• My Dad is an arrogant liar. How do I make sure I don't turn out as arrogant as him (also he is ignorant as dirt)?

    Best answer: If you focus on him you will become like him. Make sure those you hang around with aren't like this.
    Best answer: If you focus on him you will become like him. Make sure those you hang around with aren't like this.
    7 answers · 8 hours ago
  • How to deal with annoying people on thanksgiving?

    So my mom and I am are cooking thanksgiving dinner. Everyone seems to like the food except one person. All they do is complain and ask if I know what I am doing. They never bring anything, either. They have never cooked anything but will not stop following me around the kitchen,panicking over nothing,criticizing... show more
    So my mom and I am are cooking thanksgiving dinner. Everyone seems to like the food except one person. All they do is complain and ask if I know what I am doing. They never bring anything, either. They have never cooked anything but will not stop following me around the kitchen,panicking over nothing,criticizing everything I do. Asking me why I don't microwave the stuffing or use a masher instead of a food processor to mash up the mash potatoes fifty or sixty times and why do I have to make sweet potatoes with marshmallows because that is fattening.I told them to make their own, but they said it looks to hard. I try not to blow up but after hearing this all day , it stresses me out. I really lost it, when I heard them Telling people they aren't sure if they should be eating what I made and that their dog could cook better food. My mother said she is going to ask why are they here? if they do it again. My other sister said she will bring wine.
    9 answers · 1 day ago
  • How do I deal with my mum who doesn't understand?

    She doesn't understand my anxiety she doesn't understand my depression she doesn't understand anything and she's making it worst and getting mad at me for it. I was talking to her about changing my name and she brought the conversation to a different topic completely ignoring my question and started... show more
    She doesn't understand my anxiety she doesn't understand my depression she doesn't understand anything and she's making it worst and getting mad at me for it. I was talking to her about changing my name and she brought the conversation to a different topic completely ignoring my question and started pressuring me to talk to the people which I can't, especially not when she's in the room with them and me. I can't talk to my mum about that stuff very easily so it makes it mega hard to talk to someone that is a stranger with her in the room too it's just I can't and she started getting mad at me. She doesn't understand how important changing my name is to me is either. She says it can wait but it really really can't. I just want to die it isn't fair.
    7 answers · 9 hours ago
  • Parent(s) found my sex toys, I feel embarrassed and angry?

    Hi! So I was at work, and came back home to find that my room had basically been tidied the hell up, I'm assuming it was my mum that did it. Anyway I panicked because the headphone box I keep my sex toys in (dildo, vibrators) had been moved across the room and I can't help but wonder if she looked inside... show more
    Hi! So I was at work, and came back home to find that my room had basically been tidied the hell up, I'm assuming it was my mum that did it. Anyway I panicked because the headphone box I keep my sex toys in (dildo, vibrators) had been moved across the room and I can't help but wonder if she looked inside to see what was in there. She also went through all my drawers and re-arranged literally everything, that's also where I hid some lube and that's also been moved. She didn't even tell me she was going to be going through my room etc, so I feel pretty angry and feel like she's just gone through my private things behind my back. And I'm honestly too embarrassed to talk to them at the moment, because what the hell do they think of me? They haven't said anything to me about it. There's a possibility she didn't look inside the box, and she didn't notice what she was moving was actually lube, but how likely is that? =/ Help?
    9 answers · 1 day ago
  • How do I get my Mom to let me see my Dad this year at the holidays?

    Best answer: You don't state whether you are a male or female, or how long ago the divorce happened. It is true that there are a lot of emotions experienced during this sort of thing. Your Mom obviously has been hurt a lot and wants everyone to not only support her on this, but feel the same. The problem is that teens... show more
    Best answer: You don't state whether you are a male or female, or how long ago the divorce happened.

    It is true that there are a lot of emotions experienced during this sort of thing. Your Mom obviously has been hurt a lot and wants everyone to not only support her on this, but feel the same.

    The problem is that teens sometimes still need the father, and she may not realize this. A teen girl will often need the father at the age of 15.

    -Is there a way to express to your Mom that you truly understand how your father hurt her, but as his daughter, you still need him to some degree? Let her know you support her and you understand, but need this in your life right now.

    -If you are a male, then your mother may be worried you will duplicate the things that happened between your father and her, and you may need to explain this won't happen, and show understanding in these matters. Mothers are very concerned in how their sons will also treat females in their own lives. Show her you understand.

