• How do I learn to act, think, and carry myself as a CEO?

    In the next year, I will be setting up my own business as a freelance business writer. I will be a one person operation and will be functioning both as management and personnel. I view myself as a quiet and competent professional. But now I will need to learn to think and act as a CEO, especially since I will now have to attract customers. In... show more
    In the next year, I will be setting up my own business as a freelance business writer. I will be a one person operation and will be functioning both as management and personnel. I view myself as a quiet and competent professional. But now I will need to learn to think and act as a CEO, especially since I will now have to attract customers. In the companies that I have worked for, I noticed that the CEO's thought, acted and carried themselves in what seemed to me to be a certain way. They were obviously leaders, but there was also something in the way that the behaved that set them apart. I would like to know what that is and how someone would acquire those skills that I observed in CEO's. Thank you for taking the time to read my question and I look forward to reading your responses.
    4 answers · Other - Business & Finance · 3 years ago
  • How do I deal with my wife's sister at an upcoming family party?

    In a couple of weeks, my wife and I are going to be hosting a 40th birthday party for my wife's brother at our house. My wife's parents, brother and his wife along with their kids, and my wife's sister will be there. My wife's sister will be the oldest sibling there. My wife's sister also loves to take pictures and thinks is is... show more
    In a couple of weeks, my wife and I are going to be hosting a 40th birthday party for my wife's brother at our house. My wife's parents, brother and his wife along with their kids, and my wife's sister will be there. My wife's sister will be the oldest sibling there. My wife's sister also loves to take pictures and thinks is is her Constitutional right to be able to photograph our kids. I don't like this but my wife takes her side because she is afraid her sister won't a. baby sit our kids and b. will go into a depressive episode and do who knows what. I really want to confront her, but my wife is insistent that I don't. I don't want to spoil the party, but I also don't want to take any crap from my sister in law. What should I do?
    8 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 3 years ago
  • Does the the following apply to Hillary Clinton?: The party is Hillary, Hillary is America and America is Hillary?

    Please state your reasons and please also keep the historical perspective of the statement in mind.
    Please state your reasons and please also keep the historical perspective of the statement in mind.
    4 answers · Elections · 4 years ago
  • I'm a defensive person and my wife says I am difficult to talk to. How do I fix this?

    I am a defensive person who also beats himself up over my perceived mistakes and imperfections. This is due to my personality as well as my last three jobs where if I was not defensive, I would be eaten alive. I am afraid that my behavior has created a potential problem in my marriage of three years. It seems that my wife feels she cannot say... show more
    I am a defensive person who also beats himself up over my perceived mistakes and imperfections. This is due to my personality as well as my last three jobs where if I was not defensive, I would be eaten alive. I am afraid that my behavior has created a potential problem in my marriage of three years. It seems that my wife feels she cannot say what she feels she needs to say to me because I will beat myself up over it and she doesn't want me to do that. She is reluctant to speak to me because she will bring up an issue and I become a defense attorney. She feels like she is walking on eggshells For example, she might want to tell me I should have cooked something this way instead of the way that I did it but that if she did, I'd get mad at myself and beat myself up over it. Sometimes I don't know when she is kidding and I take things a different way than she intended and it will sometimes cause a needless problem. This doesn't mean that I want to let her, or others walk all over me, but if she feels she is on eggshells and can't talk to me, then there is a problem. How do I fix this?
    6 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 4 years ago
  • Do you believe that our government is using the sports and entertainment industries as well as social media to distract and control us?

    For those who may accuse me of being right-wing paranoid, I think our government has done this for quite some time regardless of who is president or which party controls congress. For years, I think our government has used the "bread and circus" approach that the ancient Romans did in in controlling us. We are more concerned with... show more
    For those who may accuse me of being right-wing paranoid, I think our government has done this for quite some time regardless of who is president or which party controls congress. For years, I think our government has used the "bread and circus" approach that the ancient Romans did in in controlling us. We are more concerned with "friending on Facebook,"or who won what game or "what is blowing up on the twitterverse." For the record, I am a sports fan who can also see the forest for the trees. We are too distracted with all of these things to notice an economy that is not really all that strong or a threat from ISIS or an attempted government takeover of the Internet through Net Neutrality. I am of the belief that the government controls all media and it always has. Nothing that we are seeing in the various media is there if the government, again regardless of president or party in charge, didn't approve of it. They control the message. What do you think?
    13 answers · Politics · 4 years ago
  • Why was Benjamin Netanyahu scorned when he came to the US but Mahmoud Ahmadinejad given a great welcome when he visited the US.?

    Someone please explain this one to me.
    Someone please explain this one to me.
    6 answers · Other - Politics & Government · 4 years ago
  • Would, and could, Obama use an executive order to overturn the 22 Amendment of the Constitution and extend his term as president?

