I'd like to provide an unique viewpoint on this, being a high school student currently, and someone who has a younger brother that is 11.
First off, I must state that it is definitely true that one of the worst things to be labeled as while in school is to be a "snitch" or "tattletale."...
Best answer: I'd like to provide an unique viewpoint on this, being a high school student currently, and someone who has a younger brother that is 11.
First off, I must state that it is definitely true that one of the worst things to be labeled as while in school is to be a "snitch" or "tattletale." Being labeled as such could really ostracize your son, but there's also a flipside to this.
Your son is only 9! This means that he is in elementary school, and is probably a 3rd/4th grader. At this young age, "tattling" on someone isn't such a big deal, and kids will move on from it quickly. If it was just horseplay, or a little bit of cheating in a game of basketball or kickball, I'd advise you and your son to leave this alone. But you explicitly stated that these two kids haven't been friends pretty much forever, and there is a slight possibility that this other kid slowly begins to escalate his actions, and become a bully.
However, as I assume that your son isn't exceptionally, hurt, and can still play, I suppose that since this event has already occurred, and it's a new day, you should probably move on. So my final advice, in order to make sure that there's no bullying in the future, is to instruct to your son that in the case that this other boy does something mean to him again, (i.e. tripping, pushing him over, etc.) to report the other boy immediately. Remember, your son said he already reported to the yard duty, which means they didn't take the complaint seriously enough. However, I've seen in the past that if these incidents are reoccurring, chaperones and playground duty members will take action, so if something like this happens again- make sure the other boy faces some sort of punishment, like a loss of recess or something. In the end, it'll benefit the other boy as well, as it'll hopefully deter him from becoming some kind of bully- here in high school, nobody likes people like that.
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