• Can you force someone to go to church?

    Since my daughter went away to college this last fall she is refusing to go to church with us. I've tried to tell her God can look past her sinful piercings (nose and bellybutton) but He can't forgive her exodus from church. How can I get her to go back to church and save her from more sin? I fear she... show more
    Since my daughter went away to college this last fall she is refusing to go to church with us. I've tried to tell her God can look past her sinful piercings (nose and bellybutton) but He can't forgive her exodus from church. How can I get her to go back to church and save her from more sin? I fear she will get another piercing or a tattoo.
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • I'm absolutely sick of my home but I'm pretty stuck, any advice please?

    Hey I'm 21 and live at home with my mum and sister. The thing is my sister has problems and is supposedly classed as 'ill', she is absolutely discusting and the house is a constant mess let alone hearing her screatching voice etc every night towards my mum because she's a spoilt brat. Here's a... show more
    Hey I'm 21 and live at home with my mum and sister. The thing is my sister has problems and is supposedly classed as 'ill', she is absolutely discusting and the house is a constant mess let alone hearing her screatching voice etc every night towards my mum because she's a spoilt brat. Here's a perfect example... she goes in the kitchen and uses about six plates a day and leaves everything a mess without putting anything away such as leaving milk and butter open on the work top along with rubbish she can't be bothered to even put in the bin! It's disgusting! The house does my head in on a daily basis and until I have work that is more permanent there's not much I think I can really do. My mum defends her if I retaliate to this mess of a house hold and does not give her any punishment what so ever, in fact I even got kicked out last summer over this waste of a human because of how angry it was making me but I'm always the bad one if I have a say! she is 18 years old and acts 6! Sometimes I feel bad and tidy up her **** so that my Mam doesn't have to, it makes me angry on a constant basis and don't know what I can possibly do apart from suffer in my own lack of happiness over this waste of space. My voice is never heard because if I show my anger I'm apparently being a ****. I know this sounds a minor rant but it feels like a big problem for me and shouldn't have to be around this garbage. This is basically my current life in a nutshell.
    9 answers · 21 hours ago
  • Am I really ungrateful?

    Right so yesterday there was an argument over dinner. My parents wanted me to have a family dinner and I wasn't hungry and I told the I won't be eating and that I am going out to my friend's house. After I got back home I went to my bedroom and my mom brought up a slice of home made apple pie and a... show more
    Right so yesterday there was an argument over dinner. My parents wanted me to have a family dinner and I wasn't hungry and I told the I won't be eating and that I am going out to my friend's house. After I got back home I went to my bedroom and my mom brought up a slice of home made apple pie and a glass of milk. I told her that I am not eating that because she used lard to make the pie crust, she said it was only a small slice and I yelled back that I didn't want it and that she needs to stop making me eat then she slapped the back of my head and called me an ungrateful, spoiled, selfish little brat!
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • Step daughter flirting with me? Wtf?

    I married her mum like 5 years ago. She had 1 child who was 13 at the time. She just turnee 18 and living with me. Her mother passed away and she's always been close with me. She's been flirting with me and not even being indirect about it. Wtf do I do? She sits on my lap (really wrong) and tries to grind.... show more
    I married her mum like 5 years ago. She had 1 child who was 13 at the time. She just turnee 18 and living with me. Her mother passed away and she's always been close with me. She's been flirting with me and not even being indirect about it. Wtf do I do? She sits on my lap (really wrong) and tries to grind. I think she's curious about male anatomy? I'm not sure wtf to do and the worst part is she reminds me of her mother and I accidentally get an erection. I think she knows this and tries to "tease" me. It's wrong and how can I tell her before she does something worse or asks something?? Please help.
    8 answers · 13 hours ago
  • What would you do if you drove by and you saw an 8 year old do this?

