You have to realize something very important: the problem was not with you, the problem was him. He has an inferiority complex and in order to make himself feel superior, he would pick on you and demean you. It is a classic case of how an insecure and emotionally unstable male treats a female.
And, he did get...
Best answer: You have to realize something very important: the problem was not with you, the problem was him. He has an inferiority complex and in order to make himself feel superior, he would pick on you and demean you. It is a classic case of how an insecure and emotionally unstable male treats a female.
And, he did get into your psyche because you feel beaten down.
The best way to move forward is to forgive yourself for making a choice to date a guy that was not good for you. Forgive yourself for making a mistake. Forgive yourself for not seeing the signs. Forgive yourself for maybe moving too quickly into the relationship before you realized he was a jerk. It is okay to make mistakes, we all make mistakes. You are smart though. You are smart to have gotten out of the relationship sooner than later.
It is time to regroup and time to get your self confidence back while you heal emotionally. What do you love to do? What makes you happy? What have you always wanted to try? It is time to do something that feeds your soul and makes you happy. This could be as simple as rearranging your bedroom furniture or painting one wall an accent color. You could learn to bead a necklace or rework some broken jewelry. Maybe you used to enjoy drawing but stopped....and could start again. Perhaps you want to learn how to cook with herbs, so you can begin an herb garden or at least begin one on your window sill if it's too cold where you live to grow something outside.
I was in a relationship that just got stale, so I left it. I changed my hair style and my perfume and it did wonders for my new outlook and gave me a boost of confidence.
Once you forgive yourself and realize that you did nothing wrong, you will feel a great weight lifted off of your shoulders.
Now, how do you move forward with guys from now on, so you do not repeat the mistake of picking the wrong boyfriend? Well, that is easier than you think, but it takes some self control. The next time you are interested in a guy, get to know him, really get to know who he is before you are tempted to get intimate with him. We all put our best foot forward when we first meet someone. But, if we are not genuine, it is hard to keep up the façade before who we really are shines through. So, if you take your time when you meet a romantic interest and get to know him, you are less likely to repeat the same mistakes. If a guy pressures you for sex too soon, that means he is not accepting no for an answer and people who do not accept no for an answer are trying to control you.
So, forgive yourself, feed your soul, maybe give yourself an updated appearance, love yourself and respect yourself first, otherwise no one else will. Good luck to you.
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