• Legal Next Of Kin, Darling Nephew?

    My brother's ex is frankly psychotic. My poor 4 year old nephew has been moved away, from where they were living near his paternal grandparents, by his mother and is currently in the sole care of her and his equally deranged maternal grandmother. Nuttiness clearly runs in their family... My brother's name is not on his birth certificate as... show more
    My brother's ex is frankly psychotic. My poor 4 year old nephew has been moved away, from where they were living near his paternal grandparents, by his mother and is currently in the sole care of her and his equally deranged maternal grandmother. Nuttiness clearly runs in their family... My brother's name is not on his birth certificate as psycho wanted more money from the state when he was born and my brother stupidly allowed it to happen (he does alot of stupid things but he's learning...) She is an only child while I am my brother's only and elder sibling therefore I am the only true Aunt of my nephew. My parents (the paternal grandparents) are very close to the child, having virtually brought him up when he lived nearby because the mother is a waste of space. But she has stopped them seeing him now too for reasons which have zero basis in reality. The truth is she can't accept my brother has moved on and is in a new stable live in relationship with a lovely woman who already has a couple of kids - the ideal family environment for my nephew. Honestly, both his ex and her mother are nutty as fruitcakes! Now, since both my nephew's mum and her mother are increasingly on another planet to the rest of us, it seems things are going to have to go through the courts in order for my brother to see his son. Question is, who is his legal next of kin? Her mother is blathering on about custody, but given I am the childs adult godparent as well as only Aunt, and share the most DNA/blood with him after his parents, it would seem that the automatic next of kin after his parents would be me not grandparents right? I would hope to see him living with his father personally, not just granted access, as I have serious concerns about his welfare with those two witches at the moment, but if the worst came to the worst and the court deemed my brother unsuitable too, am I right in thinking they would look to me before grandparents? I just want to make sure that I know where I stand so I can do right by my nephew and protect him like I am supposed to. I really really hope his maternal grandmother has to get past me legally as his father's sister before she can even contemplate custody of the poor defenceless child. Their behaviour is appalling, too much to describe here but suffice to say I fear for my nephew's psychological and emotional wellbeing living with those two nutjobs. I'm also a qualified professional, able to work with minors so maybe my testimony about my concerns re his welfare will stand up in court if need be. All advice welcome. We've all had it with the pair of them, especially using my nephew as a weapon and mealticket. Even my brother's new partner wants to kill them! Cheers xx
    2 answers · Law & Ethics · 8 years ago
  • Can Photographer Insist On Glamour Model Nude?

    I wonder can someone experienced in modelling advise me. I'm British, a new glamour model and a photographer in LA has contacted me this week about work. But he not only wants me to send him pictures in swimwear/lingerie (fair enough) he also wants me to send him full nude! I indicated I was uncomfortable with sending full on nude pics and he... show more
    I wonder can someone experienced in modelling advise me. I'm British, a new glamour model and a photographer in LA has contacted me this week about work. But he not only wants me to send him pictures in swimwear/lingerie (fair enough) he also wants me to send him full nude! I indicated I was uncomfortable with sending full on nude pics and he says it's the only way clients can see what I would look like in their clothes rather than in just my own. I'm not sure this is true lol - surely they can get a clue from what I'm wearing. Unlike me, this guy is into hardcore porn as well as artistic and glamour pics so of course I have reservations. He doesn't appear to be well known either, I couldn't find him when I googled his name. As a glamour model, can photographers insist I get my kit off? I thought that unless I was some sort of porn star lol and just modelling swimwear/lingerie, I would not have to be nude! I'm 99% certain (common sense) that I don't have to do what this guy asks in order to get work in this industry, I just wanted to make sure! Cheers xx
    4 answers · Photography · 8 years ago
  • Turkish Insult Translation Please?

