• My girlfriend just bought a home down the hall from her ex boyfriend. Should I be concerned?

    My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for a few months. It’s long distance now but I️ will be moving into her new condo in a few months. It turns out she just bought this condo and her ex lives down the hall. They dated about three years and broke up about 6 months ago. He has lived there 2 years. I️ don’t know him at all. Should I... show more
    My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for a few months. It’s long distance now but I️ will be moving into her new condo in a few months. It turns out she just bought this condo and her ex lives down the hall. They dated about three years and broke up about 6 months ago. He has lived there 2 years. I️ don’t know him at all. Should I be concerned? If so, why?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 2 weeks ago
  • My ex girlfriend just bought a condo down the hall from the condo I own. Do I any new partners that I may be serious with?

    How do I handle this bizarre situation? She was my girlfriend for 3 years.
    How do I handle this bizarre situation? She was my girlfriend for 3 years.
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 2 weeks ago
  • My ex girlfriend just bought a condo down the hall from me. Is she crazy? How do I handle this?

    We are in our 30’s and and went our separate ways about 6 months ago. I eventually bought my own condo while we were together and she liked the building. After about 6 months apart she emails my mother on her (my mom's) bday to tell with her happy birthday and update her. She brags about how she bought a place down the hall from me and her new... show more
    We are in our 30’s and and went our separate ways about 6 months ago. I eventually bought my own condo while we were together and she liked the building. After about 6 months apart she emails my mother on her (my mom's) bday to tell with her happy birthday and update her. She brags about how she bought a place down the hall from me and her new bf was helping her move in. She met him at work, he lives out of town and is moving to town in January. She even sent a picture of them together. I don't really have a solid question, but is she just crazy for buying a place so close to me and telling my mother all of this? She hasn’t said a thing to me and my mother and her were never that close. Is she being manipulative?
    5 answers · Singles & Dating · 3 weeks ago
  • My ex-girlfriend just moved in down the hall from me! Is she crazy?

    We are in our 30's. We dated for three years with a few off periods. We went our separate ways about 6 months ago. I eventually bought my own condo while we were together and she liked the building. She emails my mother on her (my mom's) bday to tell with her happy birthday and update her. She bought a place down the hall from me and... show more
    We are in our 30's. We dated for three years with a few off periods. We went our separate ways about 6 months ago. I eventually bought my own condo while we were together and she liked the building. She emails my mother on her (my mom's) bday to tell with her happy birthday and update her. She bought a place down the hall from me and her new bf was helping her move in. She met him at work, he lives out of town and is moving in to her place in January. She even sent a picture of them together. I don't really have a solid question, but is she just crazy for buying a place so close to me and telling my mother all of those details? Is she being manipulative? How do I handle it when we bump into each other or if she comes out to me directly?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 3 weeks ago
  • I bought a girl dinner and she didn't touch it. Is that rude?

    Went on a date, I bought her dinner and she didn't touch it. It was a nice place with a $20 plate. She didn't even take it home. Is this rude? I kinda want my money back but I know that is tacky
    Went on a date, I bought her dinner and she didn't touch it. It was a nice place with a $20 plate. She didn't even take it home. Is this rude? I kinda want my money back but I know that is tacky
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • Does Momma always know best?

    She doesn't like my girlfriend. She just doesn't think she is right for me and honestly she makes some really good points in pointing out all of the red flags. I love this girl, but my mother has always known me best, and looked out sincerely for my best interest. She has always been right and seen things objectively when I couldn't. ... show more
    She doesn't like my girlfriend. She just doesn't think she is right for me and honestly she makes some really good points in pointing out all of the red flags. I love this girl, but my mother has always known me best, and looked out sincerely for my best interest. She has always been right and seen things objectively when I couldn't. Should I take her advice and leave this girl? Does Momma always know best?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • Are these signs of jealousy, possessiveness, and controlling behavior in a woman?

