "let" you see your Nephew. Your sister is sensitive? No she's not, if she were sensitive then she wouldn't be taking advantage of you. She's greedy and selfish. Were you gainfully employed, what options would they have?? What if you get a job, is she going to get mad about that and say you're selfish for not giving up your career and income for their kid? SMH.
    8 answers · 9 hours ago
  • I feel depressed after moving out, help?

    I m a 22 year old girl who just graduated from a great college, got a great job doing what I love, with a boyfriend in finance who also got a really wonderful job. We just officially moved to NY from RI yesterday to an expensive luxury apartment. Our parents were so supportive and we are so fortunate to have them.... show more
    I m a 22 year old girl who just graduated from a great college, got a great job doing what I love, with a boyfriend in finance who also got a really wonderful job. We just officially moved to NY from RI yesterday to an expensive luxury apartment. Our parents were so supportive and we are so fortunate to have them. Yesterday I just realized how much my mom did for me and I cried all night last night. She s amazing and deserves so much more than I could ever give her. I feel guilty for moving out. That s one of the only times I ve seen her show so much emotion towards me. We never said I love you or hugged in my family. She didn t have to say it much, because she said it with all she sacrificed for me. Her mother died two years ago and I never understood that feeling until I moved away from her. She must have loved her very much. I was the only one that listened to her work gossip and helped her with her school assignments (she teaches cosmetology and isn t great at writing so I help her out). I feel like I could ve been A better daughter but was always stressed out from working full time and going to school that I would spend most of my time alone. I just feel really guilty. I do have depression, most people in my family have been diagnosed with it. It s kind of scary not to live with my mom dad and little brother anymore. What can I do to help me feel like eating or cleaning up or just doing anything but crying and forgetting about it with TV. Am I not ready to move away?
    8 answers · 12 hours ago
  • Elderly mother problems.?

    My mother is 60 years old and I live with her to keep an eye on her. She has several medical problems (COPD, Depression, and an unknown problem at the moment where they found spots on her lungs in am xray). I run every little errand for her, attend college, work at home as self employed, my fiance lives with us to... show more
    My mother is 60 years old and I live with her to keep an eye on her. She has several medical problems (COPD, Depression, and an unknown problem at the moment where they found spots on her lungs in am xray). I run every little errand for her, attend college, work at home as self employed, my fiance lives with us to help and buys food, pays rent, etc. I buy household items, buy my mother stuff (razors, socks, basic care essentials, etc.). My fiance works at a grocery store part time and is going back to college. The problem with my mother is that she has constant mood swings, demands restaurant food (even though we are by no means rich, and wastes her widower pension (rent and pay places, her new boyfriend, etc.) My fiance had to pay the last electric bill as she didn't have the money when she draws close to $1,000 a month. She is very irresponsible and acts like a child sometimes. She will pay the car payment, car insurance, and lot rent but that's all! She only keeps the car to run her boyfriend all around town and buy him things. We help out all we can and I feel like she is not doing her part. She doesn't work but won't let me use the car to go to college or get a regular job, even if I offer to put in gas and such.Do a lot of elderly act like this?
    10 answers · 1 day ago
  • I'm 25 living with my parents, and they treat me like a maid.?

    Ok so I just recently moved back home because I wrecked my car, then life just started happening sooo I decided I wanted to move and try to a new career job, which starts next month. I've been home for about 2-3 months and I've had like cashier jobs but I quit them since I'll be starting my career job ... show more
    Ok so I just recently moved back home because I wrecked my car, then life just started happening sooo I decided I wanted to move and try to a new career job, which starts next month. I've been home for about 2-3 months and I've had like cashier jobs but I quit them since I'll be starting my career job in mid June and I've had to travel to the new job site to do all the paperwork and different test and such. Since I have no job my parents expect me to clean the entire house. My siblings who are 18, 12, and 9 years old do nothing but clean their rooms but I guess they're just trying to teach them to not mess up like me or they'll be maids. But I also have a 28 year old sister who has my 6 yr old niece they live here too but still they don't clean but my sister is a teacher. My parents not only expect me to clean up after everyone now they want me to clean their room and bathroom ,which I think is ridiculous. Is my attitude warranted or should I just suck it up. Keep in mind before I moved here the house we always filthy. Also in addition to cleaning my mother has me doing my little siblings hair and getting them dressed for school most mornings. I feel used and I almost resent them. Am I wrong??
    10 answers · 1 day ago