• My husband just moved out and within two days, moved another girl and her kids into his house. Am I crazy to think that’s not ok?

    Here’s the thing, we’re divorcing cordially and staying out of court. We don’t have lawyers and are pretty good friends. Up until this point, things were great. We would still hang out and have dinner or hug each other, etc. The communication was pretty good also. The plan was to live together and pay down debts... show more
    Here’s the thing, we’re divorcing cordially and staying out of court. We don’t have lawyers and are pretty good friends. Up until this point, things were great. We would still hang out and have dinner or hug each other, etc. The communication was pretty good also. The plan was to live together and pay down debts so that when he moved out, it would be easier on both of us. Well, he moved out and within two days, moved his friends with benefits in and her three kids. He hadn’t even moved his own kids into his house! He claims this is only temporary as she needed a place to stay but he doesn’t see the problem this poses to our kids. We were supposed to help them adjust. The first night he moved out, we all went over and played games and had pizza. He thinks I’m crazy and that it’s “my hangup” and not a big deal. I’m trying to explain to him that we are dismantling our family. It takes time and we need to give the kids the courtesy of adjusting to Daddy having a new house. Throwing three other people into the mix isn’t fair for them...Now, not only do they have to adjust to something new and scary, they have to share their Dad with other kids. He still just doesn’t get it. I’m posting this in hopes I can show him that I’m not alone in thinking he needs to put the kids first. If this were a year down the road of him having a house and being moved out, I wouldn’t care - not my place but he literally JUST moved out. It’s still the sensitive adjustment period :(
    14 answers · 24 hours ago
  • How did parents who lived in the 80's stay in touch with their children?

    Best answer: Pre-arranged times. I will meet you at the fountain in the mall at 7:30 p.m. Or I'll be there to pick you up from your friend's house tomorrow morning at 10:00, and the teenager would be watching out the window for when their parent pulled into the drive. All of that was decided before the teenager was... show more
    Best answer: Pre-arranged times. I will meet you at the fountain in the mall at 7:30 p.m. Or I'll be there to pick you up from your friend's house tomorrow morning at 10:00, and the teenager would be watching out the window for when their parent pulled into the drive. All of that was decided before the teenager was dropped off. People also had house phones, and if you were staying at your friend's house you would use their house phone to let your parents know if there was any change in plans. Most schools and sport teams, etc. had phone books your parents could reference so that they knew the phone numbers of your friend's family's house phone, or people would just memorize phone numbers, and parents would make sure they knew the parents of your friends and how to get a hold of them.
    At stores if only one person went in, the driver would either park where they could see the person come out of the store or they would circle the parking lot entrance regularly as they waited so they would notice the other person when they came out.
    And if you got lost while you were still learning to drive around the area (there was no gps, so you had to figure out for yourself how to get around to places) then you would look around and stop at a payphone telephone booth and call your parent's house phone for help with directions. Usually your parents knew the area well enough to be able to guide you from sign posts and stores that you observed around the telephone booth.
    People weren't constantly reachable, so there just had to be more planning and discussion beforehand. Sometimes parents would stay up near the phone so they would be there to get your call if you needed them and they knew you were going somewhere unfamiliar or were out late.
    19 answers · 2 days ago
  • Do you think parents should beat their children as punishment?

    Some of us remember when our parents would pull out the shoe, wooden spoon, belt, or just slap us. Others of us didn't get any of that. Do you think parents should beat their children? How do you think that affects the child?
    Some of us remember when our parents would pull out the shoe, wooden spoon, belt, or just slap us. Others of us didn't get any of that. Do you think parents should beat their children? How do you think that affects the child?
    15 answers · 3 days ago
  • Could you love an introverted child?

    11 answers · 4 days ago
  • How to make sure your kids never become cops?

    That would just be such a blow.
    That would just be such a blow.
    9 answers · 5 days ago
  • Why don't parents start teaching their children about work as early as possible? (having them help with chores etc)?

    so many kids today just seem so spoiled, laying around watching tv. eating junk food and playing video games. why they are not out learning how to take care of the yard work and cleaning out the garage and helping clean the house? this is a good way to spend time with your children as well as teaching them about... show more
    so many kids today just seem so spoiled, laying around watching tv. eating junk food and playing video games. why they are not out learning how to take care of the yard work and cleaning out the garage and helping clean the house? this is a good way to spend time with your children as well as teaching them about work and responsibility and also paying them a small allowance to help out and learn about earning money. hard work equals money.
    6 answers · 2 days ago
  • How do I prove my mom that the doctor is wrong?

