I've been with my bf for 2.5 years. He is in the habit of calling me a couple times a day, and we spend 2-3 days/nights together each week. We live about 50 minutes drive from each other, so this is how we do things
I have some idea how to treat a man, considering i'm 55 years old. I make sure he's comfortable when we are together, i cook for him, am attentive, loving and never refuse him sex or affection.
On the other hand, i talk to him or ask a question and he doesn't respond most of the time. He's never brought me even a small, crappy token of his affection, doesn't send me a card ever, no dead flower, nothing.
We do have a decent sex life, but it seems that's on his terms, too. When i initiate sex, usually he finds some excuse not to have sex. I'm not sure what this is about.
Through it all he IS affectionate and will stop and ask me for a kiss or give me a random hug. He will thank me for making him dinner, BUT there are times when things he says and does seem insulting to me.
Recently a friend of mine told me his profile is still on a dating site, but set to "private". I didn't think anything of it, She's on the dating site looking and so for whatever reason she feels the need to check for his nick name there. She called today and said his profile is still set to private but it's now UPDATED.
I have the feeling i'm having a relationship with a selfish, overgrown teenager, not a 54 year old man. I know he doesn't cheat or see anyone else (yet), because he doesn't have time, considering the schedule he keeps.
I"m not sure what kind of man i'm with anymore? He professes to love me and as i said he can be very affectionate and loving. But i'm feeling invisible and frustrated.
I want to end it with him but i don't.
I'd like to hear from some men and get some opinions.