    You also might consider taking some time with your mother so you can help her through this. Go places with her, talk with her, etc. If you are in activities at school, or after school activities, be sure she knows you want her there. If you are a female, this will help both of you.

    Rememeber that by the teen years, parents know their kids may even push them away. Try to understand that your Mom now doesn't have the support of a husband and is worried she won't have the support of the rest of her family. She might need some support from her own mother, father, or siblings. This may help a lot. If there is a way to help her gain this support, this may be of some assistance in the situation.

    Mom may also need to find a job if she doesn't have one. This would get her out around other people, and other people are often good for balance and understanding in things we experience in life.

    Let Mom know you aren't pushing away, but just need to see Dad.

    If she won't allow you to see him right at Christmas, can you go the weekend before Christmas? Or, the weekend after Christmas?

    If that doesn't work, then can you alternate holidays between Mom and Dad?

    If you look at both of the above, it seems as though the first - just prior or just after the holiday, might be better if Mom agrees. This would give you some simple one-on-one time with Dad, until your Mom is better able to sort these things out.

    Try to be supportive of Mom and try to hear her concerns. Then, let her know what you also need.

    Mom needs a friend, relative, or others for support. If she is able to get this, things may go a little smoother.

    It sounds like your father is taking Mom to court, because he is upset with the condition that he can't see you? Let Mom know that she shouldn't base things on what the cousin did, but just on your own situation. Try to work something out so everyone has some sort of say in things. It is hard to be put in the middle of things, and Mom needs to see that you are trying to work things out with her. If you and she can work through this, then you and she can both stay strong.
    7 answers · 13 hours ago
  • My dad is making me really uncomfortable and a little scared. What do I do?

    For some background info, I am 21 and I live with my dad in a rented house my mom and dad split up about 2 years ago and I'm moving out in January (finally) He has been playing porn with no earphones for a few weeks now maybe 2? It is making me feel uncomfortable. I don't wanna tell him by text to say turn... show more
    For some background info, I am 21 and I live with my dad in a rented house my mom and dad split up about 2 years ago and I'm moving out in January (finally) He has been playing porn with no earphones for a few weeks now maybe 2? It is making me feel uncomfortable. I don't wanna tell him by text to say turn it down or whatever because im too scared we are not really that close. I once walked downstairs and he was watching tv and was having the porn sound on I heard it and he was a sleep so I quickly ran back upstairs to get away from being awkward. Now it is midnight and I cant seep because im so uncomfortable he has had it on for almost an hour now like WTF!? Even the dog barked and I thought he would think oh its woke her up ill turn it down but no! I hate it! What would you do?
    6 answers · 2 hours ago
  • My mother makes me kiss her. I feel harassed but everyone says it’s normal. Please help me. - 17 yo guy in high school.?

    Best answer: This isn't a normal relationship at all. You need to get some help right away. Talk to a counselor at your school or a teacher that you're comfortable talking with about all that is happening at home. Hopefully, the counselor reports all this to the agency that protects children like CPS or a unit that... show more
    Best answer: This isn't a normal relationship at all. You need to get some help right away. Talk to a counselor at your school or a teacher that you're comfortable talking with about all that is happening at home. Hopefully, the counselor reports all this to the agency that protects children like CPS or a unit that handles such complaints. Meanwhile, you need to distance yourself from this woman. She is a predator and will keep on with this behaviour until she is stopped. For now, it is up to you to push her away the best that you can. Talk to your father about what is happening and see if he has any ideas to stop this woman. What she is doing is considered abuse and is against the law. It is not normal to kiss your mother on the lips or any of the other sick things that she wants you to do. Stand up for yourself and hopefully, one of the agencies will step in and remove you from the house. Good luck and I hope that this nightmare ends soon!
    42 answers · 1 week ago
  • Is it wrong for an adult to take out their anger aggressively on a 8-9 year old child?

    I remember when I was about 8-9 years old and visiting my older sister, who was about mid-20s (we had same mum, different dads). I was acting a bit silly and craving attention. After a few minutes of acting silly, my sister suddenly slammed her fist on a table at me, making a horrific, frightening sound which... show more
    I remember when I was about 8-9 years old and visiting my older sister, who was about mid-20s (we had same mum, different dads). I was acting a bit silly and craving attention. After a few minutes of acting silly, my sister suddenly slammed her fist on a table at me, making a horrific, frightening sound which really traumatised me and I felt like my insides were pulling apart physically. She then started scolding me in a way that attacked my cheeks and jawline in a nasty and inappropiate way, like she was calling me ugly. Isn't it innappropiate for an adult to treat a child this way and indirectly call her ugly? As if the child will still look the same when they grow up into adults (if they even reach adulthood in one piece with that treatment?). Also for a sister to do that to her own sibling and calling her ugly - the two virtually lookalike, so the adult sister was contradicting herself.
    7 answers · 18 hours ago
  • My sister is always directing my parents with orders and my parents give her as she orders. Will she likely get worse because of this?

