• Can a 'real woman' actually contribute equal value in a partnership with a 'real man'??

    I've been an avid reader of some of the questions on both here and the relationships pages..... The one thing that jumps out to me recently is the inequity of what women think a 'real man' should be and what they feel should be expected if them as a woman. It seems a woman wants a man who is successful, or at least aims high, works,... show more
    I've been an avid reader of some of the questions on both here and the relationships pages..... The one thing that jumps out to me recently is the inequity of what women think a 'real man' should be and what they feel should be expected if them as a woman. It seems a woman wants a man who is successful, or at least aims high, works, stays fit, can provide multiple orgasms on demand..... is a protector and provider for them and their children, does the lions share of the housework, goes out of their way above all else to make their lady feel special (showers them with gifts, special days/nights out) etc..... A 'real woman' though is just a normal woman...... with a few extra curves??? I mean, seriously, what exactly is the woman bringing to a 'partnership' for this ideal 'real man' ......other than a vagina and child bearing ability that is, and why in gods name would he settle for anything other than Americas next top model if that's all he's looking for?? Sorry to sound so bad with this but it's really got me thinking! I posed this question to a group of female friends who were discussing what they were looking for in a man after they'd reeled off their list and they seemed genuinely quite stunned that simply 'being a woman' could not be enough for a guy..... Or at least for one looking for a partner, rather than a bump buddy!
    4 answers · Gender Studies · 3 years ago
  • What's the best way you've ever pulled a partner/been pulled?

    Most romantic wins the points.
    Most romantic wins the points.
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 8 years ago
  • Question for girls who like their boyfriends to bring them flowers......?

    O.K here's one for you - If your boyfriend brought you a bunch of flowers and he'd picked them himself from his garden would you think he was cheap or would it be more special because he'd actually done something off his own back for you? Purely hypothetical - the chances of me doing either at the minute are slim to nil.
    O.K here's one for you - If your boyfriend brought you a bunch of flowers and he'd picked them himself from his garden would you think he was cheap or would it be more special because he'd actually done something off his own back for you? Purely hypothetical - the chances of me doing either at the minute are slim to nil.
    20 answers · Singles & Dating · 8 years ago
  • What crazy idea will Harman come up with once it is proven there is no pay gap, only in hours worked and......?

    seniority? Do you think they'll make it law that part time workers have to be paid the same wage as full time senior executives? Sounds stupid but I wouldn't put anything past this rapidly turning communist government.
    seniority? Do you think they'll make it law that part time workers have to be paid the same wage as full time senior executives? Sounds stupid but I wouldn't put anything past this rapidly turning communist government.
    1 answer · Politics · 9 years ago
  • Women: would you want your b/f to tell you if your best friend had made a pass?

    O.K basically I took some of your advice from a question I asked a few weeks ago - you're probably better off reading that to get an idea of the background issue http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgtYz.AN8t2qXJV..buom14gBgx.;_ylv=3?qid=20090203093031AAiMnZT So, we had a chat and I didn't let it slide this time; she went off... show more
    O.K basically I took some of your advice from a question I asked a few weeks ago - you're probably better off reading that to get an idea of the background issue http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind... So, we had a chat and I didn't let it slide this time; she went off with me for a few days after (just figured she was embarassed) but she agreed to let me have some "alone time" while she sorted things out - she booked herself into the doctor who has given her an appointment with a specialist and a referral to a psychiatrist. So happy days.... not quite. I found out, the hard way, that she had discussed our chat with her best friend over those few days and she had convinced her to go to the doctor (fair enough, I know women talk more to their friends about stuff like this). Anyway, the other day my wife was at work and her best friend rolled up at the door, I invited her in and ater having a coffee she made some pretty clear sexual advances towards me - I mean she was up close rubbing my chest and telling me hurtful stuff like 'you must be gagging, I could help you out *your wife*(not mentioning names) will never know' she then tried to unzip my trousers and felt that I was 'aroused'. I was embarassed and angry and told her to stop quite forcefully but she just kept saying she knew I wanted to because she'd felt 'it' (my arousal) and that she knew everything because my wife had told her - I ended up chucking her out of the house! My wife brought her back after their dancing classes last night and I had to leave the room because I felt so belittled by her presence. I really want to tell my wife about what she's like but don't know how she'll react after just agreeing to go see the doctor. I really want things to work, not just for us but for my son too and can't understand why her best friend can't just let us work things out. I know I can't blame other people for me getting aroused, but she knows how long it's been for me and the situation I was placed in and she also knows she's an attractive woman so surely tring to take advantage in the way she did was a betrayal to her friendship with my wife. I'm really sorry to bug you all with this but the only female friends I have at the minute are my wifes (conflicting interests for them) and I could really just do with a womans perspective. Thank You
    6 answers · Gender Studies · 9 years ago
  • Is she trying to torture me, how the hell does she know when I'm going for a w"£$?

