I never hear about gay people thinking about and wondering who's straight. It is so very odd to me that heterosexuals are so concerned about who is gay. And there is nothing gayer than supposed straight men always asking "you know why you're gay or who know what's gay?" How gay are you to even be asking those questions? I would say very. To supposedly be straight, the fixation with gay men is extremely odd. The fixation with gays within society as a whole is extremely odd. If you are gay, it's not surprising, weird, interesting, a big deal or of any concern whatsoever. It really is of no importance. Being heterosexual is of no importance --- it is simply what you are. There are some things about people that are important, but being straight or gay is not one of them.