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  • Naturalization and child custody?

    I want to apply for naturalization as I have been a lawful permanent resident for 10 years. The situation is that during the time this process may take, my ex-wife wants to move out of the US to a foreign country (neither mine or hers of origin) to get married. We have joint custody and I will fight if needed to keep the child, US born teenager who does not want leave, here in the US with me. I have two questions:

    1) If there is a change of status in where she lives (right now the application shows her living at a different address plus my youngest child with current spouse living with me) affect in anyway the process? I am submitting proof of child support as well, and even that should change once she resides with me. Would it best to wait until this ordeal is over to file?

    2) If I remain a permanent resident, should I have any issues in keeping her with me versus my being a citizen? I am going to consult with an attorney, but until then I am anxious and any feedback and experiences are welcome.

    1 AnswerEmbassies & Consulates3 years ago
  • Would you leave your one-year-old?

    This happened many many years ago to someone I know. The child in question, today an adult says he is okay with it because he doesn't remember. What do you think?

    Parents have an opportunity to spend a month traveling abroad, just the two of them. Back home there are grandparents, aunts and uncles to care for the child. Mind you back in the day it was not easy to contact someone far away in case of an emergency. Regardless, would you leave your child behind, even with good support, for a prolonged vacation?

    7 AnswersParenting4 years ago
  • Toddler harness: yay or nay?

    Guilty as charged. When I was childless I could not fathom children in harnesses. Now I have a 16-month-old boy who is a tornado and though I still find it demeaning, I want him to be safe. He pulls and pulls to release his hand from mine. Any other suggestions?

    12 AnswersToddler & Preschooler4 years ago
  • I want to take my son out of daycare?

    He's been there for a less than a month, 3x a week. They've given him ice cold milk because they do not warm it in the toddlers room, but failed to tell me until after the fact. Twice they've changed him only three times in eight hours. It's an expensive place with swimming classes included and a gym. I bring him in his swimsuit and pool shoes exactly when swimming class begins, so after that the bathe him and put suit and shoes, both dripping wet, and send it home. That's okay, but yesterday when I picked him up nearly 6 p.m. he still had his pool shoes on. They were dry and I asked him if they had been playing outside with water and the teacher said yes. When I actually get to the car and I sit him in the seat I look down at his feet and I see blisters that broke and skinned them. The picture did not upload here, but he's pretty hurt. I went back in and one of the assistants said that they had not been playing outside with water, only in the morning. So they had changed him and never put on his socks and his sneakers, they left him with his shoes from the pool all day, wet until it dried. He won't be able to wear socks and shoes for a couple of days. My husband thinks we should complain and give them a chance to change, but I say just take him out and look for another place. I had been to so many daycares before and I decided on this one because of the cleanliness and because of the activities. They show it so nicely. What would you do?

    10 AnswersToddler & Preschooler4 years ago
  • I need to short slogan to capture Realtors to our brokerage?

    I've been thinking about playing with movie catch phrases or something current and clever, but haven't had much luck. The leverage is earning more than other companies and even extra income provided, and lots of training, but all that is explained on the website. What I need is something that compels Realtors to open the sponsored ad and apply. Suggestions are very welcome and appreciated.

    2 AnswersRenting & Real Estate4 years ago
  • Do not want my child near MIL?

    Long story short, I have seen her ignore my son in front of me, but when husband comes into the room she makes this big circus around the baby. We have long since become estranged. We do not like each other and all hell broke loose the day I called her BS out in front of my husband. We have also gone to therapy and he understands we are water and oil. He still sees her on occasion, but has been asking me to take our child to see her. The therapist believes I should for husband's sake. He is oblivious to her deviousness, and while I do not think she will physically harm the child, I do not believe for second she really cares about him. One thing is to dislike me, the other is to blatantly ignore him in front of me and then putting on a show of a loving grandmother in front of her son. I do not feel that keeping him away from her is punishing her, rather a way of not allowing her to use my son and/or play with his feelings some day? What would you do?

    7 AnswersFamily4 years ago
  • Allegations of Elderly abuse in FL?

    BPD 77 yo mom "overdosed" on pills two days ago. She was not unconscious when I found her and ER doctor was skeptical about her overdose because she was grabbing the sides of the bed, not lethargic at all. Faking for attention is one of BPD's traits. Yesterday Adult Protection Investigator came to interview me. She alleges that I treat her like a dog, confine her and she took a full bottle of pills (her med bottles are in the hospital - none were empty). I am not worried in the sense that I know I've done nothing, but I am her sponsor in the US. I do not want her home any longer with these allegations hovering over my head. I refuse to walk on eggshells because she may tell the next person the same thing over and over and perpetuate a legal battle. I cannot afford assisted living for her, she does not qualify for nursing home and she is leaving the hospital tomorrow or Saturday. She has no other family member who wants her, no friends, really nobody likes her. Will social services find her placement if I do not want her home anymore? What happens in a case like this? Deeply concerned for my family, I have a baby. Thank you.