    Best answer: Believe it or not, I feel sorry for her. I have no idea why your parents did this to her, but people brought up like this grow into very unhealthy, unhappy adults. They spend the rest of their lives looking for people (friends, spouses, co-workers) who will treat them the same way. Of course, nobody... show more
    Best answer: Believe it or not, I feel sorry for her. I have no idea why your parents did this to her, but people brought up like this grow into very unhealthy, unhappy adults. They spend the rest of their lives looking for people (friends, spouses, co-workers) who will treat them the same way. Of course, nobody does.

    I've seen this several times, even in my extended family.
    6 answers · 5 hours ago
  • How do i stop my little sister from hitting me in the balls without upsetting her?

    Hi! So my little sister is 3 and i'm her big brother and i'm 13. I love my little sister wth all my heart but she always manages to hit me in the balls! I know she doesn't understand but its pretty painful! Like today when i got home from school she came running up to me to give me a big hug but managed... show more
    Hi! So my little sister is 3 and i'm her big brother and i'm 13. I love my little sister wth all my heart but she always manages to hit me in the balls! I know she doesn't understand but its pretty painful! Like today when i got home from school she came running up to me to give me a big hug but managed to punch me pretty hard in the balls! All i could do was moan and double over and she thought i was playing! Yesterday i was playing with her on my bed and she stomped on my balls which was really painful! I know she doesnt understand at all but how do i tell her not to hit me in the nuts without upsetting her? I dont want to seem really mean coz i know she doesnt understand.
    6 answers · 6 hours ago
  • Either my sister wants attention or just had a mental breakdown?

    My sister has a two year old daughter and is going through a divorce. Her husband never visits and she basically just goes to school and takes care of her child. I know she says it s a lot of stress raising a kid alone but I never thought much of it. I was just over to her house and she was screaming at the kid to... show more
    My sister has a two year old daughter and is going through a divorce. Her husband never visits and she basically just goes to school and takes care of her child. I know she says it s a lot of stress raising a kid alone but I never thought much of it. I was just over to her house and she was screaming at the kid to put something down and to stop messing with the light switch. Normally those things aren t a big deal but this time she screamed at her (not yelling, screaming). Then my sister starts screaming to the top of her lungs. I figured she had burned herself on boiling water because she was cooking in the kitchen but no. She was just screaming. I offered to take my niece and she said no and that it s bad how we only offer to help her if she acts crazy. This was a first. My niece was crying but she told me I couldn t take her so I just sat down with my niece to calm her. Then my sister comes back in yelling at me saying the family and I never help with the baby and stuff and tells me to leave. I was hesitant because my niece was crying again from all the yelling so I just stayed sitting down with my niece. Then my sister comes in, takes her kid and tells me to leave so I did. This was about 10 minutes ago. What the hell do I do?
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • UK: Could my mother be put into a care home in her 50s?

    She's been out of employment for over 20 years and has difficulty finding a job. She got a job at Boots but soon left after a week or so. She doesn't have the drive, assertiveness or self confidence to make it in the world of work. I'm 24 and my sister is 20 and we're gonna be moving out soon. My... show more
    She's been out of employment for over 20 years and has difficulty finding a job. She got a job at Boots but soon left after a week or so. She doesn't have the drive, assertiveness or self confidence to make it in the world of work. I'm 24 and my sister is 20 and we're gonna be moving out soon. My mother has anxiety and I think this one of the things she worries about. She recently has a seizure and was hospitalised, and as she's in her 50s she may have other health issues down the line. She finds it tough even with us living with her, I think she'll find even more difficult living alone. I would feel better if she could live in a care home where she was around other people to make her feel a bit more at ease. She doesn't have the confidence to get out in the real world.
    7 answers · 22 hours ago
  • My aunt hates her own daughter. Could this change one day or is hating a family member usually forever?

    Best answer: Anything can change. Relationships can be restored
    Best answer: Anything can change. Relationships can be restored
    6 answers · 8 hours ago
  • My Dad is an alcoholic, how do I explain it to my son if there is a big scene Thursday at Thanksgiving?