    Best answer: I would have felt a bit of sympathy at the time for the 8 year old's feelings and then forgotten all about it. I seriously doubt anyone would have been "horrified" by the sight.
    Best answer: I would have felt a bit of sympathy at the time for the 8 year old's feelings and then forgotten all about it. I seriously doubt anyone would have been "horrified" by the sight.
    24 answers · 4 days ago
  • My mum won't let me do anything.?

    I'm turning 18 this year but I'm not allowed to meet friends, have sleepovers (same gender), go out alone (during daytime of course),play computer games,stay up past 10, eat sweets, wear shorts (not booty shorts, normal ones), grow my nails,wear makeup, watch movies/tv series, dye my hair (normal colours)... show more
    I'm turning 18 this year but I'm not allowed to meet friends, have sleepovers (same gender), go out alone (during daytime of course),play computer games,stay up past 10, eat sweets, wear shorts (not booty shorts, normal ones), grow my nails,wear makeup, watch movies/tv series, dye my hair (normal colours) or get an ear piercing amongs many more things my classmates are allowed to do. Of course I don't want to smoke or drink like a lot of my classmates, some of which are only 15-16 but I would at least like to have sleepoverd.
    25 answers · 4 days ago
  • Son won't get a job?

    I am the father of three kids (one with ex-wife, two with my fiancée). And my first son who is almost twenty-one has been making me and my fiancée's lives a living hell and I don't know what else to do because he is on the verge of falling out with me completely. It seems that my other kids, who are 6 and... show more
    I am the father of three kids (one with ex-wife, two with my fiancée). And my first son who is almost twenty-one has been making me and my fiancée's lives a living hell and I don't know what else to do because he is on the verge of falling out with me completely. It seems that my other kids, who are 6 and 11, are more mature than he is. He has only worked a few jobs for a few days, and has quit every single one for whatever reason. He lived with us until six months ago, when we set him up for college and a few room mates to stay with (who we personally know). He seemed ecstatic about this so he packed his bags and left. I was happy he was going because I was already fed up of hearing him argue with my fiancée, who he never liked since the day she met him. Well, a few months later, we received emails from his room mates asking if we can take our son back to the house. Because apparently, he's quit college and isn't getting along with them at all. He's locked them out of the apartment at times and has invited his friends over without permission. So, we talk to him, and he's expecting me and my fiancée to pay for a new apartment he can move in himself, and said his room mates are all sorts. We responded by saying no (we gotta pay for our own needs and our two other children), and now, he's sending fairly abusive mail calling us useless. We stopped paying for his bike and he's not happy about me getting married and trying to turn me against my fiancée. What else can I do?
    8 answers · 16 hours ago
  • My 15 year old daughter is out of hand, was it that much of a mistake to slap her?

    my 15 year old daughter is out of her mind! She has not been doing anything! No homework ,no clean room, talking back 24/7, I got a call from her teacher the other day about her being disrespectful.... I’ve been in the military for most of my life it’s either my way or no way So when her mom asked her to clean... show more
    my 15 year old daughter is out of her mind! She has not been doing anything! No homework ,no clean room, talking back 24/7, I got a call from her teacher the other day about her being disrespectful.... I’ve been in the military for most of my life it’s either my way or no way So when her mom asked her to clean her room yesterday She just said “Later” And she never cleaned it, so when I came into her room today it want like this- “What did mom tell you to do yesterday?” “I don’t care what she says” “Gett off your phone and give it to me,I’m taking to you so have some respect and look at me when I’m taking to you, I’ve raised you better than this ” “Why do I always need to do what you say?! I don’t want to clean my room or give you my phone!” At this point his voice started raising “You live in my house, eat from my food , you have clothes to wear, you go to school! And until you live underneath my roof you’re going to do what I say no questions asked! Am I clear enough? Now give me your phone and do your homework” “ wow dad just stop being so annoying I’m not going to do my homework right now” “You getting an education isn’t open for discussion … ever. so sit your *** down and do as you are told” I ended up grabbing the phone out of her hand and slapped her, yes I know I should have never hit her. but I could never imagine that I raised that much of a brat! And yes I do regret that slap. but for the first time in a while I saw a clean room and well made homework.
    8 answers · 19 hours ago
  • My mom makes fun of me?