    So we were together for 3 years but towards the end it got really rocky. We went our separate ways even though we love each other. I know even early on she wanted to marry me. We have reconnected and had some great times. She told me all she can offer is friendship. But then we have a great weekend and were very intimate, even sexually. We talked... show more
    So we were together for 3 years but towards the end it got really rocky. We went our separate ways even though we love each other. I know even early on she wanted to marry me. We have reconnected and had some great times. She told me all she can offer is friendship. But then we have a great weekend and were very intimate, even sexually. We talked about what a future would look like but she also talked in terms of friendship and seeing other people. What's strange is a few days later I told her I had a date and her tone changed. She asked me not to see anyone and that we work it out. I think it's odd that we went from friends to "don't date anyone, we need to work it out." Are these signs of jealousy, possessiveness, and controlling behavior in a woman?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • Are these signs of jealousy, possessiveness, and controlling behavior in a woman?

    So we were together for 3 years but towards the end it got really rocky. We went our separate ways even though we love each other. I know even early on she wanted to marry me. We have reconnected and had some great times. She told me all she can offer is friendship. But then we have a great weekend and were very intimate, even sexually. We talked... show more
    So we were together for 3 years but towards the end it got really rocky. We went our separate ways even though we love each other. I know even early on she wanted to marry me. We have reconnected and had some great times. She told me all she can offer is friendship. But then we have a great weekend and were very intimate, even sexually. We talked about what a future would look like but she also talked in terms of friendship and seeing other people. What's strange is a few days later I told her I had a date and her tone changed. She asked me not to see anyone and that we work it out. I think it's odd that we went from friends to "don't date anyone, we need to work it out." Are these signs of jealousy, possessiveness, and controlling behavior in a woman?
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • I love my girlfriend but my gut says otherwise. What should I do?

    I love her and she wants to commit to moving our relationship along. She is actually pressuring. With that said, something in my gut just doesn't feel right about us. I can't quite figure it out completely. This is a crossroads in the relationship, a stay or go situation. Should I follow my gut? It is speaking pretty loudly to me. I... show more
    I love her and she wants to commit to moving our relationship along. She is actually pressuring. With that said, something in my gut just doesn't feel right about us. I can't quite figure it out completely. This is a crossroads in the relationship, a stay or go situation. Should I follow my gut? It is speaking pretty loudly to me. I don't think this is just fear of commitment, I'm afraid of not following my gut and my gut turning out to be right in the end.
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • HELP: How do I deal with this relationship ultimatum?

    So we dated off and on for about 3 years. There were rocky moments. We have recently reunited and it has been nice. It has been a few weeks. We have had some great conversations and I feel like we have both grown and changed in good ways. We have even discussed a possible future. Now she wants to know next week if I can commit to going... show more
    So we dated off and on for about 3 years. There were rocky moments. We have recently reunited and it has been nice. It has been a few weeks. We have had some great conversations and I feel like we have both grown and changed in good ways. We have even discussed a possible future. Now she wants to know next week if I can commit to going forward and not seeing anyone else(this all started when I had told her about a date I had scheduled). It is a bit of an ultimatum. She says I should know after 3 years if I want to go forward with her. While I am interested, I am cautious because it hasn't worked out in the past. A few nice weeks doesn't mean it's going to work in the long term. I don't want to lose this opportunity but I feel pressured By and ultimatum. What should I do?
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • HELP: Advice on getting back with my ex girlfriend.?

    So we were together for 3 years but towards the end it got really rocky. We went our separate ways even though we love each other. I know even early on she wanted to marry me. We have reconnected and had some great times. She told me all she can offer is friendship. But then we have a great weekend and were very intimate, even sexually. We... show more
    So we were together for 3 years but towards the end it got really rocky. We went our separate ways even though we love each other. I know even early on she wanted to marry me. We have reconnected and had some great times. She told me all she can offer is friendship. But then we have a great weekend and were very intimate, even sexually. We talked about what a future would look like but she also talked in terms of friendship and seeing other people. What's strange is a few days later I told her I had a date and her tone changed. She asked me not to see anyone and that we work it out. We have had some nice times since, it's like great dating all over and I think it is wise to be cautious though I think we both have grown. I do feel potential tough if things go well. Now she is pressuring me to commit to a relationship and not see anyone else. I want to take more time to make sure that this will go well and not explode like in the past. I think it's wise to not put all of my eggs in one basket at this time. She says she feels like an "option" and not a "choice." What should I do? Is she driven by jealousy? Am I wrong to feel like I need more time? p.s. we are both in our 30's
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • My ex girlfriend says she just wants to be friends but doesn't act like it. Can anyone explain this?