    Best answer: "Son, your grandpa has a sickness that makes him do mean things sometimes. I want you to know ahead of time that if I see him start to act like that, we're going to get our coats and leave. You'll wait in the car while I tell Grandma thank you and say goodbye to people. I don't want you to be... show more
    Best answer: "Son, your grandpa has a sickness that makes him do mean things sometimes. I want you to know ahead of time that if I see him start to act like that, we're going to get our coats and leave. You'll wait in the car while I tell Grandma thank you and say goodbye to people. I don't want you to be around him when he's like that, because he doesn't mind hurting people's feelings. I'm not going to let him do that to you. Okay?"
    6 answers · 8 hours ago
  • Was I wrong for not telling my brother happy birthday?

    We’re 21 and 27 so we aren’t kids or anything. So his birthday was 2 days ago and he came over our house to get his gift from our parents (I still live with parents) . I walked right passed him and asked me why didn’t I wish him a happy birthday and I told him because he didn’t wish me a happy birthday back in... show more
    We’re 21 and 27 so we aren’t kids or anything. So his birthday was 2 days ago and he came over our house to get his gift from our parents (I still live with parents) . I walked right passed him and asked me why didn’t I wish him a happy birthday and I told him because he didn’t wish me a happy birthday back in july. We kind of had an argument over it because he felt that it was wrong of me because he felt someone should have reminded him but I’m not gonna remind him. You knew me for 21 years of my life you should know my birthday.
    6 answers · 8 hours ago
  • I said sorry to my parents and asked for forgiveness and asked for a second chance, I let them down , did I deserve such a harsh punishment?

    I have been grounded for the last 2 weeks this is for drinking alcohol ( I am 16 ) my parents were going to have a party and fireworks party, they said I would be let off a week early so I could attend the party if I signed a contract saying I would not touch alcohol again, if I broke the contract my punishment... show more
    I have been grounded for the last 2 weeks this is for drinking alcohol ( I am 16 ) my parents were going to have a party and fireworks party, they said I would be let off a week early so I could attend the party if I signed a contract saying I would not touch alcohol again, if I broke the contract my punishment would be much more severe, they said it would be at least 3 days lockdown ( LOCKED IN MY ROOM ) I am sorry to say 2 days ago I came home smelling of alcohol, my parents went mad and locked me in my room it was HORRIBLE the worse part was yesterday evening when my parents had a party there was music, dancing and fireworks in our garden, can you imagine how I felt sitting in my room from behind a LOCKED bedroom door listening to all the fun and NOT being able to join in I even watched the fireworks from my locked bedroom window, I felt SO sad and MISREABLE I even cried,later my sister unlocked my door, brought me some food from the barbecue then took great pleasure in telling me how great the party was going, then SLAMMED my bedroom door shut, and turned the key in the lock (CLICK ) WERE MY PARENTS RIGHT TO PUNISH ME SO SEVERLY ? DO YOU THINK MY SISTER IS MEAN ?
    21 answers · 4 days ago
  • What do I do about my boyfriend's laziness?

    My boyfriend is extremely lazy. Not just lazy but very unmotivated. He's unemployed but that's not the problem, I know it's a tough market out there. But he's not even trying. I keep telling him to apply and he doesn't? He just loves his video games. A month ago he got a job through a temp... show more
    My boyfriend is extremely lazy. Not just lazy but very unmotivated. He's unemployed but that's not the problem, I know it's a tough market out there. But he's not even trying. I keep telling him to apply and he doesn't? He just loves his video games. A month ago he got a job through a temp agency but he got fired after a couple weeks for being...you guessed it, lazy! And he's not motivated to study. He's resitting his GCSE English and maths to get into uni but he doesn't study. He failed them twice, once in school and once in sixth form college while he was studying a course. And is he motivated to actually apply to go to uni? Nope! Hasn't applied yet and the January deadline will probably arrive before he's able to lift a finger. He did apply to this uni last year (it's one of the few unis in the UK that offer the course he wants to do) but he got rejected due to lack of GCSEs. He keeps saying he wants to do this and that, but it's all talk and no action. I graduated from uni in July and work in a law firm so I have tried to get some connections for him. I've tried to support him. I have for months. I have told him about alternative options besides university, like apprenticeships. I have even looked into some for him. But he doesn't want to do that. This side of him is now causing me to feel indifferent. I feel like he ignores me. Everything else is fine b/w us though, I still love him and don't want to leave him.
    8 answers · 2 days ago