• Why don’t we have a men’s march against Democrats?

    Women march against Donald Trump. I get it. He offends me, too. Why don’t men have a men’s march against Democrats? Many Democrats want to discriminate against men and tax us and punish us for working in order to provide for or families (they want to take our cash and rights so that our families will depend on government, not us). That is bad.
    Women march against Donald Trump. I get it. He offends me, too. Why don’t men have a men’s march against Democrats? Many Democrats want to discriminate against men and tax us and punish us for working in order to provide for or families (they want to take our cash and rights so that our families will depend on government, not us). That is bad.
    Politics · 2 hours ago
  • Do people prefer "Andy Rooney preaching": sermons consisting of the pastor's personal thoughts instead of an analysis of Scripture?

    I've found two types of preaching in churches: 1. Bible study-type sermons, in which a passage from the Bible is analyzed, often with an analysis of what the text means and what we (the audience) should be doing in our lives based on the passage. 2. "Andy Rooney" preaching, in which the sermons consist of the minister's views and... show more
    I've found two types of preaching in churches: 1. Bible study-type sermons, in which a passage from the Bible is analyzed, often with an analysis of what the text means and what we (the audience) should be doing in our lives based on the passage. 2. "Andy Rooney" preaching, in which the sermons consist of the minister's views and thoughts, but few if any references to Scripture. For example, at my church, a recent sermon was the pastor's thoughts on what he thinks of our church and what he thought of a recent service. His conclusion? "We need more church". The word Jesus was never mentioned, and the Scripture passage in the worship bulletin wasn't mentioned. Do people prefer "Andy Rooney preaching" Why?
    12 answers · Religion & Spirituality · 15 hours ago
  • Christians, do you avoid doing business with people who are brazenly immoral and don't care?

    The Bible tells us Christians not to associate with Christians who engage in overtly immoral behavior (such as men who sleep with relatives yet claim to be Christian). Does this also mean that we Christians should not associate with unbelievers who engage in overtly immoral behavior? I thought it did, but I can't find any verses that... show more
    The Bible tells us Christians not to associate with Christians who engage in overtly immoral behavior (such as men who sleep with relatives yet claim to be Christian). Does this also mean that we Christians should not associate with unbelievers who engage in overtly immoral behavior? I thought it did, but I can't find any verses that directly say that. Further, does this mean that we Christians should not do business with people who engage in brazenly immoral behavior? Today I rejected a client who promised a large fee. His business was overtly immoral (think pornography, gambling, etc.), and he wanted me to help him prepare some documents that were a "bait and switch" for one of his customers. I turned down the business, even though I really need the business and the money. One reason I did so (out of several) is that I figured that the Bible tells us to avoid those kinds of people. Thanks for any feedback.
    14 answers · Religion & Spirituality · 1 day ago
  • Why do liberals dislike Martin Luther King's Christianity?

    I had dinner with some Democratic friends of mine who were praising Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., rightfully so. They raved about his political leadership, rightfully so. I reminded them that Dr. King was a Christian whose political leadership arose in part from his Christian faith. They were very offended and said that wasn't possible, and... show more
    I had dinner with some Democratic friends of mine who were praising Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., rightfully so. They raved about his political leadership, rightfully so. I reminded them that Dr. King was a Christian whose political leadership arose in part from his Christian faith. They were very offended and said that wasn't possible, and that the church had nothing to do with his leadership. I'd say that his Christian faith was a big influence on his actions. Why do liberals dislike that?
    13 answers · Politics · 6 days ago
  • How could Donald Trump slam other places as "s-holes" when he's from Queens?

    Donald Trump previously called Brussels a "s-hole". I've lived there; parts are very nice and parts aren't. Now he called a bunch of Third World countries "s-holes". Donald Trump is from Queens. Queens is a third world country, and large parts of it are disgusting. So: how does someone from Queens call other places... show more
    Donald Trump previously called Brussels a "s-hole". I've lived there; parts are very nice and parts aren't. Now he called a bunch of Third World countries "s-holes". Donald Trump is from Queens. Queens is a third world country, and large parts of it are disgusting. So: how does someone from Queens call other places "s-holes" without being a total hypocrite?
    6 answers · Politics · 1 week ago
  • Client keeps asking me out even though I say no: harassment?

