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  • Am I wrong?

    So lately my fiancé and I haven’t been on the best of terms and honestly I’m kinda over it . So I live in a big city where I take public trans to work. So the way I usually go they been having detours and doing track work and it’s been making me late for work. So my mom and fiancé keep suggesting to me how I need to take another route because I can’t keep being late. Honestly I don’t give a ****. I really don’t. I feel as though i shouldn’t have to take another route to work because they wanna come when they feel

    Like coming. So they like oh well that’s on you and how I’m missing the point. All I gotta do is walk the same distance to the other bus. At least I’ll be on time. I feel like why can’t the bus I normally take just come when they suppose to come? I know it sounds dumb but I’m so tired of this **** everyday . He says how to change my ways and just maybe my life will b a smoother . I feel like just maybe if I left his *** just maybe my life would be stress free . Don’t play with me

    4 AnswersMental Health12 months ago
  • Should I let it go?

    Been engaged for a year now, been together for 9 years and we’re at the point where we are on the verge of breaking up. He said were not having enough sex and how we can’t have any kids there is nothing holding us back so why not have sex ? I feel like after 9 years I don’t always wanna have sex. After 9 years let’s talk about saving money to buy a house, how we can improve on us. Not about having sex everyday . It’s been very stressful for me. He even said if that’s the case then we don’t need to be together. He keep using his age as a excuse. He says I’m 36 I’m on the prime of my life. Like I’m not just satisfy with just having sex . I want more. When I talk about wedding I can tell that’s the last thing on his mind. To him he can’t see hisself marrying me cause the lack of sexy now. So right now he doesn’t wanna marry me. It hurts my feelings. To know the person you were with for 9 years will break up cause we’re not having sex as much as he want too . Once during a argument he said he didn’t wanna marry me. That still hurts me . I feel like that’s exactly how he feels

    10 AnswersMarriage & Divorce1 year ago
  • Why does he continue to lie to me?

    Now unfortunately this isn’t the first time he has lied to me. Sad part is we are engaged but I called off the engagement . Some months ago he asked how I felt about adding my mom to our cell phone plan? I told him I don’t think it’s a good idea simply because I went thru hell when I was on her phone plan. Make a long story short I remember the day he came back home with a tablet. He said he took my mom to buy a phone that’s under her name. I kept asking him did he add her? He said no. Fast forward to today I found out that he indeed did add my mom. To be honest I’m angry with her because as my mom she should’ve had a convo with me first simply cause she shouldn’t just be able to ask my fiancé for anything and not talk to me. So I found out n told him he still lied about it u til he couldnt lie anymore. He said he don’t know why he lied and how he did something nice for my mom. I told him he made me look like a fool. I talk to my mom n I told her how I felt. She claims she thought I knew about it. I did not know until today. He don’t see nothing he did wrong. He even told my mom how I really felt n he told her I said I don’t really want him to help her. I knew she wasn’t lying cause That’s exactly what I said . At this point I can’t trust him. How can we get married if he betrayed me like this

    4 AnswersFamily2 years ago
  • Should my fiancé get my hair done from time to time?

    I feel like we been together for 8 years and I feel like if he sees that my hair needs to be done why not offer to get my hair done? My real hair is falling out and breaking off bad and I feel like I’m too old to be walking around looking like anything. He says he’s not a mind reader and if I need it then I need to ask . I feel like we been together 8 years and I shouldn’t have to ask. Just goes to show he doesn’t pay attention. We are engaged and I feel like I gotta work everyday and pull doubles just to pay my bills and make sure I have what I need. We go half on bills and rent. He sat me he got other things in his mind so he not paying attention. Like he is my fiancé. If I gotta work everyday and can’t enjoy my place cuss I gotta work hard why is we together??

    5 AnswersMarriage & Divorce2 years ago
  • Why can’t he stop being friends with her?

    Ok so.. he been friends with his co worker for about 5 years now.. so couple years ago when I was pregnant she showed me her son crib n dresser set and said she was giving it to me because we need it. Now my issue with that was why would she give me a crib that her baby was sleeping in at that time? Did he tell her things for her to feel like we couldn’t afford one on our own? I told her how I felt n he still remained friends with her. Recently I seen some texts from her that was inappropriate. Her telling him how she misses him n was she gonna see him that night? Of course he said he wasn’t nothing and how she’s a married women and I have nothing to worry about. I gave him a ultimatum either stop being friends or it’s over. He said he stop talking to her but yesterday a text came thru and it was her. I asked him why is she texting him if y’all stop being friends? He’s like I don’t know I haven’t talk to her. My women instant said no they still talking because she wouldn’t had text him. Do I have a cheater on my hands?