    Yes, I do understand that the amendment would have to be voted on, ordinarily, by Congress. But given Obama's propensity for using executive orders-which every president does- would it be out of the question for him to do it?
    Yes, I do understand that the amendment would have to be voted on, ordinarily, by Congress. But given Obama's propensity for using executive orders-which every president does- would it be out of the question for him to do it?
    9 answers · Politics · 4 years ago
  • How do I acquire the social skills to be a successful entrepreneur?

    I have set a goal for the end of this year to start my own business. I fully believe in myself and my product. Yet, when I study successful entrepreneurs and CEO's, they seem to have a set of social skills that I think I do not currently possess. They seem to have high emotional intelligence when they deal with people, which is not one of my... show more
    I have set a goal for the end of this year to start my own business. I fully believe in myself and my product. Yet, when I study successful entrepreneurs and CEO's, they seem to have a set of social skills that I think I do not currently possess. They seem to have high emotional intelligence when they deal with people, which is not one of my skill sets. Being somewhat shy and reticent doesn't help either. In my previous jobs, I was very quiet and would not speak much. I avoided upper management like the plague because I was afraid of getting fired for doing or saying the wrong thing. I also saw anyone who interacted with upper management as brown nosing and I didn't want to do that. I also stayed out of office politics. I just wanted to go to work, do the best I can, take my check and go home. In looking back, I see that this was not the best thing to do. It seems that good social skills, as well as the widely discussed "soft skills" are lacking for me. How does someone acquire these skills in order to be a successful entrepreneur. Thank you for your time.
    2 answers · Small Business · 4 years ago
  • If you extend Obama's definition of "bitter clingers," then wouldn't ISIS be a bitter clinger?

    According to a line from Obama's famous "bitter clinger speech, bitter clinger's "cling to guns or religion or antipathy toward people who aren't like them." This seems to be the case with ISIS. Yet Obama is doing nothing to these bitter clingers, but is instead going after the bitter clingers in this country by... show more
    According to a line from Obama's famous "bitter clinger speech, bitter clinger's "cling to guns or religion or antipathy toward people who aren't like them." This seems to be the case with ISIS. Yet Obama is doing nothing to these bitter clingers, but is instead going after the bitter clingers in this country by attempting to limit the US bitter clinger's ability to buy bullets. I guess the is scared of the ISIS bitter clingers but not those in his own country. Nice leadership.
    4 answers · Politics · 4 years ago
  • Why aren't Muslim leaders speaking out more against ISIS if they truly believe that ISIS doesn't represent Islam?

    If I were a Muslim leader, I'd be screaming from the mountain tops of social media that ISIS doesn't represent my religion. Instead, we hear nothing. Why? Could it be that they secretly support them?
    If I were a Muslim leader, I'd be screaming from the mountain tops of social media that ISIS doesn't represent my religion. Instead, we hear nothing. Why? Could it be that they secretly support them?
    10 answers · Religion & Spirituality · 4 years ago
  • For those of you who believe this, why do you believe that when you get married, your spouses family is your family too?

    I am married, but I see my wife's family as her family, not mine. I treat them with all respect and I like them, but I do not see them as my family. If my wife wants to see my side of the family as her family, that is fine, but I don't expect her to. I just don't understand. In laws, maybe, but not "family." Thank you for reading. show more
    I am married, but I see my wife's family as her family, not mine. I treat them with all respect and I like them, but I do not see them as my family. If my wife wants to see my side of the family as her family, that is fine, but I don't expect her to. I just don't understand. In laws, maybe, but not "family." Thank you for reading.
    6 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 4 years ago
  • Has anyone ever used Go Minis and have a container dropped off at your home or business?

    If so, what was your experience? Also have any of you ever used 1-800 Go Pack Rat or PODS? If so, what was that like for you? Thank you.
    If so, what was your experience? Also have any of you ever used 1-800 Go Pack Rat or PODS? If so, what was that like for you? Thank you.
    1 answer · Polls & Surveys · 4 years ago
  • I left my job to be a stay at home dad and I am very angry with my previous employer. How do I deal with my anger?

