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I'm a 42 year old mother of four, grand-mother of three and live with my 11 year old son. I love sport, particularly athletics and rugby union - used to run a lot when I was young. Lastly I'm clairvoyant - well more clairaudient to be precise - but don't practice much, just with family and friends. I'm also a Celtic Christian (combination of Paganism and Christianity).

  • Are my feelings of betrayal justified?

    My ex husband took off in 2003 saying after 17 years he didn't want to be a father any more. Left me to raise four children - two with special needs on my own. Three of those children have grown up now - two have children of their own. One of these is now back in touch with their dad. Thing is this dad, apart from abandoning them 9 years ago used to abuse them.

    This contact has been in place for some time apparently and today is the first I've heard of it. Also I've heard from someone else that this is happening. My eldest child told me so I know it's true.

    My ex husband is nothing to do with me any more I know this and my daughter is old enough to make her own decisions. It really shouldn't be anything to do with me. So why does it feel like it IS my business, she SHOULD have told me and I've been betrayed?

    6 AnswersMarriage & Divorce8 years ago
  • My complete trust in my fiance has been totally abused. How will I ever get over it?

    I've been with him for 2 and a half years and we got engaged at the end of January this year. He had to ask me three times because I didn't believe him. We've had money troubles this year, a failed business and another shop that we opened in August that he wanted me to run that was doing ok but never seemed to have much money. So he was doing a driving job at weekends and nights to earn extra money. On 8th December I discovered after joining Facebook that he's been having an affair for the last 8 months with a 25 year old woman (he's 47) two villages away and wasn't in fact doing a driving job - he'd been with her. I also discovered that when he went to Spain for a week to supposedly fit a new PA system in his friend's nightclub that he was actually in Skegness with her and her kids for a family holiday! And, that's where they got engaged. So from September to December he was engaged to me as well as her. When I confronted him he denied it but then left me the following day and they've already set the wedding date for 31st January next year (09). I can't tell you how hurt I am. I did everything for him, ran his baths, scrubbed his back, massaged his aching shoulders, and never raised my voice to him once or hassled him about anything in all the time we were together. I trusted him completely and he's betrayed me in the worst possible way. I never had him down as cruel either and booking the wedding so soon is just heartless and cold - something I never thought him capable of. I hear he's now running around after her like I used to do for him but regardless of all that, I can't believe he had me running the shop for him at the expense of my studies (I'm in my Finals year at university), took her on holiday when I was struggling to put food on the table or pay the bills, and then be engaged to both of us at the same time! We were also 'intimate' at every opportunity - even the night before he left, so I have a lot of questions and few answers but I can't help but think I'll never trust another man again. He promised me from the very first day that he'd never cheat, his ex wife had done it to him so he knew how hurtful it was so he never could and he kept telling me this. I have a list of over 250 lies that he's fed me and I just can't believe he's done this! He used me so completely.

    How will I ever trust anyone again?

    2 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships1 decade ago
  • Please help! No gas and can't get anyone to put some on for me! We're all freezing?

    My partner left me this week and took the gas card with him for the pre-payment meter. I'm with Southern Electirc. They are supposed to be sending me a new card out but have made a hash of it and instead of it coming on Wednesday it's now either going to be tomorrow or Tuesday! I've had two top ups yesterday and the day before but you can't get topped up if there is even one penny of credit on. Only then will they give you some more. So the gas went off at half four this afternoon and guess what! They're closed. I ring the number they gave me for more top ups and guess what! They don't own the meter. Thing is Transco don't own the meter - 'Meter Fit' own it. Their website doesn't have a contact phone number and we're freezing. I'm having an op tomorrow for my cervical cancer and I have a young son and he's been ill this week too. I just want some gas! Can anyone give me a number to ring please to get some?

    6 AnswersOther - Home & Garden1 decade ago
  • What have you learned, good or bad, from your parents?

    From my mum I've learned how to cook, sew, keep house and be devoted to my family. From my dad I learned there are always at least two sides to a story, that you should think carefully before you act, oh and how to have your own opinion, regardless of what you're being told.

    What I've learned NOT to do is nag (mum - champion at it) and sulking (dad - another champion). From my parents collectively I have learned self discipline, manners, and devotion to my partner and children. They also taught me how to read by the age of 3 something of which I'm incredibly grateful for.

    What have your parents taught you?

    2 AnswersFamily1 decade ago
  • Is Obama's election as significant as Nelson Mandela's?

    From a historical perspective. I think it is (I'm English by the way and stayed up all night to watch the results) and I honestly think Obama's success will change the face of the world for ever!

    Your thoughts please.