    4 AnswersFriends2 years ago
  • Am I the problem?

    So I started at a temp factory for the holiday because I didn’t have a job at the time. So I started n everything was ok for the most part besides the communication from the lady that was training me. She would tell me to do one thing come back n say I never said that. Right off back I knew I wouldn’t b there long. Weeks later my fiancé started working there few days for extra money. So when he started the lady asked him If he knew me because of the same address. He said that he was my neighbor we live n the same building. We did that simply because they said no family were allowed or work together again but meanwhile the guy and his daughter both worked there n everyone knew bout it. We kept it low but I guess our chemistry was too strong. Weeks later a old neighbor started working there n days later everyone treated me differently.

    I knew she told them that we were together but for them to act like that I was on some **** all y’all . I was here before her n y’all just took what she said. What we did was not have everyone in our business. But the craziness of it all was they did not treat my fiancé any differently so infelt some type of way. My last day I was suppose to work but when I got there they treated me differently n said we don’t have any open register but I can do the snack stand. The job sent out a letter telling my fiancé that he was offered a job for the following year but of course I wasn’t invited back.

    2 AnswersFriends2 years ago
  • Is my fiancé sleeping around??

    I saw some messages between him n a chick he work with us. She telling him she miss him n love him. I have a serious problem with this . Not only are we engaged but she just got married and apparently she’s upset with his because he or should I say we didn’t come . So another female friend tell him how she would rather have his love then a gift. At this point I’m bout ready to start asking them questions cause when I ask him it’s always it’s nothing. Then he goes to one of they houses while I’m at work. But we are engaged. No wonder good things and blessings aren’t flowing in our lives like I would like. It hurts me feelings cause if I didn’t see the messages I would never know. After work he goes see her before coming home

    4 AnswersMarriage & Divorce2 years ago
  • Did my fiancé sleep with his co worker?

    I saw some messages between him n a chick he work with us. She telling him she miss him n love him. I have a serious problem with this . Not only are we engaged but she just got married and apparently she’s upset with his because he or should I say we didn’t come . So another female friend tell him how she would rather have his love then a gift. At this point I’m bout ready to start asking them questions cause when I ask him it’s always it’s nothing. Then he goes to one of they houses while I’m at work. But we are engaged. No wonder good things and blessings aren’t flowing in our lives like I would like. It hurts me feelings cause if I didn’t see the messages I would never know. After work he goes see her before coming home

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating2 years ago
  • Should I just call off the engagement?

    At this point I’m just numb. Numb to life numb to my feeling numb to everything. It’s like my mind is blocking all the negative **** . Ok so I recently just got engaged and things been ok. But TODAY things went left. Lately I’ve been noticing my work shirts smelling like Mildrew and for the life of me I could’ve figure out why. I have a brand new washer and dryer so it wasn’t making sense. So I found out that my fiancé has been air drying my clothes in the dryer. So today I said to him like that’s why my clothes stink and it turned into a big argument and he said how if I just do it myself I wouldn’t have this problem. How I’m blaming him. So it got heated and he put me out his car. I was upset and crying. He came back to pick me up. We argued again and he put me out his car for the second time. He said how I take him for granted and don’t appreciate him. So I took th ring off n left it n the car. That pissed him off . I feel like I’m not gonna fake this. Getting married is serious and if things is like this now I lol only get worse. I feel like it don’t matter who’s at fault it shouldn’t have made him that anger with me. Telling me to shut up until I get drop off at work. Only boys act like that. Not men. I’m sad cause it seem as though everyone around me is married engaged have kids meanwhile I’m going thru this and loss two babies so I’m like is it not meant to be with us?? He’s more so worried bout this ring then the actual problem at hand

    3 AnswersFamily2 years ago
  • Should I move in or get my own spot?

    Ok so I just got engaged to my bf after 6 years. I’m happy n glad that he finally did it. But it’s this one issue that I think will really b a deal breaker. Ok so his mom is in rehab but needs somewhere to go. If she goes to a assisted living it’ll b well over $2,000 but if she come to live with us she’ll just have to pay rent n one bill. My issue is I kno it’s not easy taking care of someone that will depend on u for everything. We at a space in our life where we need our space and our own house again for once. He says he feel like he gotta choose between his mom n me. I tell him not to choose that’s ur mom. But what do I do? I feel like if I don’t agree that this will b something that will always come up. His other children don’t wanna b bothered n it’s not fair that she has to come live with us. I kno that sound harsh but it’s reality. We haven’t even got married yet. We already been living our lives as if we married. I know if she does that I’ll b the one caring for her far as personal care. He said well what if it was ur family. Tbh I would make arrangements so they can stay at they own house

