My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 years now and I have been living with him in his parents basement for about a year now.
He has never had to pay bills for himself until recently. His mom cooks, cleans for him. He only started paying for his own car insurance about 2 years ago. We pay his parents no rent.
His parents payed the better part of his education, leaving him with only 10 000$ in debt after 5 years of university and he didn't have to work during school. (mine is already over 30 000$, and I am curently working while finishing school)
He has a full time well paying job with benefits as an engineer at the moment. In the past year has was able to buy himself a brand new sports/racing ATV or banshee, and a bunch of new parts including a new engine for his jeep which he has been rigging up for off roading trips.
Lately, he has become very stressed and grumpy. He is very irritable with everyone in the house. I tried to ask him why he is so stressed, and he sais its work that is stressing him out and not having enough money.
Now he certainly makes more money then your average joe. He gets payed 26$ an hour plus time and a half when he does over time, and there without any mortgage, rent or any such bills to pay, this money goes to none other then himself... When I lived in on campus in Ottawa, I payed rent, food, gas, insurance, etc. So it's a little bit difficult for me to relate to him, especially since my job only pays me minimum wage and I don't get that many hours...
Last night I was making supper with his mom and she told me that she was going to give us one more year before we have to move out and that she hasn't told him yet.
To me, that's ok, I've lived out on my own before and payed bills. Just the fact that she lets us stay there for free amazed me in the first place. But I wasn't sure weather to tell him myself or wait until she lets him know...
Later on she tried to insunuate it to him by saying "What if I decided it was time for you to go?" and I guess he was irritated by the question because he answered "That won't be for another decade".
Now I didn't know what to make of that, but I don't really like the idea of leeching off his parents for another 10 years... So I asked him about it that night nd he said he was just irritated.
But then I asked him, what if it was true, what if his mom did want us to leave. Then he got all angry at me, saying that won't happen, that he knows his parents and that they will let him stay for as long as he wants, and then he just said I was stressing him out and kind of walked off on me.
He told me he will never live in an appartment, so of course, he wants to move into a house whenever he does decide to leave his parents, but that won't be until he has saved enough money to make a large enough deposit to minimize the morgage substantially... and according to his calculations, as long as we keep living at his parents, that won't b for another 6 years...
Now I understand that he holds on to his current lifestyle, and doesn't want to have to struggle... But this all seems to far fetched to me. I mean, I'm not afraid to be poor for a little while, I mean unless your Paris Hilton, doesn't everyone go through that anyway?
I don't know what to make of all this.