    Hi. I have been married for a while now and have a three year old son. My wife is a wonderful mother to our son. Shortly after our son was born our sex life dissapeared, she basically told me that "we were at a point in our relationship where sex isn't that important anymore". Needless to say I've been pretty patient and respected... show more
    Hi. I have been married for a while now and have a three year old son. My wife is a wonderful mother to our son. Shortly after our son was born our sex life dissapeared, she basically told me that "we were at a point in our relationship where sex isn't that important anymore". Needless to say I've been pretty patient and respected her but as time's gone on it's just gotten worse and we're at a point now where I get sex ONLY when it's my birthday or christmas. She claims it hurts afterwards and I can understand if it does, but I'm not that big (6" floppy/8.5"- 9" erect)compared to some of the guys I've seen in the changing rooms. Besides there was never any problem before we had kids. Anyway, I'm going off track here...... I'm not happy to, but can respect her right to not want sex, what's bugging me is that when I try to get some alone time to take care of it myself she always seems to rear her head; for christs sake - I was in the bath yesterday just thinking about making myself 'happy' when she decided it would be a good time to sit and chat about our son's schooling, for the whole hour I was in there. My wife doesn't allow pornography in the house, can tottally understand with impressionable minds and she's always hated it even when we first got together, but when I go on the computer she finds a reason to poke her head round the door every five minutes - it's getting serious now (I know some of you are probably laughing your asses off, but it's not funny to me). It's got to the point now where I even called into a 'massage parlour'; I paid, got undressed and got to the point where things were about to happen before realising I couldn't do this to my wife and got dressed leaving more frustrated than I went in. I'm just at a point now where I have NEEDS and it seems like she is somehow enjoying watching the pain/suffering it's causing me. Surely it's better to just allow me a bit of alone time than risk getting to the point where I do kop off with another woman - I'm just so confused about all this, surely she knows.
    22 answers · Gender Studies · 9 years ago
  • Why does society only punish men who use prostitutes and not the prostitutes themselves?