    Recently my ex and I reconnected. We just had an amazing weekend together. We spent lots of quality time together, had some great discussions, and intimacy. It was so refreshing and really new considering some of the hard times we had in the past. What is strange is that she kept saying how we should be friends but then would do and say things... show more
    Recently my ex and I reconnected. We just had an amazing weekend together. We spent lots of quality time together, had some great discussions, and intimacy. It was so refreshing and really new considering some of the hard times we had in the past. What is strange is that she kept saying how we should be friends but then would do and say things that she knows teases me. She even did a boudoir shoot the other day and came over right after and told me all about it. But then she would reiterate how we just need to be friends even though she spent the nights and we did have sex (even when she said she wouldn't, she initiated as I tried to be respectful). We told each other we loved each other and kissed many times. She also started planning events for us to go to, we talked about what i would have been like had she moved in, she even wants to plan my next birthday party. But yet she says it's best we are friends. She then sends me one of her boudoir photos and when I comment on how sexy she looks she tells me she was sorry for sending mixed messages and we should just be friends. I don't get it. Is she trying to get back together and make me work for it? Is she looking for a confidence boost. When we got back together in the past she was more of the initiator and that bothered her. Maybe she wants me to pursue her? Can you help me decode this? Does she want me back? I love her but am a bit confused? Is this a power play on her part and if so how do I handle it?
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • My ex-girlfriend says she just wants to be friend but doesn't act like it. Can you help me understand what is going on?

    Recently my ex and I reconnected. We just had an amazing weekend together. We spent lots of quality time together, had some great discussions, and intimacy. It was so refreshing and really new considering some of the hard times we had in the past. What is strange is that she kept saying how we should be friends but then would do and say things that... show more
    Recently my ex and I reconnected. We just had an amazing weekend together. We spent lots of quality time together, had some great discussions, and intimacy. It was so refreshing and really new considering some of the hard times we had in the past. What is strange is that she kept saying how we should be friends but then would do and say things that she knows teases me. She even did a boudoir shoot the other day and came over right after and told me all about it. But then she would reiterate how we just need to be friends even though she spent the nights and we did have sex (even when she said she wouldn't, she initiated as I tried to be respectful). We told each other we loved each other and kissed many times. She also started planning events for us to go to, we talked about what i would have been like had she moved in, she even wants to plan my next birthday party. But yet she says it's best we are friends. She then sends me one of her boudoir photos and when I comment on how sexy she looks she tells me she was sorry for sending mixed messages and we should just be friends. I don't get it. Is she trying to get back together and make me work for it? Is she looking for a confidence boost. When we got back together in the past she was more of the initiator and that bothered her. Maybe she wants me to pursue her? Can you help me decode this? Does she want me back? I love her but am a bit confused? Is this a power play on her part and if so how do I handle it?
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • My ex girlfriend says she just wants to be friends but doesn't act like it. Can you help me understand what's going on?

    So we dated for about 3 years. The last two were rocky. We have had some off and on ever since. Recently we reconnected. We just had an amazing weekend together. We spent lots of quality time together, had some great discussions, and intimacy. It was so refreshing and really new considering some of the hard times we had in the past. What is... show more
    So we dated for about 3 years. The last two were rocky. We have had some off and on ever since. Recently we reconnected. We just had an amazing weekend together. We spent lots of quality time together, had some great discussions, and intimacy. It was so refreshing and really new considering some of the hard times we had in the past. What is so strange to me is that she kept saying how we should be friend's but then would do and say things that she knows teases me. She even did a boudoir shoot the other day and came over right after and told me all about it. But then she would reiterate how we just need to be friends even though she spent the nights and we did have sex (even when she said she wouldn't, she initiated as I tried to be respectful). She also started planning events for us to go to, we talked about what i would have been like had she moved in, she even wants to plan my next birthday party. But yet she says it's best we are friends. She then sends me one of her boudoir photos and when I comment on how sexy she looks she tells me She was sorry for sending mixed messages and we should just be friends. I don't get it. Is she trying to get back together and make me work for it? Is she looking for a confidence boost. Every other time we got back together she was more of the initiator and that bothered her I think. Maybe she wants me to pursue her? Can you help me decode this? I love her but am a bit confused? Its she just going to be trouble?
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • So my girlfriend will come over for sex and then just go to bed and not follow through. How do I talk to her about this productively?