    I have a white-collar job (in a creative industry) in which our pay and promotions depend on how much business we bring it. I originated a client who sends a pretty significant amount of work to my company. I handle some of it, but other co-workers handle most of it (due to their specialties). The client keeps asking me out. I went once or twice... show more
    I have a white-collar job (in a creative industry) in which our pay and promotions depend on how much business we bring it. I originated a client who sends a pretty significant amount of work to my company. I handle some of it, but other co-workers handle most of it (due to their specialties). The client keeps asking me out. I went once or twice (to very boring dinners), since I thought I had to, since she's a client. For the past month, she has kept asking me out (to concerts, dinners, etc.), and I have kept saying no. Now she's reminding me that she's a client and can continue to be a client for a long time, and she keeps asking me out. Wait a second- she's linking requests for dates to her being a client, and continuing to be a client. If I (a guy) did that to a woman whose pay depended in part on my satisfaction, I'd expect to get called a sexual harasser. In this case, it's a woman client (who makes more than I do) who keeps asking me out, and my pay depends in part on keeping her as a client. Isn't SHE the harasser, even though I'm a guy? Thanks.
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 weeks ago
  • Poor form to follow up on an email by writing, "?????" instead of a complete word or phrase?

    If I don't immediately answer an email, sometimes the other person forwards his or her original email to me, with a new request: ????? I find that obnoxious. If I haven't responded, maybe there's a reason. At least write a complete word back- not ?????. Does anyone else dislike emails that read only, "?????"?
    If I don't immediately answer an email, sometimes the other person forwards his or her original email to me, with a new request: ????? I find that obnoxious. If I haven't responded, maybe there's a reason. At least write a complete word back- not ?????. Does anyone else dislike emails that read only, "?????"?
    Etiquette · 2 weeks ago
  • Standard poodle LOVES back rubs: skin condition, maybe?

    Our 11 1/2 year old female standard poodle LOVES back rubs--and likes back rubs even more than rubs elsewhere. When we are sitting together and I am rubbing her, she will turn around so that her back is facing me and her chest/face are in the other direction. When she meets people and they pet her, she turns around so that her back is against them... show more
    Our 11 1/2 year old female standard poodle LOVES back rubs--and likes back rubs even more than rubs elsewhere. When we are sitting together and I am rubbing her, she will turn around so that her back is facing me and her chest/face are in the other direction. When she meets people and they pet her, she turns around so that her back is against them (and her chest/face are in the other direction), and she even pressed her back up against people. If she just likes back rubs more than other rubs, it's fine, but could she maybe have a sensitive spot of skin on her back, or some other issue on her back that requires medical attention? If only dogs could just talk to us! Thanks.
    3 answers · Dogs · 2 weeks ago
  • Potluck birthday dinner for 45-year old: also need to bring gift?

    I have a potluck birthday dinner tonight. Oddly, people are gathering starting at 4 and dinner will be at 6:30 (so I'm arriving at 6, which I hope isn't rude). We are told (in the invitation) to bring an exotic dish for dinner. If I'm already bringing a dish, do I also need to bring a gift? The birthday person is a 45-year old with... show more
    I have a potluck birthday dinner tonight. Oddly, people are gathering starting at 4 and dinner will be at 6:30 (so I'm arriving at 6, which I hope isn't rude). We are told (in the invitation) to bring an exotic dish for dinner. If I'm already bringing a dish, do I also need to bring a gift? The birthday person is a 45-year old with a young child. I was thinking of giving them a gift card to the movie theater a block from their house (for 2 tickets) or a gift card to an online food delivery site. But they're incredibly cheap- they wouldn't give me a gift. Thanks.
    10 answers · Etiquette · 2 weeks ago
  • Why is it politer to say "What?" instead of "I beg your pardon" or the when you can't understand someone?

    When you don't hear what someone says or don't understand the person, I usually have said, "Excuse me" or "I beg your pardon". However, I read that the "polite" and "upper-class" way to say that is to just say, "What?" Why is this? I find "What?" sort of abrasive, but I'll... show more
    When you don't hear what someone says or don't understand the person, I usually have said, "Excuse me" or "I beg your pardon". However, I read that the "polite" and "upper-class" way to say that is to just say, "What?" Why is this? I find "What?" sort of abrasive, but I'll do whatever is politer.
    15 answers · Etiquette · 2 weeks ago
  • Guy at gym is constantly humming and clearing his throat: OK to ask if I can help him?

    There's a guy at my gym who constantly (literally--without ever stopping) clears his throat and hums. He sounds like Beavis and Butthead (the '90s cartoon, whose main characters constantly made weird and annoying noises). For example, I'll be sitting there lifting weights, and he'll come right next to me, clearing his throat,... show more
    There's a guy at my gym who constantly (literally--without ever stopping) clears his throat and hums. He sounds like Beavis and Butthead (the '90s cartoon, whose main characters constantly made weird and annoying noises). For example, I'll be sitting there lifting weights, and he'll come right next to me, clearing his throat, saying, "uhh, uhh, hmmmmmmmmm, uhhh, uhhh, ummmmmmm", and clearing his throat, all without stopping. He's literally never silent. I have nothing against him- he must have a medical issue, and he's not targeting me with his noises. OK to say to him, "May I offer you a cough drop" or something? I'd just like to help him out. Thanks.
    6 answers · Etiquette · 2 weeks ago
  • Tweeting "Happy New Year" to the Church of Satan: OK and normal for a Christian to do?