    Six weeks ago, I left my job of nine years in the financial service industry to be a stay at home dad. My wife has been with her job for at least 20 years and it made sense for her to stay in her job and for me to leave mine. I also quite happy being a stay at home dad. I am grateful for the opportunity to do this and would not trade it for the... show more
    Six weeks ago, I left my job of nine years in the financial service industry to be a stay at home dad. My wife has been with her job for at least 20 years and it made sense for her to stay in her job and for me to leave mine. I also quite happy being a stay at home dad. I am grateful for the opportunity to do this and would not trade it for the world! Yet, I harbor anger toward my previous employer. The position itself was a client service position. We dealt with a myriad of people, or as a former VP said "we serve many idols," and we were on the low end of the totem poll. Everything was dumped on us. Our bosses told us to just deal and not take everything so personally. Internally, if someone made a mistake and did not have to face the client, we had to face the client and took the blame and a mountain of abuse. Or if someone in another department did not want to do something, we had to do it. I realize that in that type of client facing job. you do face a fair amount of abuse. But having said that, it made me very angry to be degraded and dehumanized that way. I left about six weeks ago and have taken to writing down my thoughts just to get it out and try to get rid of all this garbage. I still seem to be carrying this garbages around in my head. Maybe this is part of the process of letting things go, but the anger is still there. How do I get rid of it?
    3 answers · Other - Careers & Employment · 4 years ago
  • I am very defensive and my wife feels she can't tell me anything because of it. How do I stop?

    I have been a defensive person for most of my life. People have told me that I take things the wrong way. Someone would say something to me and I would turn into a cross between a defense attorney and a cornered animal. My mother used to say that she could not talk to me when I got like this. Part of it is me, part of it is the fact that I worked... show more
    I have been a defensive person for most of my life. People have told me that I take things the wrong way. Someone would say something to me and I would turn into a cross between a defense attorney and a cornered animal. My mother used to say that she could not talk to me when I got like this. Part of it is me, part of it is the fact that I worked in high pressure jobs with very demanding bosses and clients, which only fed more gas to the fire. Sometimes my wife says something innocent to me about something that happened or didn't happen. I feel like I am back in those high pressure jobs and my defensiveness kicks into maximum overdrive and I over-react. For instance, she may say to me that the grass is kind of high. I take it as "WHY ISN"T THIS MOWED? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU? YOU HAVE FAILED TO MEET MY EXPECTATIONS! " I feel attacked and give a defense and she says "all I meant was that the grass is a bit high." Things like this have happened more than a few times and she informed me today that she feels like she cannot tell me things. I know that this is not good. How do I stop?
    3 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 4 years ago
  • What should I do about Christmas this year because I am uncomfortable around my inlaws and my wife is pregnant?

    Dear Readers: I get along with my in-laws very well. We usually spend Thanksgiving with them and it is a very enjoyable. Christmas, on the other hand, seems to be a problem. I should also say that I really hate what Christmas has become in its crass commercialism. For Christmas, my in-laws do stocking stuffers for presents. I would rather not... show more
    Dear Readers: I get along with my in-laws very well. We usually spend Thanksgiving with them and it is a very enjoyable. Christmas, on the other hand, seems to be a problem. I should also say that I really hate what Christmas has become in its crass commercialism. For Christmas, my in-laws do stocking stuffers for presents. I would rather not receive presents from them and I would rather have them spend their money on each other and not me. I get uncomfortable when I receive these presents. Unfortunately, the last two Christmases, my wife has noticed my discomfort, causing her to get very upset at me. She has told me that she does not want to go through this ever year and has brought up up the idea of me staying home if I am that bothered. I don't want to ruin Christmas for her and would normally consider this. However this year. she is pregnant and due in January. I am sure my wife is going to bring up the last two Christmases in a few weeks and will tell me to stay home if I don't think I can handle it or she may tell me to stay home. However, I obviously don't want her to drive to her parents alone. What should I do?
    4 answers · Christmas · 5 years ago
  • How do I balance my family, my job, my career and oh yes, my life?

    This is the age old-question: How do I balance my family that I love with a job that I hate and get into a new career and have a life? Background I have been married to a wonderful woman for almost two years.We have been trying to have baby for most of that time and are currently in an IVF cycle. My father is elderly and while he is doing ok,... show more
    This is the age old-question: How do I balance my family that I love with a job that I hate and get into a new career and have a life? Background I have been married to a wonderful woman for almost two years.We have been trying to have baby for most of that time and are currently in an IVF cycle. My father is elderly and while he is doing ok, he has indicated that he would like to move, I am looking for an assisted living facility for him while I work 80 miles away from him in a full time job that is high stress, high responsibility that I have a high hatred for. Besides the obvious pay and benefits, the job is pretty good to allow me the time I need to take my Dad and accompany my wife to their medical appointments. I am also looking to change careers and I am completely frustrated at myself when I see people doing what I want to do. If you want to call me crazy, that's fine. But I seek advice from you to find out if , and how, I can balance all of this and somehow have a life. Thank you for reading and for your advice.
    2 answers · Other - Careers & Employment · 6 years ago
  • Do I have to celebrate my birthday with my wife's family when I really do not want to?