    With the new restrictions to the sex industry being in the news recently it got me thinking about this subject and indeed got me quite angry. Men who have to resort to putting their health in danger by paying for sex have to be pretty desperate and I think in the light of recent recognitions over sex addiction etc. Questions have to be asked on... show more
    With the new restrictions to the sex industry being in the news recently it got me thinking about this subject and indeed got me quite angry. Men who have to resort to putting their health in danger by paying for sex have to be pretty desperate and I think in the light of recent recognitions over sex addiction etc. Questions have to be asked on who is exploiting who - the prostitute the man or the man the prostitute. If we were to think of punters or 'some' punters as addicts in the same way as we do drug users surely we have to ask whether it is right to take a stricter line on the end user than the supplier (for instance you would expect a drug dealer to receive a harsher punishment than an addict; so why are providers of sexual services released with only a referrral for 'help' while users are prosecuted, named and shamed etc?). I do find it very disturbing that (it seems) women are being portrayed as victims for willingly providing a service (be it out of desperation for money or because they wanted to do it instead of a menial job they have still DECIDED to sell a service and in this respect can be thought of as 'dealing' in sex) to potentially addicted men and that the addict in the situation may be being persecuted and branded without rehabilitation. Of course, I understand that trafficking and forced prostitution are wrong; organised crimes and make slaves and a misery of women; but I fail to see how making a criminal out of a potentially unaware man seeking to feed his addiction is going to change that. The traffickers will still continue and force girls into prostitution knowing that it's their customers who now run the risk of going to jail for their crime - it's simply no deterrent for the people causing the crime, indeed it offers THEM, the organised criminals we all want to see behind bars, extra protection as they will know punters that have used 'their girls' will be unable to report them or they will implicate themselves in a rape. The only good thing to come from this will be that people using trafficked prostitutes will be prosecuted for rape, but even this draws questions as if the punter is lied to and told, even by the prostitute, he will still be prosecuted as a rapist. To me this lessens what rape actually is and runs a real risk of even more leniency in the sentencing of rape cases as judges sympathise with defendants caught in this situation and set precedents. I also find this law on kerb crawling once and getting prosecuted to be a shambles - I have been stopped for kerb crawling although I was actually trying to find a friends house in Manchester and had no idea I was in a red light district, indeed there wasn't even anyone else around as it was early hours of the morning in, what I thought was, a residential area and all I was doing was slowing down to see the road name signs, but it seems that was enough to get me pulled over and cautioned - in future this could have landed me in court and I really do fear that this power will turn into a very dangerous police free for all. I have to be honest and say I really have my doubts on this; I find it just another measure for Harriett Harman & Co. to beat their femminist fists on the table and punish 'men' in general instead of a real concerted attempt to solve the actual problems of trafficking and forced prostitution. What do you think?
    16 answers · Law & Ethics · 9 years ago
  • Is she trying to torture me, how the hell does she know when I'm going for a w"£$?

    Hi. I have been married for a while now and have a five year old son. My wife is a wonderful mother to our son. Shortly after our son was born our sex life dissapeared, I'd been told that we were at a point in our relationship where sex isn't that important anymore. Needless to say I've been pretty patient and respected her but as time's gone on... show more
    Hi. I have been married for a while now and have a five year old son. My wife is a wonderful mother to our son. Shortly after our son was born our sex life dissapeared, I'd been told that we were at a point in our relationship where sex isn't that important anymore. Needless to say I've been pretty patient and respected her but as time's gone on it's just gotten worse and we're at a point now where I get sex only when it's my birthday or christmas. She claims it hurts afterwards and I can understand if it does but I'm not that big (8.5"- 9" erect)compared to some of the guys I've seen in the changing rooms. Besides there was never any problem before we had kids. Anyway, I'm going off track here...... I'm not happy to, but can respect her right to not want sex, what's bugging me is that when I try to get some alone time to take care of it myself she always seems to rear her head; for christs sake - I was in the bath yesterday just thinking about making myself 'happy' when she decided it would be a good time to sit and chat about our son's schooling, for the whole hour I was in there. My wife doesn't allow pornography in the house, can tottally understand with impressionable minds and she's always hated it even when we first got together, but when I go on the computer she finds a reason to poke her head round the door every five minutes - it's getting serious now (I know some of you are probably laughing your asses off, but it's not funny to me). It's got to the point now where I even called into a 'massage parlour'; I paid, got undressed and got to the point where things were about to happen before realising I couldn't do this to my wife and got dressed leaving more frustrated than I went in. I'm just at a point now where I have NEEDS and it seems like she is somehow enjoying watching the pain it's causing me. Surely it's better to just allow me a bit of alone time than risk getting to the point where I do kop off with another woman - I'm just so confused about all this, surely she knows.
    25 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 9 years ago
  • In a relationship and I really want to sleep with someone else (please read all b4 commenting)...............?