    Hi all, I have a friend who has been insulted in Turkish and wants to know what it means. The insulter was chasing her romantically but she wasn't interested. We have asked a Turkish friend of mine already but she doesn't know! Can anyone help? The insulting text message read: "Owsabilla he minishatan nira jim" Thanks!
    Hi all, I have a friend who has been insulted in Turkish and wants to know what it means. The insulter was chasing her romantically but she wasn't interested. We have asked a Turkish friend of mine already but she doesn't know! Can anyone help? The insulting text message read: "Owsabilla he minishatan nira jim" Thanks!
    4 answers · Languages · 8 years ago
  • Toxic Cousin Advice Please?

    I have a younger cousin who seems to constantly be in competition with me. I always support her in what she is doing and compliment her but she is always hypercritical of me. If I show her something I have done in one of the fields I am known to be particularly gifted in, she criticises it and says it's no good. Like recently, I emailed her... show more
    I have a younger cousin who seems to constantly be in competition with me. I always support her in what she is doing and compliment her but she is always hypercritical of me. If I show her something I have done in one of the fields I am known to be particularly gifted in, she criticises it and says it's no good. Like recently, I emailed her something to ask her view on it, knowing that I had done a decent job on it and I have a known talent in that area. Well she only goes and posts her highly critical response to it on a social networking site in front of everyone we know, rather than email me privately! That showed agenda to me. Now you see I am normally absolutely fine about accepting criticism - how would we hone our gifts without it - but from her there is always another agenda. Especially given that her critical opinion is completely out of proportion to what everyone else thinks lol. If I was Shakespeare she would say I couldn't write plays to save my life & shouldn't give up my day job, or if I was, I don't know lol, Van Gogh, that my paintings weren't quite good enough; just because she can't bear to agree I actually might be talented - you get the picture? Even when I present her with the facts as in professional people's positive views on my work she finds some way to pick holes in it and the venom in her response is tangible. I know she is probably insecure - no reason to be as she is talented in her own right - but i'm just feeling drained by her as she just won't allow me anything. All advice appreciated!
    3 answers · Family · 8 years ago
  • Why Is My Paypal Balance Zero Despite Available Funds?

    Why is my paypal balance showing as zero despite the fact that there are funds in it (a recent refund) and I have used some of the money to pay for goods online which I have received? I want to transfer the remaining amount to my bank account but cannot as balance is showing as zero!!! I don't owe Paypal any money as far as I am aware. Can... show more
    Why is my paypal balance showing as zero despite the fact that there are funds in it (a recent refund) and I have used some of the money to pay for goods online which I have received? I want to transfer the remaining amount to my bank account but cannot as balance is showing as zero!!! I don't owe Paypal any money as far as I am aware. Can anyone shed any light on this? Thanks xx
    2 answers · Personal Finance · 9 years ago
  • Does Anyone Else Get Offended When Removed As Friend On Facebook?!!?

    I've never deleted anyone and I think it's horrible when someone does it to me! Ok maybe because the first time someone did it, it was a psycho b&%%h who was jealous of me, wanted to cause trouble and was after my boyfriend at the time... I was livid.... But a few others have done it since too for no apparent reason and I wonder why.... show more
    I've never deleted anyone and I think it's horrible when someone does it to me! Ok maybe because the first time someone did it, it was a psycho b&%%h who was jealous of me, wanted to cause trouble and was after my boyfriend at the time... I was livid.... But a few others have done it since too for no apparent reason and I wonder why. I've read that one reason is their not wishing to stay in touch with people they don't talk to much - fair enough but surely those with more than say 10 friends must have no life to be able to say they have messaged every one of them recently?! Some have several hundred friends and more! I know it's kinda weird that a virtual site can irritate me so much lol, but I just find friend removers really petty! If you've got more than a few friends on there, surely to goodness you can hold back from pressing the remove button and avoid offending somebody that you're hardly going to notice anyway! I dunno, I just have a gripe with this!! Maybe I didn't want such petty virtual snubbers as friends anyway! Harumph!! What do you guys think? x
    2 answers · Facebook · 9 years ago
  • Bad Break Up Support Please? ?