    my mom always laughs at me, she laughs at my clothes/style, my acne, my weight. most people say to brush it off, but it happens constantly and it makes me insecure and shy. anytime i do or say anything, she has to tell her friends or the rest of my family. a lot of the time i lack confidence and show my... show more
    my mom always laughs at me, she laughs at my clothes/style, my acne, my weight. most people say to brush it off, but it happens constantly and it makes me insecure and shy. anytime i do or say anything, she has to tell her friends or the rest of my family. a lot of the time i lack confidence and show my insecureness. i can't talk because she never listens.
    7 answers · 8 hours ago
  • My daughters father who abandoned her wants to see her but she doesnt want to see him?

    Best answer: At 16 years, your daughter is old enough to understand that her father abandoned her, and she's old enough to understand that he probably feels guilty and wants to get to know her. She can navigate through this situation well enough, don't worry. You've always been there for her, and she knows she can... show more
    Best answer: At 16 years, your daughter is old enough to understand that her father abandoned her, and she's old enough to understand that he probably feels guilty and wants to get to know her. She can navigate through this situation well enough, don't worry. You've always been there for her, and she knows she can count on you in the event she needs advice. Just let her know that you love her and that you're always open to her. Best wishes.
    9 answers · 2 days ago
  • I told my daughter to give her doll to a little girl and she got upset with me?

    I was at the airport with my daughter and we were waiting in line to check in for our flight. My daughter had an American Girl doll with her and we saw a little girl looking at it. I told her she should give it to the little girl because it would make her happy. She refused, saying she worked hard to save the money... show more
    I was at the airport with my daughter and we were waiting in line to check in for our flight. My daughter had an American Girl doll with her and we saw a little girl looking at it. I told her she should give it to the little girl because it would make her happy. She refused, saying she worked hard to save the money and she wasn't going to give it to some random kid, even if it would make her happy. Is my daughter a bad person? I kept telling her the girl would be very happy and she still refused to do her part in making her happy. I've tried to teach her to think of others before herself, but it never sticks.
    15 answers · 3 days ago
  • My mom makes fun of me for being a loner?

    I am 14-years-old and I am a loner at school. I just started at a new school about a month ago and I came in having no friends. Everyday I just go sit in the library and use my phone. A lot of people actually do that. Lunch is 40 minutes and I just spend my time doing that, I feel comfortable doing that but my mom... show more
    I am 14-years-old and I am a loner at school. I just started at a new school about a month ago and I came in having no friends. Everyday I just go sit in the library and use my phone. A lot of people actually do that. Lunch is 40 minutes and I just spend my time doing that, I feel comfortable doing that but my mom is bullying me for that. Whenever I come home she asks me "Have you made any friends?" I always tell her no and she calls me a loser and she laughs at me. She also yells at me. She calls me "Lonely boy" instead of my real name and it's really getting me mad and I am suicidal now. I think about dying everyday now. I prefer to be alone at school. I don't want any friends but she doesn't understand that. What should I do? I hate my life now.
    7 answers · 12 hours ago
  • If you have children how many of each sex would you like to have?

    Best answer: I would want to have a son and daughter, both close to the same age, about 1 to 2 years apart.
    Best answer: I would want to have a son and daughter, both close to the same age, about 1 to 2 years apart.
    7 answers · 15 hours ago
  • Wow was my mother right to do this ?

    Best answer: Sound like your mother is such a Bitchz and she is making you feel bad, guilt tripping and messing around your head.
    I suggest stay away from if she is unsupportive. The best revenge is she never gets to be your son's grandmother if she is being nasty toward you.
    Best answer: Sound like your mother is such a Bitchz and she is making you feel bad, guilt tripping and messing around your head.
    I suggest stay away from if she is unsupportive. The best revenge is she never gets to be your son's grandmother if she is being nasty toward you.
    21 answers · 5 days ago
  • I offended my Baby Boomer Father?