    She does these kinds of things often and I don't think she thinks anything of it. She'll even promise to do sexy things on dates and never follow through. It's getting old and I want to have an adult conversation with her about it
    She does these kinds of things often and I don't think she thinks anything of it. She'll even promise to do sexy things on dates and never follow through. It's getting old and I want to have an adult conversation with her about it
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 months ago
  • Is my girlfriend selfish and what to do about it?

    Whenever she comes over and has to get up early for work I walk her out. This involves getting dressed, walking down several flights of stairs, and across the street and parking lot. I am usually very tired and go back to sleep after for a bit before I go to work. I live in a safe area so I do this more as a gentlemans gesture even though it is... show more
    Whenever she comes over and has to get up early for work I walk her out. This involves getting dressed, walking down several flights of stairs, and across the street and parking lot. I am usually very tired and go back to sleep after for a bit before I go to work. I live in a safe area so I do this more as a gentlemans gesture even though it is inconvenient. What bothers me is she won't do the same. All she has to do do is walk me out the front door. I asked her about it once and she told me I had to walk her out because I'm the guy. She never gets out of bed to walk me out and won't even when I've asked her. Is she selfish? Am I overreacting to be bothered by this? How can I handle this? This has gone on for a few years.
    5 answers · Singles & Dating · 7 months ago
  • I have a friend that has been disrespectful of my time. What is the best way to call her out and address it?

    we have made plans several times and she cancels because other things come up (that she would rather do). She even called me spontaneously last minute to get together one time. I told her it would be an hour and a half because I was in the middle of something. I rushed my way through and then she said never mind. She was too tired. This is... show more
    we have made plans several times and she cancels because other things come up (that she would rather do). She even called me spontaneously last minute to get together one time. I told her it would be an hour and a half because I was in the middle of something. I rushed my way through and then she said never mind. She was too tired. This is getting old and I need to set a boundary. I value the friendship but enough is enough. How can I best address this? What are some things I can say?
    4 answers · Friends · 8 months ago
  • Dealing with my mother's grief and our straining relationship. I need advice.?

    I'm 36 and an only child. My mother and I lost my father a over a year ago to cancer. My mother is 70 and lives a 40 minutes drive away. As you can imagine the cancer brought us together and was a very difficult situation especially at the end. I had to fill in my Dad's role while living my own life and grieving. My parent's were very... show more
    I'm 36 and an only child. My mother and I lost my father a over a year ago to cancer. My mother is 70 and lives a 40 minutes drive away. As you can imagine the cancer brought us together and was a very difficult situation especially at the end. I had to fill in my Dad's role while living my own life and grieving. My parent's were very needy to me for support emotional and otherwise. Now that my father is gone, my mother continues to be emotionally needy. I call once a day and try to visit once a week. I have to do quite a few repairs to the home as it is large and aging and my father isn't around to take care of it. She is too stubborn to move. It can be very hard for me to find time to take care of myself because I have to commit time to her and the house. Even when there are no repairs to make, she expects expects me almost as emotional support. I am 36 and single but would like to have a family one day, but I don't see how I can even do that if I need to take care of my mother all the time. I try to encourage her independence, she doesn't have many friends, or a job to distract her. It is a heavy weight to bear. I am trying to establish boundaries but she isn't taking it well. I had a date, and my mom got upset with me because I wasn't there to fix her toilet (I didn't know it was broken). She told me that she is upset because she thinks I "don't want to be part of the family anymore." I know she is just grieving but how should I cope? She makes me feel guilty.
    3 answers · Family · 8 months ago
  • Women, what would you think if I guy texted you this?

    After you thank him for inviting you to a show for a third date, he responds "My pleasure, I figured it would be a good excuse to see you again.:)" What would you think? Would you want to see him again? How would you respond?
    After you thank him for inviting you to a show for a third date, he responds "My pleasure, I figured it would be a good excuse to see you again.:)" What would you think? Would you want to see him again? How would you respond?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 9 months ago