    Ok people, it's been six months since breaking up with the ex after 2 yrs together. In a nutshell I wanted us to commit more/get engaged/move in and he chose to split up instead. Ok, bad enough but I could cope with that. I was working abroad at the time for 6 weeks, teaching English to the adult sister of a now married ex from 7 years ago. 3 weeks... show more
    Ok people, it's been six months since breaking up with the ex after 2 yrs together. In a nutshell I wanted us to commit more/get engaged/move in and he chose to split up instead. Ok, bad enough but I could cope with that. I was working abroad at the time for 6 weeks, teaching English to the adult sister of a now married ex from 7 years ago. 3 weeks in the break up happened over the phone. I texted him and suggested we meet up when I returned in 3 weeks to break up properly/give our 2yr relationship the respect it deserved but he refused, by text, informing me that this text was the last contact he was ever going to have with me and that was basically it. Over. Bascially the last time I saw him was at the departure gate at the airport when I left for my teaching assignment. We hugged, kissed, said goodbye as a couple there. His sick, cruel method of closure has devastated me more than the break up. I can't get my head round how someone could be that cold to a person they have just been intimately involved with for 2 yrs, especially since I was his first in every way. I couldn't treat my worst enemy like that. We're not kids - I'm 29 he is 36!!!! Though while I am an independent and a healthy adult he still lives with mummy and daddy. I was his very first girlfriend (he was 34 when we met) he had no job when we met (though has got one since) - you get the picture.... I suppose the signs were there in the beginning that he was not the best candidate for a positive adult relationship, especially when he cited his reason for not committing more was due to my 'strong' personality! (read normal healthy adult!) I dunno, I feel a bit crap at the moment, I'm at the stage where I'm half blaming myself wondering if I was as much of a ***** as he seems to think I was, I had a dream about him last night in which he was the loving person he was at first and then as I woke up he became the self centred, controlling, devious little boy I broke up with. Still I think the dream has gotten to me and I'm feeling things I don't want to about him. I was fine that we broke up - it was the right thing to do as I was so unhappy and I had to make a change in my life with or without him. It was the way it was done that was the worst - I would have met with him and broken up civilly and lovingly as our 2yrs together deserved, not callously the way he wanted it. I feel the most overwhelming pain at the moment and I am not meeting my obligations as I should be. I have an important business meeting tomorrow (I'm an entrepreneur) and I can't seem to motivate myself to go. It's like I've become dead and numb inside. At first I coped great but it's hitting me now. I find myself wondering if he thinks about me, if he has someone else now, if he feels guilty for treating me so horribly at the end, even though I know he was completely the wrong person for me and even emotionally abusive. 8 months into the relationship he told me that if I got as big as my mum (3 stone/42lb heavier approx) he would not find me attractive. We nearly broke up over that as I couldn't be with someone like that and I knew I would be terrified of eating around him. He cried, apologised and I forgave him but things were never the same after that. He became somebody else in my eyes. I ceased to feel safe with him. Controlling streaks began to emerge in other ways - how Ispent my money, the food I gave him, debating with him when he wanted me to just take his opinion nad leave it at that (his words pretty much) putting me down in a group of people once when I was in a conversation with a medical professional, giving me the silent treatment when he was upset with me. Little things y'know? He was not too good for me and yet I still feel sad. Please help me snap out of this! Thank you guys&gals...xx
    7 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 9 years ago
  • Police Impound Licensed Insured Car Driven By Non Owner?

    If a car is fully insured and the registered owner of the car is fully licensed but the police pull over an unlicensed uninsured somebody who is driving this car without the knowledge of the owner, can they impound the car and charge the registered owner for it's release? Or should they arrest the unpermitted unlicensed uninsured driver and inform... show more
    If a car is fully insured and the registered owner of the car is fully licensed but the police pull over an unlicensed uninsured somebody who is driving this car without the knowledge of the owner, can they impound the car and charge the registered owner for it's release? Or should they arrest the unpermitted unlicensed uninsured driver and inform the real owner of what has happened? Anybody know what should happen here I would be very grateful. Thanks xx
    7 answers · Law Enforcement & Police · 9 years ago
  • Front Teeth Move Slightly?