    1 AnswerLaw & Ethics5 years ago
  • 6-month-old baby does not want his formula.?

    My son just turned 6 months old. He had gastric problems early on, and because of a newly found heart condition and medication, I had to stop breastfeeding at seven weeks. He was very constipated, we'd tried several formulas until the doctor told us to give him Nutraimagen. It has a foul odor and taste, but I use to add some juice to it. He started on cereal, Gerber fruit and veggies at 4 months. For the last few weeks he's been eating oatmeal + 1 oz formula + fruit twice a day, and rice cereal + 1 oz formula + veggie at lunch. He is refusing the bottle more and more, he usually takes it a little better when he is sleepy, and now he is getting semi constipated again. He's also teething. I'm taking him back to the doctor soon, but I am wondering if this has happened to more children and from this point on it will be more solids than formula? Or how have you fixed this, please? Thank you.

    4 AnswersNewborn & Baby5 years ago
  • Someone I know is pretending to be a real estate agent?

    Actually, she is bringing clients from her country, where she currently resides, but she been advertising in social media that she would be in town and open for showing properties to her friends who live in the area. I searched for her license here and it says current inactive. I am sure she has someone to work with and do the paperwork, but isn't this advertisement illegal? I am in the same business, we met once but have friends in common, and it really annoys me that people come take our business like it is nothing. Should the DBPR be notified? This is in FL if it helps. What would you do?

    6 AnswersLaw & Ethics6 years ago
  • My 6 year-old shih-tzu mix was spayed this morning?

    She urinated around 7AM, I picked her up at 3 PM, and she is yet to urinate again. She is groggy, and when I put her on the grass, she wags her tail and just looks at me with those oh-so sad eyes. Is this the norm? I have given her a little bit of water with a syringe and I also a high calorie canine paste to at least give her some energy. Should I worry if she does not pee at all today? I'm calling the vet but haven't gotten and answer yet. Your input is appreciated.

    3 AnswersDogs6 years ago
  • Would you allow your child to join the Boy Scouts?

    It is too soon to ask I guess, but I am having boy this spring and of course I am thinking of all the things I believe would add to his life positively, and hopefully get him engaged with these things if he so chooses. My mother on the other hand keeps telling me it's not a good idea to have him join BSA because there have been lost boys and girls when camping, too many pedophiles out there, etc. What is your experience? What is the recruiting of volunteers like - how rigorous? Your input in any matter you find relevant will be much appreciated.

    11 AnswersParenting6 years ago
  • Can a foreigner become a partner in a real estate company in Florida, and this way also obtain an immigrant visa to remain in the USA?

    If so, will it extend to his immediate family - wife and minor children? My husband and I want to open our own real estate company, and have a friend from out of the country who has two income properties here and is a professional. He would like to establish himself here with his family and was thinking of purchasing a business. We are thinking that if he could become our partner it would kill two birds with one stone, because of course we would have financial help in opening the office and all. We will look into an immigration lawyer of course, but if you have any experience with this, your input will be much appreciated.

    5 AnswersImmigration6 years ago
  • Musculoskeletal pain since 16 weeks pregnant?

    I am currently 18 weeks along and since the day after Thanksgiving I have been in pain ranging from 2 to 10 in intensity with only a few hours of some relief all these days. It started as a nerve pain from the elbow down to my fingers, alternating each arm every two days or so. It has escalated to the bicep muscles, forearm muscles (don't know their names), hand and wrists to a point I could not lift my arms, drive or function at all. Mornings are the worst, heat pads or warm showers make the pain come on stronger, and only ice gives some relief. I have been to the ER, my OBGYN, Chiropractor and Hand specialist (my PCP apparently thought this was carpal tunnel syndrome). All tell me the same thing: wait it out. I was prescribed Tylenol+codeine by my OBGYN, though I was scared to take it, two days later I took one pill and it did nothing to stop or better the pain. Today I have sore muscles (no nerve pain, thank God) in my arms, left leg, left knee and left groin - all related to pregnancy hormones. Waiting it out is not exactly the best thing to do when you already want to cut off your arms because of the pain. Anyone has been through this? How did you cope? Please, some insight will be very welcome. Thank you.

    Pregnancy6 years ago
  • Gestational Diabetes?

    I had a miscarriage in July, got pregnant again in August and saw my OBGYN on 09/18. He sent me to do lab work and since then I've been back to see him twice - he said everything was fine. Yesterday I saw him and the receptionist asked me to sign up for the new patient portal, which I did the same night and saw that as of 09/21/14 I had Diabetes Mellitus. I called the doctor and he sent that I didn't have anything wrong, but he 'would check' - haven't heard from him. I just don't trust him anymore (I had been complaining for three weeks of extra yellow discharge and he told me I'd be fine - now I'm on medication because I have a bad infection). I am planning on changing doctors if the insurance will allow me, but until then I want to eat as if I really have developed the gestational diabetes. Online is not that helpful - each site says something different. Eat lots of fruit, don't eat lots of fruit, don't drink milk, drink one glass per meal, etc. Please, if you have or have had this, give me some ideas of what I can eat and how much until I am able to get checked again by another doctor. Thanks.