    I went to the doctor to checkout my lightheadedness, but the doctor said it’s allergies. How do I convince my mom about throw emergency and how my doctor is stupid?
    I went to the doctor to checkout my lightheadedness, but the doctor said it’s allergies. How do I convince my mom about throw emergency and how my doctor is stupid?
    6 answers · 2 days ago
  • Am I the only one who thinks dying is much worse when you never got the chance to have children and become a parent?

    Best answer: So, where does that leave people who, for one reason or another, are UNABLE to have or raise children?
    One's life is defined by what THEY do, which may or may not include bearing and raising children.
    Best answer: So, where does that leave people who, for one reason or another, are UNABLE to have or raise children?
    One's life is defined by what THEY do, which may or may not include bearing and raising children.
    5 answers · 2 days ago
  • Are you a feminine girl, a normal girl, or a tomboy?

    I am proud to be a female. I have breasts and a vagina plus I get my period every month. I don't like sports and I don't watch sports channels on tv. Sports is boring and it's a masculine hobby. It takes large amounts of strength and energy. And I don't have that kind of strength or energy because I... show more
    I am proud to be a female. I have breasts and a vagina plus I get my period every month. I don't like sports and I don't watch sports channels on tv. Sports is boring and it's a masculine hobby. It takes large amounts of strength and energy. And I don't have that kind of strength or energy because I am not a tomboy or a man. I am a weak woman. I don't like baseball, basketball, soccer, football, softball, dodge ball, tennis, volleyball, hockey, bowling, pool, ping pong, or golf. I am unpopular and I don't participate in cheerleading. I don't know how to do a backflip or a cartwheel. I don't know how to ride a bicycle or a scooter. I don't know how to rollerskate or skateboard. I don't know how to swim or surf. I don't know how to ski or snowboard. I don't know how to ice skate. I am not flexible and I don't participate in gymnastics. I don't participate in boxing. I don't participate in wrestling. I don't participate in track and field. I don't like comic books. I don't play video games, I don't play online games, I don't play trivia or puzzle games, I don't play board games, I don't play card games. I don't dress like a guy and I don't hang out with guys. I prefer reading children's fairy tale storybooks, watching Disney Junior TV Shows, and listening to music on my phone. I am very feminine.
    5 answers · 2 days ago
  • Where would a mentally ill 14-17 year old boy get sent if he physically lashed out at his mom?

    A: The emergency room. B: The mental hospital. C: The police station.
    A: The emergency room. B: The mental hospital. C: The police station.
    8 answers · 3 days ago
  • Why is my neighbor so obsessed about telling me I need to constantly spank my child?

    almost every time she sees me , she brings up how she needs to be spanked or “ beaten “ .. my 5 year old has adhd , sensory disorder and possibly on the low spectrum of autism and she knows this ! But she won’t stop. I find it creepy .. I DO discipline my daughter, it’s just spanking makes it WORSE and doesn’t do... show more
    almost every time she sees me , she brings up how she needs to be spanked or “ beaten “ .. my 5 year old has adhd , sensory disorder and possibly on the low spectrum of autism and she knows this ! But she won’t stop. I find it creepy .. I DO discipline my daughter, it’s just spanking makes it WORSE and doesn’t do anything , so she tells me I’m doing it wrong and she needs to be hit hatssr ! WTF
    15 answers · 7 days ago
  • My tween daughter is bullied and has low self-esteem. What steps can be taken if I worry that she is vulnerable to child predators?

    I’m a single mother of two beautiful kids. I worry about my 11 year old who is starved for friends, to be noticeable. She is quite naive in general. The bullying incident is being taken care of by the school. My other concern (besides the “mean girls”) would be that she can easily fall for someone with horrible... show more
    I’m a single mother of two beautiful kids. I worry about my 11 year old who is starved for friends, to be noticeable. She is quite naive in general. The bullying incident is being taken care of by the school. My other concern (besides the “mean girls”) would be that she can easily fall for someone with horrible intentions to harm children. I can’t be there 24/7 to watch her. At the same time she needs to learn some independent skills as well. I do not allow unsupervised online access. All the devices have parental locks on them (so nobody can use it unless an approved adult is around). She goes to afterschool clubs, sports, regular school and is around other people. I’m trying not to be overprotective - but given her personality traits, maturity, problems at school, disadvantage of having just me..it adds up to some vulnerabilities.
    5 answers · 3 days ago