    I tried to tell him that today s economy isn t what it was when he was raising a family, where companies are paying nearly half of what his generation was getting for the same positions, both parents didn t have to work (typically),and benefits are harder to come by to support a family. So it s actually a good... show more
    I tried to tell him that today s economy isn t what it was when he was raising a family, where companies are paying nearly half of what his generation was getting for the same positions, both parents didn t have to work (typically),and benefits are harder to come by to support a family. So it s actually a good thing that baby boomers have to pay a little. He disagreed and was pissed that I even suggested that. I'm not blaming him, I am just so used to hearing him brag about how he made made a lot of money and people shouldn't complain because he managed to raise a family with my mom "on their own". What he fails to acknowledge is the people who do the same job as him make less than half what he did, and my mom got to stay home to raise the kids. I never used to argue with him on it.... until he brought up the new prescription drug law. Did I do something wrong?
    7 answers · 17 hours ago
  • How to convince my parents this?

    So this has been a topic I have been discussing with my mom for 3 years now, but I am too nervous to tell my dad. I want to go to a university in California (I am not even applying to any other state), mainly because I love that state and literally ALL my family (on both my mom/dad side) lives there. Its like a... show more
    So this has been a topic I have been discussing with my mom for 3 years now, but I am too nervous to tell my dad. I want to go to a university in California (I am not even applying to any other state), mainly because I love that state and literally ALL my family (on both my mom/dad side) lives there. Its like a home away from home. I wanted to convince my dad to let me live with my aunt and attend my senior year of high school at in Orange County. Its beneficial because I am going to get in-state tuition and also my chances of getting in will be higher (they prioritize Californian residents), Anyways, any tips on how to convince my dad (my mom is on board with it, but they are divorced so she isnt really much help with the communicating part).
    7 answers · 17 hours ago
  • Parents: If a grown child lived with you, would you charge them rent?

    My friend is having some issues. She's 21 and still a little unclear about what she wants to do in life. She's had a minimum wage job for a couple years that's part-time, but gets decent hours with it. There really isn't much room for advancement, but she stayed with it because she really enjoys... show more
    My friend is having some issues. She's 21 and still a little unclear about what she wants to do in life. She's had a minimum wage job for a couple years that's part-time, but gets decent hours with it. There really isn't much room for advancement, but she stayed with it because she really enjoys it. Her goal is to save a good portion of her paycheck for several years to go to college later so she minimize her debt and get things figured out. She does keep up with her personal expenses like car insurance/gas/etc. However, her mom thinks she should also be paying rent, but her dad says it's fine for her to live rent-free so she can save up more. Which side would you be on? Also, if your child worked a low-paying job, would you force them to apply for better jobs or let them make their own decisions?
    13 answers · 4 days ago
  • How do I break free from my family?

    Best answer: go no contact. they will be upset. and if your upset that they will be upset it only shows you care. not use that caring and do that to yoruself. because only you can.. others can yet it's not their job .. it is however your job for your life! i want to dive deeper if you will. I am 24. <-- old enought... show more
    Best answer: go no contact. they will be upset. and if your upset that they will be upset it only shows you care. not use that caring and do that to yoruself. because only you can.. others can yet it's not their job .. it is however your job for your life!


    i want to dive deeper if you will.
    I am 24. <-- old enought to move out and live your life as you want.
    I have been having a lot of thought about life lately. In a year or a few years, I will be going on a long road trip with my childhood friend. We want to go away from the stress out on us by our families and social elements. <-- and you have someone to do it with. Sweet.

    I believe this would be a chance for me to discover my purpose. <- yes that is correct. just can't happen inside a home you got to live that life you got!