    Chelsea Clinton Tweeted "Happy New Year" to the Church of Satan, as part of a thread back and forth between the Church of Satan and others: https://twitter.com/ChelseaClinton/status/948305271495053314 When asked about it, Chelsea responded that she is Methodist. Is Tweeting to the Church of Satan like this normal or acceptable for a... show more
    Chelsea Clinton Tweeted "Happy New Year" to the Church of Satan, as part of a thread back and forth between the Church of Satan and others: https://twitter.com/ChelseaClinton/statu... When asked about it, Chelsea responded that she is Methodist. Is Tweeting to the Church of Satan like this normal or acceptable for a Christian to do? I'm not condemning Chelsea Clinton, as we all have different standards about relating to people who do not share our views, but it just seems odd and not normal.
    9 answers · Religion & Spirituality · 2 weeks ago
  • Shouldn't these people at the gym know better?

    I was annoyed with two people at the gym this morning: 1. On all of the treadmills, the TVs are put on mute and set so that a transcript of what's said shows on the screen. One guy always turns on the sound anyway--so I'm trying to run and have to deal with a loud TV (plus music in the background, plus typical gym noise). Shouldn't... show more
    I was annoyed with two people at the gym this morning: 1. On all of the treadmills, the TVs are put on mute and set so that a transcript of what's said shows on the screen. One guy always turns on the sound anyway--so I'm trying to run and have to deal with a loud TV (plus music in the background, plus typical gym noise). Shouldn't he know not to turn on the sound on the TV, when all other TVs are on mute and there are signs saying that playing devices so that others can hear are posted in a few places? 2. One guy goes swimming, and he walks from the locker room to the pool wearing only Speedos. He's in his 60s, probably, and it's kind of icky. But just between the locker room and the pool...OK. Today he walked around the whole gym in his Speedos, and even up to the front desk to complain about something. So he stood there at the front desk, right at the entrance, in his Speedos, for a while. Ick. Shouldn't he know to wrap himself with a towel or T-shirt or something? Thanks.
    14 answers · Etiquette · 3 weeks ago
  • Friends who are coming to town invite me to dinner; unsure if I can that night because of work, so OK to invite them on another date?

    I have some good friends who are coming to town in 3 weeks. They come each year for a conference (for fun) and always invite me to dinner when they come. They invited me (by email) for a day this month when I might be able to make it, but I have a huge work deadline around then and am not sure. OK to be honest with them and say, "I'd... show more
    I have some good friends who are coming to town in 3 weeks. They come each year for a conference (for fun) and always invite me to dinner when they come. They invited me (by email) for a day this month when I might be able to make it, but I have a huge work deadline around then and am not sure. OK to be honest with them and say, "I'd love to, but I have a big work deadline then. I am free now, but would not want to cancel at the last minute. May I take you to breakfast on such-and-such a date?" I assume that it'd be rude to say, "Maybe, so put me down as a 'tentative'" or something--I assume that I need to accept and stick with it, or decline? I also assume that it's fine to offer a counter-invitation to another meal on a different date (with me paying, even though they always pay for dinner)? Thanks.
    8 answers · Etiquette · 3 weeks ago
  • Huge fraudulent charges on credit card not caught, and replacement card not sent when promised: bad customer service?

    Would you consider this to be bad customer service? * My credit card number was somehow stolen, and a $17k cash advance was made on it, and another $1k fraudulent charge was made. I'm surprised that the credit card issuer didn't catch this and notify me for 3 weeks. I'm surprised that the credit card issuer didn't have fraud... show more
    Would you consider this to be bad customer service? * My credit card number was somehow stolen, and a $17k cash advance was made on it, and another $1k fraudulent charge was made. I'm surprised that the credit card issuer didn't catch this and notify me for 3 weeks. I'm surprised that the credit card issuer didn't have fraud prevention procedures in place to prevent these charges from going through in the first place; usually Citibank and AmEx wouldn't allow such things. (The largest charge I've ever made was under $1k, and I've never requested a cash advance.) * The issuer called me at work on December 20 to ask about the charges, and cancelled my card (good) and stated that a new card would be rushed to me and would arrive by Saturday, December 23. I mentioned to the representative that I'd be out of town starting on Saturday for a trip, and the representative said, "hopefully it will arrive before you leave on Saturday." * No card has yet arrived. I called the issuer yesterday and was told that a replacement card was MAILED to me on December 26-- mailed a few days after I was told I should receive the card. So: fraudulent charges went through and a replacement card wasn't sent when promised. Would you consider this to be shoddy customer service? Thanks.
    4 answers · Credit · 3 weeks ago
  • Client who keeps asking me out called me at work, "just to catch up" and to "share some good news": rude to email back only?

