I was raised by people who did not believe in touching. If someone hugs you, ask what they want. Also no words of affection. To say I love you shows weakness. To my people, YES, every man is an island. We are all separate. They once warned me about turning my baby gay by kissing her. If I was caught hugging someone, I was ridiculed as needy or weak.
I have seen a therapist almost constantly since 1972 and recently lost my insurance for mental health. Well, around here, NO body takes Medicare or state. Which is funny since everyone talks about depression in seniors.
What can I do? I am 60 and outside of my mate (My if I'm touching I have to be sleeping with theory), I have no one. I never bonded with my baby 40 years ago, I feel, because after her birth I didn't see her for 12 hours. My neighbor is "gramma" to every stray kid around and I tell her the parents saw her coming. All they want is FREE babysitting!! who would volunteer for that? There are day care centers. Also foster homes. Why would anyone take in a grandchild or niece? Isn't that what the foster system is for? Someone help me figure some of this out!
I hugged someone at a NYE party once, she stole my wallet. Still think hugging is good for you?