    It will be the same for him. His family holds him back and so does his girlfriend. I feel the same towards my family. My family loves me. But I feel like I live in a toxic environment. My mom is autopiloting on religious ceremonies, work, and her marriage. But she always depends on me for help. I don't want this to be my purpose in life. It's stressful and turns me into a slave to the family. <-- yeah i get that feeling. sounds like your the king/queen of the house. everyone looking up to you for answers. and when you give them those answers your saying yes i' want this job.. stop enabling them. if you can't do that then yes move far away.

    My youngest sister doesn't do anything productive. <-- why should she when everyone else does it for her? sounds like your mom enables that ./
    She doesn't do well in school. Parents spoiled her. <-- your not to blame parents are tho. I am expected to help her with her homework? and what happens when you don't meet that expecation? do you get punished? hit? kicked out? i'd not meet those expectations and see what happens if you don't know. Maybe ti's not as bad as you think and your just taking the lead because no one else will and your the picky one. ( living on your own will help you find out if that is true)

    When I grew up, nobody helped me get my grades. My other sister keeps bringing her boyfriend over. My mom dislikes him. <-- cool some people get help some dont. you had chances to get help.. sadly you would of had to find that out on your own threw your school. however expecting parents to help liek you help your younger sister is a lofty expecation.

    She always tells me how she feels about the guy. But why should this be my concern? <--- if you listen you made it your concern. be direct. mom i don't really want to talk bad about others. it's not the person i'm trying to be. Nothing wrong with it i just don't want to take part. <--- (she might say oh your too good for this conversation) you say well i wouldn't word it that way.. but yeah! this doesn't help me achieve my goals in life. and I want to focus on my own growth..


    This morning she (my mother) told me to build up my credit to buy us a house. <- she wants you to buy her a house. to ,live with you. hahahahahaha as hard as it would be. i would start making jokes about assistant living houses. and nursing homes. if you wanted a house mom you should of raised me in one. you get what you put in.. if i buy a house it would be an assistnat living place. with other people like minded. i'm not your caretaker and i'm working hard so i dont have to be when your old. that way i can get you the care you need. (play the part it will shut her up) she also will use any means needed to get you to change your mind. crying, blackmail, guilt trips, punishements, hanging stuff over your head .. Nothing is off the table. so prepare yourself for that.


    She says it's not right to not have a house. I stayed silent. <- don't see thinks she has you hook line and sincer. I grew up as an only child with a narc mom. so i know what your talking about.

    But what she told me is just what she believes. I don't want to be obligated to buy a house, for a family that I don't care about in the least. She wants to live with me? I don't want to be stuck with my mother forever. I love my family. But I am tired. <-- then put your foot down and stop taking their problems as your own. learn to say i'm sorry your dealing with that problem What are you going to do about it?
    A friend of mine is going threw the same thing. I hear it's hard to cope with. Hope it gets better soon.
    DO NOT OFFER TO HELP. just offer your pity and call it a day!
    9 answers · 2 days ago
  • My mom throw away expensive watch during cleaning..?

    My mom lives with us. Sometimes she likes cleaning. I always tell her not to because my husband I take care of the house and it is never dirty, but she anyway like when it is super duper clean. The problem is that it becomes a habit for her to threw away expensive stuff (by accident of course). The first time she... show more
    My mom lives with us. Sometimes she likes cleaning. I always tell her not to because my husband I take care of the house and it is never dirty, but she anyway like when it is super duper clean. The problem is that it becomes a habit for her to threw away expensive stuff (by accident of course). The first time she throw away a huge bag with decoration stuff from AC moore which was sitting in the chair in the basement. Now she throw away several hundred dollars japanese watch that I bought for my husband. The box was on the dining table because I was about to return the watch back to the mall and get another model he likes more. When I ask her just not to touch anything and not to clean she gets offended. I mean these accidents cost a lot. Total waste that went to trash ( and got picked up by a garbage truck) is around $500. I just needed to share...
    6 answers · 8 hours ago