    26 AnswersElections1 decade ago
  • How has the credit crunch affected you?

    We consider ourselves fairly lucky even though one of our two small shops has gone bust since the summer and the other one isn't far behind. At least we 're earning something even though we're not by any means paying the bills and are up to our ears in debt. How has it affected anyone else?

    2 AnswersSmall Business1 decade ago
  • Are my older brothers my mother's next of kin before me?

    My eldest brother has today told me that he's officially our mother's next of kin by virtue of him being the eldest. Is this true? I thought as children of the same person we'd all have equal status. My dad was the youngest of four and he registered the deaths of both his parents as 'next of kin' - and this was while all his older siblings were still alive. I'm confused. What's the legal (UK) standpoint on this please?

    3 AnswersLaw & Ethics1 decade ago
  • I've probably got cancer and I can't get my head round it?

    I've heard today that there is a good chance I have cervical cancer and I can't get my head round it. I already knew there was something wrong so I went for the test and sure enough.....

    I'm in my final year at university, it looks like my mum has dementia and I'm scared stiff about that, and finances are such that we need me to work full time.

    I've told my 17 year old son to find somewhere else to live tonight too. He's been driving me mad for years and I've just had enough.

    My other children are fantastic. It's my daughter's 21st birthday on Monday and she saw the letter today and went to pieces. My fiance has gone to pieces too and so have I. My head's all over the place. I had years and years of being completely miserable in my first marriage and am ridiculously happy now with my new man and I can't help thinking I've gone through all that in the past only for it all to be taken away from me. I know I'm probably over-reacting but I just can't believe my luck.

    Can someone who's gone through this please give me some words of encouragement?

    7 AnswersCancer1 decade ago
  • I'm in a bit of a mess?

    I've heard today that there is a good chance I have cervical cancer and I can't get my head round it. I already knew there was something wrong so I went for the test and sure enough.....

    I'm in my final year at university, it looks like my mum has dementia and I'm scared stiff about that, and finances are such that we need me to work full time.

    I've told my 17 year old son to find somewhere else to live tonight too. He's been driving me mad for years and I've just had enough.

    My other children are fantastic. It's my daughter's 21st birthday on Monday and she saw the letter today and went to pieces. My fiance has gone to pieces too and so have I. My head's all over the place. I had years and years of being completely miserable in my first marriage and am ridiculously happy now with my new man and I can't help thinking I've gone through all that in the past only for it all to be taken away from me. I know I'm probably over-reacting but I just can't believe my luck.

    Can someone who's gone through this please give me some words of encouragement?

    5 AnswersWomen's Health1 decade ago
  • Are we having more hurricanes and tropical storms than usual?

    Is it just me, or are we having more violent weather these days? Can hurricanes be explained as a result of global warming? Quite honestly, as a Brit I'm SICK of the bad weather. Wherever you are in the world, all the things you hear about English weather have been so true this year and last and it's so depressing!

    If global warming is to blame, it's yet another example of how it's affecting the world, and yet still we seem to be reluctant to do anything at all about it.

    So, the fact that we seem to have so many of these storms just lately just makes me wonder if it's unusual or if it's normal.

    18 AnswersGlobal Warming1 decade ago
  • Apparently women go for men who look like their dad?

    So says some study anyway. Do we? My partner looks nothing like my dad except for the bald head. Zoe Ball's husband Norman they reckon, looks just like her dad Johnny Ball! They're blind!

    Seriously though girls and boys, are you attracted to people who look like one of your parents?

    38 AnswersPolls & Surveys1 decade ago
  • Can you help me regarding changes in egistration districts and Parish boundary?

    On a single census record it is often the case that four different place names can be mentioned - the village or town, the parish, the ecclesiastical district and the registration district. This is fine if you're familiar with the area in which you're researching but extremely difficult for unfamiliar places. In addition of course, boundaries have changed. In over 15 years of researching my family history I still haven't been able to find a website or any source whatsoever that can give me any details on them i.e. when boundaries changed, what they changed to, or even what villages were included within parishes or registration districts. Does anyone know of a website that can help me?

    2 AnswersGenealogy1 decade ago
  • Dwain Chambers?

    I've just been reminiscing on you tube and watched our lads win the 4 x 100m relay in the Athens Olympics. Darren Campbell who for years and years struggled with injury but was clean the whole time was in tears. His face at that moment exemplifies what the Olympic spirit is supposed to be about. He's lost medals through Dwain Chambers admitting to cheating and yet Chambers is planning to sue the British Olympic Committee if they don't select him for the Beijing Games. Who DOES he think he is?

    He's tried American Football then rugby league but he's rubbish at both of them. So he goes back to athletics as he knows he's got a chance and I suppose he thinks that in time the circuit will forgive him and start inviting him to their meetings again so he can earn big bucks. I feel really sad for athletes such as Darren Campbell who have shed blood sweat and tears only for greedy cheats like Chambers to stick 2s up at all their hard work.