    4 AnswersMarriage & Divorce2 years ago
  • Why is it that he hasn’t married me yet?

    We been together 7 1/2 years we don’t have any children even tho our many attempts have failed . He says he wanna get married and how he wanna give me the wedding of my dreams but it’s like at this point it’s like it don’t even matter. I feel like I’m around fam and friends that’s eithe getting married and having children. Although Iam very happy for them it does makes me think well when will it happen for me? We’re looking to move within the next month and we haven’t even went n look at anything. His mother is in need of to b taken care of and to b honest I’m not up for it. My family call me selfish but I kno if we take on the role of caring for her I kno it’ll b over. It’s like he want her to live with us yet we’re not married. Idk I just wanna b happy. I feel like it shouldn’t take that long to married a women u say u love. Then I find that he lies to me about dumb ****. Now he had three tickets and he said he paid two of them. So he gets a letter about getting a boot and I’m like over one ticket?? I just so happen to look at the letter and apparently he didn’t pay those two tickets

    1 AnswerFriends2 years ago
  • Why does he feel the need to lie?

    So couple weeks ago my bf was upset n punch the wall and hurt his hand. So he told his co worker a complete different story and now I’m looking at him differently. It’s like why lie? Not the first time I caught him lying but you would think he would stop. It’s like he believes his own lie. He still texts his female co workers and it’s like complete disrespect to me. He texted his one co worker that he was coming over to hang out but when I asked his he said he didn’t go. I said I saw the text from you saying u was outside and he said well I decided it wasn’t a good idea so I didn’t go. It’s like talking to a wall. I kno he was lying yet til this date he still denies it. It’s like he’s a good guy but the lies gotta stop. To him he never lies but he fails to realize I catch him everytime . I even found a note from a girl n it said love u . I asked him about it and he said his co worker paid him to go to the store for her n she wrapped the money up n the paper. He claim he didn’t read nor knew anything written on it. Same gurl that I found messages n his nbox and she calling him boo. Funny how after I asked about the note he deletes the thread from the gurl. It’s like wtf I’m like over it

    2 AnswersFamily2 years ago
  • Should I consider adoption?

    So I’ve had a miscarriage and gave birth to two beautiful baby boys but both of them passed away. My first son was born prematurely n the doctors warned me before hand stating that if he comes now he won’t survive. My second son died in the NICU at 34 days old from a infection. I was high risk and now I’m considering not having children at all. My body endured 4 epidurals and I can tell my body can’t take anymore . I’m like why me? Why is it that I had to endure this pain? Meanwhile everyone around me is having a baby and it makes me think well am I not quality to b a mother?

    6 AnswersFamily2 years ago
  • Am I being selfish?

    Ok so my boyfriend n I are trying to move in the next 30 days into our own place. But the problem is his mom. His mom needs to be taking care of, changed, cook her something to eat, wash her clothes, pretty much everything but for some reason my spirit is just not with it. Maybe it’s because I know in my heart that I’ll b the one that gotta change her adult diaper and other things. Part of me is like ok whatever but the other part is like she can live in assisted living but she can’t afford it. I feel as tho my boyfriend isn’t being honest cause I overheard him telling her I’m trying my best to look for a place. It’s like he telling her oh I’m looking but when she see him she keep asking did u find a place? He says that she don’t wanna be in a facility cause they will take all her money but on the flip side it’s like what about me? I miss having my own place just us. I kno if she does live with us it won’t b that way. I’ve been in a sunken place the last couple years it’s like when I get the moment to move out in our own house here we go again with either living with family or her living with us. This topic been around the last 3 years n I feel like if I just say ok **** it she can stay with us then I don’t have to hear him talk bout it anymore but I kno I won’t b happy

    5 AnswersFamily2 years ago
  • Why can’t my man just b honest?

    Like seriously I’m like so over it all. It’s like I’ll go thru his phone and find little ****. I kno I’m wrong for looking but I feel like if I didn’t look n see it myself I wouldn’t know. It’s like he tells me how he always talking bout me to his female co workers yet when we went to his job for drinks a chicks jumped up ran to him to hug him. I think that was a bit much. My family think I’m tripping cause they see one side to him n they say oh he a good man yet I don’t tell them my business. He called his co workers babe or boo. Inappropriate if u ask me. Things like this makes me not wanna have sex with him then it’s like we go back n fourth bout how I don’t sex him enough. How just maybe if I did give it up everyday then maybe things would b different. It’s like a slap in the face. I saw that one night he texted his co worker saying they like hang out but I was at work. Had I not looked I wouldn’t have known. It’s like he so sneaky bout **** like that. Idk maybe it’s a reason why we don’t have kids yet or maybe that’s why we haven’t excel in life like we should b. It’s like I kno what I see but he says oh it’s nothing. I was cleaning one day n found a piece of paper n it said star aka tiny love u. So when I asked him he said his co worker gave me money for making a errand for her n she paid hi . How he didn’t look at the note which I kno he lying. It’s like total disrespect. Meanwhile he wanna move his mom in with us. For some reason my spirit ain’t with it