    My teeth and gums appear pink and pretty healthy, I brush twice daily with an Oral B rotating toothbrush and use mouthwash but I sometimes notice slight shifting and clicking with a couple of my front teeth. The ones that move are a couple on the lower jaw, and the front one, along with the one next to it on the upper jaw. If I hold my finger... show more
    My teeth and gums appear pink and pretty healthy, I brush twice daily with an Oral B rotating toothbrush and use mouthwash but I sometimes notice slight shifting and clicking with a couple of my front teeth. The ones that move are a couple on the lower jaw, and the front one, along with the one next to it on the upper jaw. If I hold my finger against the front upper one while lightly prushing the other side with my lower front teeth I can feel it moving slightly. Is it normal for the teeth to be slightly mobile or am I about to lose a front tooth at 29?!!!!! I'm due to see the dentist this week anyhow so maybe I will ask but I just feel worried!! Can anyone shed some light or put my mind at rest? Thanks!
    9 answers · Dental · 9 years ago
  • What Exactly Does Wirral Have Against Liverpool?!?

    Just wondering. After meeting a few rather snobby Wirral dwellers, who frankly looked and sounded more scouse than me and lived in Birkenhead (hardly Heswall....), what exactly is the problem with being associated with Liverpool, one of the worlds greatest and most successful cities? I mean if you wanted to be funny, why the hell would we Scousers... show more
    Just wondering. After meeting a few rather snobby Wirral dwellers, who frankly looked and sounded more scouse than me and lived in Birkenhead (hardly Heswall....), what exactly is the problem with being associated with Liverpool, one of the worlds greatest and most successful cities? I mean if you wanted to be funny, why the hell would we Scousers want to be associated with a place where they stand the dead up in bus stops just to make it look like there's a bit of life there? Compared to vibrant buzzing creative Liverpool..... It's just that we're so kind, friendly and human that we would never in a million years condescend to you to the point that we would beg to change our flippin postcode. Laughin on the other side of your snobby money-worshipping faces now that Liverpool is capital of culture? Oooh quick! Change your postcodes back to L' so you can get ready to sell up and make a fortune when the house prices rocket! Look maybe I'm being a bit rude to you here but the Wirral dwellers I have met recently have been openly rude to me. When I was shocked that one of them was from Wirral (she sounded and looked Scouse) she laughed and said that she must have picked it up from her boyfriend who lives in Toxteth (CHUCKLE!!!! Scousers will know why I smile at that.....) and she didn't realise. "Oh my God I must sound really common!" she said. She didn't realise what she had said to me was highly offensive, I waited but she said nothing,,,,, ,,,,,says it all about you lot really doesn't it?
    2 answers · Etiquette · 9 years ago
  • Does anyone else think OU grading system is weird & overly harsh? Got A/Bs normal uni but D/bare passes at OU!?

    I've gone from getting Firsts and 2:1s at normal uni, and excelling at my subject overall to barely passing/getting Thirds in my OU courses. It's weird and I won't be studying with them again after this year. I'm going back to normal uni to finish my degree. These are subjects I have excelled in my entire life. I have taken two courses with them.... show more
    I've gone from getting Firsts and 2:1s at normal uni, and excelling at my subject overall to barely passing/getting Thirds in my OU courses. It's weird and I won't be studying with them again after this year. I'm going back to normal uni to finish my degree. These are subjects I have excelled in my entire life. I have taken two courses with them. Something I else I noticed is this - one of my courses, in the area of humanities, seemed to have an inappropriately high feminist content and it seemed I was given lower grades in essays where I took a balanced view of male and female. It has destroyed my confidence in my academic ability even though I have been academically gifted my whole life. It's weird. I wondered if anyone else had experienced the same thing? Thanks!
    3 answers · Higher Education (University +) · 9 years ago