    Does Chambers have the right to moan?

    1 AnswerOlympics1 decade ago
  • Why is it a more serious crime to kill a policeman than killing anyone else?

    Surely a person is a person and the crime should be viewed the same. I know all murders are not so straightforward but just for the sake of argument, a man shoots a passerby and shoots a police officer dead and yet the bigger portion of his sentence would be for killing the police officer. Is this fair?

    11 AnswersOther - Society & Culture1 decade ago
  • A history project on the abolition of the slave trade written by a white person. Right or wrong?

    A strange question I know but I was at uni the other day and I was talking to the librarian who was asking me how my project had gone. I noticed there was a girl standing next to me and after I'd handed the books in she said 'so you've written about the slave trade then'. I told her I had and how I'd enjoyed it and how researching it had warmed my heart and made me cry with sadness and horror in equal measure.

    After a long pause she said 'well I really don't think a white person is best suited to write about such a subject'. I couldn't believe my ears. I just said 'why not?' 'Well you're not black are you?' she said. 'So...' 'Well I have slavery in my family tree' she told me 'and you wouldn't believe what happened to them'. I told her that after a whole year of researching the subject that I probably would.

    I hardly knew what to think about this conversation. In fact even now a few days later I'm quite disturbed by it.

    Your thoughts please

    9 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups1 decade ago
  • What will people in the year 4008 think of us in 2008?

    2000 years ago (give or take half a century) we had the Romans in Britain and we know how ingenious they were but also how barbaric and ruthless they could be too. So in 2000 years time what do you think human beings will say about us? Do you think they'll be horrified at global warming, capitalism and the selfishness of mankind and global poverty or will they be so advanced in their thinking that they won't give us a minute's thought? Will they imagine that the internet is a strange and very quaint invention and marvel that we still haven't discovered life on other planets? Will they snigger at our idea of the latest craze?

    Will our world of 2008 be the subject of derision and criticism to Planet Earth in 4008? I think so........!

    9 AnswersOther - Society & Culture1 decade ago
  • What do you think civilisation in the year 4008 will think of the world of 2008?

    2000 years ago (give or take half a century) we had the Romans in Britain and we know how ingenious they were but also how barbaric and ruthless they could be too. So in 2000 years time what do you think human beings will say about us? Do you think they'll be horrified at global warming, capitalism and the selfishness of mankind and global poverty or will they be so advanced in their thinking that they won't give us a minute's thought? Will they imagine that the internet is a strange and very quaint invention and marvel that we still haven't discovered life on other planets? Will they snigger at our idea of the latest craze? Will they wonder how we could possibly live in houses with staircases?

    Will our world of 2008 be the subject of derision and criticism to Planet Earth in 4008? I think so........!

    11 AnswersPhilosophy1 decade ago
  • Do you/can you leave your past behind you or does it haunt you?

    I've managed for the most part to put my past behind me but it's hard. For me it's my stubborn nature that I won't let the people who hurt me, keep hurting me. Otherwise they've won all over again. I've had to experience some really horrible things too but I've learned to handle them. I can honestly say I'm a happy contented person and that's a huge thing to be able to say.

    What about everyone else? Can you leave the dark times behind and move on?

    10 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships1 decade ago
  • Why do some people exaggerate the truth?

    Example, some years ago next door's dog attacked my little boy so my dog attacked that dog. My dog is five times the size of her dog that is young - fully grown but not a puppy. This happened in my garden - I saw it with my own eyes. I got my little boy inside and shouted the dog off and she obeyed and came inside. Before you know it word has got round that my dog went ballistic and attacked her dog for no reason and she had to spend hundreds of pounds at the vets. She was also telling people not to let their kids come round to my house cos the dog would attack them. I went to school to pick my son up only to be confronted by all her cronies that I had a dangerous dog that should be put down. I put them all straight and put her on the spot. Her dog had no injuries either so where did the vet story come from?

    I really can't stand people like this. I wouldn't trust that woman to tell me the time. Thing is she's like this with everybody.

    Why do people do this kind of thing

    15 AnswersOther - Society & Culture1 decade ago
  • Starving a dog to death for 'art'? Sign the petition!!!!?

    Starving a dog to death for 'art'? Sign the petition!!!!?

    www.theginblog.com/2007/10/artist-chains...

    Just have a look at this SICK individual and his 'art' and please sign the petition on the following link:

    http://www.petitiononline.com/ea6gk/peti...

    This 'artist's' work is apparently of such great importance to the art world that he's been invited to do it again!!!

    There's over 90,000 signatures so far - please add yours

    6 AnswersLaw & Ethics1 decade ago