    I have a client who I originated; she keeps asking me out. I didn't realize that her requests for dinner, etc. were dates, and so I met her a few times. (The dinners were boring and we touched on work topics a bit and otherwise made small talk, like you would at a business dinner.) My co-workers told me not to date clients, as did people in... show more
    I have a client who I originated; she keeps asking me out. I didn't realize that her requests for dinner, etc. were dates, and so I met her a few times. (The dinners were boring and we touched on work topics a bit and otherwise made small talk, like you would at a business dinner.) My co-workers told me not to date clients, as did people in this forum (thank you). The client called me at work and left a voicemail, "just to catch up". I don't like talking on the phone and don't want to date, so I emailed her back: "Sorry, been in meetings- how may I help?" She emailed back: "Call at your convenience Thursday or Friday, to catch up and for me to share some good news." I can't tell if this is a professional or personal call. If it's a professional call, I have to call back asap. If it's a personal call, I don't want to- I have been told in this forum that I shouldn't send mixed messages and do anything that could be seen as being open for a date. So: rude to just email her back with some excuse as to why I can't talk, and asking her to share the "good news" by email? Thanks.
    7 answers · Etiquette · 3 weeks ago
  • Rude to tell someone that someone else is or was there but didn’t say hello?

    Is it rude to tell someone, “John is here but can’t say hello” or the like? At church recently (the one I attend when I visit my parents), I have had to leave the service during the last hymn. When the minister greets people as they leave, he asks how I am. My mother says, “Oh, he was here but had to leave a few minutes ago.” Isn’t it better... show more
    Is it rude to tell someone, “John is here but can’t say hello” or the like? At church recently (the one I attend when I visit my parents), I have had to leave the service during the last hymn. When the minister greets people as they leave, he asks how I am. My mother says, “Oh, he was here but had to leave a few minutes ago.” Isn’t it better not to mention that Ibwas there? Maybe, “He looks forward to seeing you next time he’s in town”? My parents also had friends over when I was visiting. I had work to do, so I just stayed up in a bedroom and worked. My mother announced to everyone, “Our son is here but isn’t coming down to say hello.” Wouldn’t it have been better to say nothing? I should have spoken to everyone in both instances, but shouldn’t my mother not mention that I am present but can’t or won’t speak? Thanks.
    4 answers · Etiquette · 4 weeks ago
  • Do you hesitate before saying, "Merry Christmas" out of concern that people who hear you might think you're a Trump supporter?

    I used to always say "Merry Christmas" around December 25 as long as I knew that the person who I was speaking to was at least nominally Christian. Now that Donald Trump- who certainly is not Christian- makes such a fuss about the "war on Christmas" and how it's OK to say "Merry Christmas", I have kept saying... show more
    I used to always say "Merry Christmas" around December 25 as long as I knew that the person who I was speaking to was at least nominally Christian. Now that Donald Trump- who certainly is not Christian- makes such a fuss about the "war on Christmas" and how it's OK to say "Merry Christmas", I have kept saying "Merry Christmas", but I hesitate a bit because it now seems like a political statement to do so. Do you think twice before saying "Merry Christmas" because Donald Trump has adopted that as his cause? Do you think that you may be seen as a Donald Trump supporter if you say "Merry Christmas"?
    15 answers · Politics · 4 weeks ago
  • Church members, does your pastor care about you (as a person, not just in theory)?

    I recently went to lunch with one of the ministers of the church where I've been a long-time member. I was really surprised: she seemed to care about me and other congregants, not just in principle, but about me as a person. I've had some ministers that didn't seem to, or definitely didn't. So, church members: does your pastor... show more
    I recently went to lunch with one of the ministers of the church where I've been a long-time member. I was really surprised: she seemed to care about me and other congregants, not just in principle, but about me as a person. I've had some ministers that didn't seem to, or definitely didn't. So, church members: does your pastor care about you as a person? (Not the same as a pastor caring about people generally, and on an intellectual level.) Thanks.
    7 answers · Religion & Spirituality · 4 weeks ago