    4 AnswersSingles & Dating2 years ago
  • Should I agree or get my own house?

    Ok so my bf and I been together 7 years. We have no children and we’re not married, yet. But for the pass 4 years he’s been asking about his mother coming to live with us because of medical reasons and I been very confused on what I should do. It’s like I’m fighting with myself because he’s always been there for my family n I but I kno that his mother requires 24/7 care and I basically gonna b doing the personal care. Her other son said the other day well I give y’all $1,000 right now for her to come live with y’all. I didn’t say anything because I was waiting for my man to step up n say something. I feel like we’ve been thru a lot n we’re bout ready to move out again on our own n start over. But that’s not gonna happen cause I know his mom care gonna b n the way. I really don’t kno what to do. I already agreed but something in my spirit just ain’t right bout this situation. Her other son don’t wanna care for her anymore so he just like the hell with it. But now it’s kike that’s just not my house. I wouldn’t b the women of that home cause we all plan to split the rent n bills so me being the women of that home is a no go

    2 AnswersSingles & Dating2 years ago
  • Should I stay or move on?

    Ok so today been really hard for me . So I express to my bf how I feel like my family don’t respect our relationship. He downplayed my feelings saying how they always there for us etc. so it got heated n we argued. To my surprise he told my family what I said now they upset with me. I feel like he was wrong for telling them. That was for me to do. He threw my lunch away then turn around n brought me lunch. So now they don’t wanna talk to me. I don’t think it’s fair. We’ve been together 7 years no engagement no marriage nothing. I really feel some type of way. He didn’t have my back he actually turned on me

    1 AnswerSingles & Dating2 years ago
  • Should I agree with his mom living with us?

    Am I being too harsh ?

    So basically my bf mom recently got sick and will now need 24/7 care. We been together 7 years n I’m fighting myself because he has been there for my family and I but for some strange reason I keep having these feelings about his mother. His mother n I never had a relationship and it’s like ok when I loss our sons she wasn’t very supportive, to b honest to me us losing our sons didn’t really affect her. My women intuition tells me she don’t care for me too much, never did. I can just tell. When I go visit her we speak n talk a little and that’s it. Now with her being sick my bf asked me how I feel about her living with us. Two years ago we had the same conversation and I told him how I truly felt. He was upset but I had to b honest. It’s like how can I care for a person that truly don’t like me. But part of me is it maybe she’s tied to my destiny. Maybe god is saying she needs me more then I need her . Maybe it was a reason we loss our two sons. I miscarried early in my pregnancy. I cried like god why me? Now I’m thinking maybe god did that to care for his mom. Idk I could b wrong. I’ve been feeling what do I do? I can’t turn my back on him but also I kno once she lives with us I’ll basically be her caregiver. Idk I’m really fighting myself with this. We’re not married so that’s something I’ve been thinking of. I’m not gonna bring up the topic anymore.

    2 AnswersFamily2 years ago
  • Am I being too harsh ?

    So basically my bf mom recently got sick and will now need 24/7 care. We been together 7 years n I’m fighting myself because he has been there for my family and I but for some strange reason I keep having these feelings about his mother. His mother n I never had a relationship and it’s like ok when I loss our sons she wasn’t very supportive, to b honest to me us losing our sons didn’t really affect her. My women intuition tells me she don’t care for me too much, never did. I can just tell. When I go visit her we speak n talk a little and that’s it. Now with her being sick my bf asked me how I feel about her living with us. Two years ago we had the same conversation and I told him how I truly felt. He was upset but I had to b honest. It’s like how can I care for a person that truly don’t like me. But part of me is it maybe she’s tied to my destiny. Maybe god is saying she needs me more then I need her . Maybe it was a reason we loss our two sons. I miscarried early in my pregnancy. I cried like god why me? Now I’m thinking maybe god did that to care for his mom. Idk I could b wrong. I’ve been feeling what do I do? I can’t turn my back on him but also I kno once she lives with us I’ll basically be her caregiver. Idk I’m really fighting myself with this. We’re not married so that’s something I’ve been thinking of. I’m not gonna bring up the topic anymore.

    5 AnswersMarriage & Divorce2 years ago
  • Is my man cheating ?

    Ok so I sometimes go thru his phone cause in the past I have found suspicious texts to other women. So recently I seen him texting some girl n when I asked him he claims she is his cousin. I don’t believe him cause if she was she wouldn’t b calling him BOO. Yet everytime I say something it’s always I’m tripping or it’s nothing. She tells him how she got a date n his other co worker telling him how she called out cause her period was on. And to top it off he wants his mom to come live with us. He needs 24/7 care and I feel like he’s always there for me n my family but also it’s like we’re not married am I really ready to take on that role?

    5 AnswersSingles & Dating2 years ago