    Hi I'm 29 years old and a male, I have been with the same girl for 12 years - I lost my virginity to her and have always been faithful. I want to make it clear that I love her and cherish everything about her; she's my best friend and a soul mate to boot and I don't want to break up with her either. The thing is over the past couple of years I have... show more
    Hi I'm 29 years old and a male, I have been with the same girl for 12 years - I lost my virginity to her and have always been faithful. I want to make it clear that I love her and cherish everything about her; she's my best friend and a soul mate to boot and I don't want to break up with her either. The thing is over the past couple of years I have really had it hammered home hard that I have never slept with anyone else and now I'm feeling like i should have done or maybe should do; I was quite proud of it as most of my platonic friends are female and react with a certain degree of respect and admiration in their faces when told but I made the mistake of telling a male friend who now treats me like I have herpes or something. The more I think about it the more I start to wonder what it would feel like with another woman. This is driving me mad inside because I know it's the one thing I can't talk to my girlfriend about; I mean can you really imagine how that conversation would go? and, at best, she'd think I was having a mid life crisis. I've thought about going to see a 'professional' or having a one night stand to overcome it. What do you think I should do?
    13 answers · Other - Family & Relationships · 9 years ago
  • Where's a good night out around the kettering area

    I'm going to kettering for a few weeks and was wondering if anyone could give us a heads up on a good night out either in or around kettering (clubs preferrably and pulling hotspots). Am a single guy in mid twenties and am being seconded over there for work - this will probably lead to a full time move so would really love the chance to get out... show more
    I'm going to kettering for a few weeks and was wondering if anyone could give us a heads up on a good night out either in or around kettering (clubs preferrably and pulling hotspots). Am a single guy in mid twenties and am being seconded over there for work - this will probably lead to a full time move so would really love the chance to get out there and meet some new people.
    3 answers · Polls & Surveys · 9 years ago
  • Question for girls................ What do you consider more important on a guy; body or looks?

    We all know you are thinking about writing 'personality and sense of humour' being key but I am no fool and you are anonymous. In the first few seconds when you see a guy there must be some sort of physical thing that attracts you to them and all I want to know is if you saw a guy with the perfect body but only average looks walk in next to... show more
    We all know you are thinking about writing 'personality and sense of humour' being key but I am no fool and you are anonymous. In the first few seconds when you see a guy there must be some sort of physical thing that attracts you to them and all I want to know is if you saw a guy with the perfect body but only average looks walk in next to someone who was very handsome but a bit on the tubby side, which would you try and pull (presuming you were single of course). Also what doyou consider the perfect body for a guy (use celeb name if you think one in particular fits the bill)
    13 answers · Singles & Dating · 9 years ago
  • My girlfriend wants me to shave, downstairs, do women in general like this (ladies only reply please)?

    I'm not like big foot or anything but my girl seems to hate hair in general. For children in need she got me to do the back, sack and crack thing and later surprised me by letting her friends pull strips off my legs for £20 a time (It was an impulse thing at a party after my girlfriend told one of her work friends what i had done for CIN and... show more
    I'm not like big foot or anything but my girl seems to hate hair in general. For children in need she got me to do the back, sack and crack thing and later surprised me by letting her friends pull strips off my legs for £20 a time (It was an impulse thing at a party after my girlfriend told one of her work friends what i had done for CIN and they said they would pay for the pleasure of causing that much pain on a man) I raised the best part of £1000 and all of the money went to good causes and I'm glad to have helped. The thing is I work out and I can tell other guys are sniggering at me, I'm rather well built if I do say so myself and they won't say nothing to my face so sod'em, and i am a bit worried now at the last request. I should point out the latest thing's purely sexual and she probably wouldn't be too chuffed if she knew I was writing this but I couldn't help but wonder if any other women feel the same about hair on men.
    24 answers · Singles & Dating · 1 decade ago