    My birthday is coming up. My mother in law has decreed that my wife and I WILL be coming to her house to celebrate my birthday the weekend after my birthday. While I have a good relationship with my in-laws. I do not want them to make a fuss over me. It is the same thing at Christmas. I do not want them to buy me presents, but they go way... show more
    My birthday is coming up. My mother in law has decreed that my wife and I WILL be coming to her house to celebrate my birthday the weekend after my birthday. While I have a good relationship with my in-laws. I do not want them to make a fuss over me. It is the same thing at Christmas. I do not want them to buy me presents, but they go way overboard. It has caused considerable stress between my wife and I because I do not want them to make a fuss and I get annoyed with what they do. I ask my wife to tell them to stop and she gets upset because " I am forcing her to tell her parents to not be who they are." I did not want this birthday celebration, but I feel like I am being emotionally blackmailed into doing something I do not want to do. My mother in law is in her 70's and is lacking in short term memory and also sometimes does things that create problems for others because she is so hell bent on doing something for someone else. She means well but the law of unintended consequences comes into play. I very grudgingly agreed to go, but I really do not want to and I am frankly ticked off because it is my birthday and I should have a choice. But I am being forced to go because if I don't, my mother in law will be upset and so will my wife. Should I go?
    1 answer · Family · 6 years ago
  • Should I avoid the bride and groom at the wedding if I do not want to speak to them?

    Last summer, my girlfriend and I were married. We invited my girlfriend's cousin and her boyfriend to the wedding. They cancelled on us on the day of the wedding. I understand that things happen. However, family scuttlebutt is that they never had any intention of coming. If they did not want to come, then they should have told us no from the... show more
    Last summer, my girlfriend and I were married. We invited my girlfriend's cousin and her boyfriend to the wedding. They cancelled on us on the day of the wedding. I understand that things happen. However, family scuttlebutt is that they never had any intention of coming. If they did not want to come, then they should have told us no from the beginning. I would have had no problem with that. This year, my wife's cousin and her boyfriend are getting married. We have been invited. It is a six hour drive to the wedding. My wife and I are going. My wife is going to need some medical assistance at the wedding and I am more than willing to help her. But I just heard that it might have been her boyfriend who pulled the plug on coming to our wedding. Suffice it to say, I am very put off by their attitude and really do not even want to talk to them. I think that if I do, they will think " ha ha we blew off your wedding, but you suckers came to ours." There will be over 300 people at this wedding. Odds are I won't be missed. However, I have no desire to even talk to the bride and groom. Should I avoid them?
    10 answers · Weddings · 7 years ago
  • I don't want to go to my wife's cousins wedding, should I go?

    My wife and I were married last year in New England. Among the people we invited to our wedding were my wife's five aunts and some of their kids. My wife has an aunt Jenny. Jenny has a daughter named Lisa, who is in her late 20's. Jenny has total control over Lisa. When Jenny says jumps, Lisa says "how high and when, Mom?" ... show more
    My wife and I were married last year in New England. Among the people we invited to our wedding were my wife's five aunts and some of their kids. My wife has an aunt Jenny. Jenny has a daughter named Lisa, who is in her late 20's. Jenny has total control over Lisa. When Jenny says jumps, Lisa says "how high and when, Mom?" Lisa lives in the Deep South and was going to fly up the day of our wedding. Jenny is scared of everything that moves. On the day of Lisa's flight and our wedding, Jenny got spooked by something. Weather was not an issue because it was sunny and clear up and down the East Coast that day. Jenny called Lisa and told her not to come. Lisa canceled her flight, stayed home and probably locked herself in her closet. I think that she was not coming in the first place. If she did not want to go, then she should have told us from the beginning and that would have been no problem. I more than understand last minute things come up. My gut tells me she had no intention of coming. This summer, Lisa is getting married and her mother is throwing the United Sates equivalent of the Royal Wedding. My wife and I have been invited. It is a four hour drive at the end of my vacation week and we will be driving through awful traffic to get to our destination, which is in a major New England tourist area. My wife wants to go because she is close to this cousin. If she wants to go, then she should by all means go. I do not want to go because I do not believe that Lisa was ever going to come to our wedding. I am resentful that Jenny told her daughter not to come to our wedding and is now expecting (demanding) that we go to her daughter's wedding. There is a huge double standard here, which either my wife does not see or sees and chooses to ignore. I very grudgingly agreed to go but I am obviously reconsidering. We have not yet received the invitation and the wedding is a few months away. My wife is saying that if I don't want to go, then I should not go because she does not want me to be there and be miserable, which has happened in at her family events the past and has caused both of us to stress out and not enjoy the day. But then she adds "but let's 'negotiate' " I see the word "negotiate" as meaning " you will be there and smiling." I do not believe she is sincere in what she said and there really is no climate for negotiation. Now for those of you who say "welcome to marriage" what would YOU do? Thank you for reading!
    5 answers · Weddings · 7 years ago