    4 AnswersDiabetes6 years ago
  • Gestational Diabetes?

    I had a miscarriage in July, got pregnant again in August and saw my OBGYN on 09/18. He sent me to do lab work and since then I've been back to see him twice - he said everything was fine. Yesterday I saw him and the receptionist asked me to sign up for the new patient portal, which I did the same night and saw that as of 09/21/14 I had Diabetes Mellitus. I called the doctor and he sent that I didn't have anything wrong, but he 'would check' - haven't heard from him. I just don't trust him anymore (I had been complaining for three weeks of extra yellow discharge and he told me I'd be fine - now I'm on medication because I have a bad infection). I am planning on changing doctors if the insurance will allow me, but until then I want to eat as if I really have developed the gestational diabetes. Online is not that helpful - each site says something different. Eat lots of fruit, don't eat lots of fruit, don't drink milk, drink one glass per meal, etc. Please, if you have or have had this, give me some ideas of what I can eat and how much until I am able to get checked again by another doctor. Thanks.

    5 AnswersDiabetes6 years ago
  • How much should I charge for private ESL classes?

    I have started tutoring at the local library recently and some people have approached me to teach them privately. One specific woman has decent grammar, but needs more help in building confidence when presenting projects at work (medical field). I have no idea what the going rate is, but I was thinking somewhere around $15.00/hour. Is that too much or below average? I'm in South Florida. Thank you for your input.

    1 AnswerOther - Education6 years ago
  • Clomid after miscarriage?

    I had a miscarriage on 07/05 and got my period 8/8. It is a very, very heavy flow. My OBGYN had told me to start taking Clomid again on day 5 when I got AF again. When I took it before my period would lessen and stop altogether within 24 hours (my periods are usually 7-8 days long). I know some people take Clomid on day 3 - doc is not answering his phone so I left him a message asking if I could do the same so AF would go away sooner. I am feeling weak and dizzy with all the blood loss. I'm just asking for an opinion in case the doctor doesn't get back to me today. Does it matter if I take Clomid on day 3, first period after miscarriage, mainly to lessen the flow?

  • Women, do you read your husband's/boyfriend's emails?

    and go through their phones. I only ask because I see so many posts about how women find out or at least are worried about cheating, and then asking questions about what we think. I have never gone through my husband's things (maybe because I have never, so far, had reason to not trust him), and I believe he doesn't go through my things, either.

    Answers, thoughts, opinions. Why have you or haven't you snooped?

    9 AnswersMarriage & Divorce6 years ago
  • Question for the Mormons - Double Standards?

    True story - ten years ago a mormon man started dating a non-mormon woman. He was separated from his wife who was living in Utah (they were in another state), but for certain immigration aspects they had not officially divorced yet. Non-mormon woman becomes pregnant, he freaks out and demands a termination because the Elders and bishops, whatever, could not find out he was with another woman at home and he could get excommunicated (not sure if this is the correct term in your church). Double standard, right? Abortion was A-OK as long as no one ever heard of it. He did her wrong in many ways - very abusive. Obviously they split and eventually he moves to Utah, gets divorced and marries another non-mormon- woman - then-converted, has a child and eventually divorces - not a nice record, right?

    Anyway, a few years after the fact this woman finds one of the main churches in Salt Lake City, gives out dates, names and what occurred. She wanted him 'punished' for his dues and wanted at least to know that not all Mormons were not the same. NOT ONE WORD AS A RESPONSE. Nothing, zilch, nada. No "we'll look into it and get back to you".

    My question is: are Mormons a closed community to hold in their own dirt like this douche bad did? Why is that not one member ever called or emailed back with at least more questions? After all, from what I was told, the members need to live by the highest standards. Is it okay to screw up a non-member's life but not one of the members?

    5 AnswersReligion & Spirituality6 years ago
  • Has anyone ever been exposed to someone with chicken pox/shingles while pregnant?

    I am almost seven weeks and my MIL came on a visit (again) for a full week. A few days ago she complained about pain on her side (only today my husband told me there were red spots). Two days ago she had 103.7 fever and felt like she was coming down with a cold, but refused to go to the doctor. Yesterday she left for the other son's house. I guess because he has a three-year-old, he didn;t give her a choice and took to the doctor: Shingles. My doctor said not to worry yet, and I am due for blood test results tomorrow - the kind that also tell you if you are immune to certain diseases, including the chicken pox. Until then, I am worried. I've read there is a small chance the child may have serious health issues, physical and mental, if the mother gets chicken pox during pregnancy. I only had the immunization as a baby in the 70's, never again. Any thoughts, please?

    2 AnswersPregnancy6 years ago