O.K basically I took some of your advice from a question I asked a few weeks ago - you're probably better off reading that to get an idea of the background issue http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...
So, we had a chat and I didn't let it slide this time; she went off with me for a few days after (just figured she was embarassed) but she agreed to let me have some "alone time" while she sorted things out - she booked herself into the doctor who has given her an appointment with a specialist and a referral to a psychiatrist. So happy days.... not quite.
I found out, the hard way, that she had discussed our chat with her best friend over those few days and she had convinced her to go to the doctor (fair enough, I know women talk more to their friends about stuff like this). Anyway, the other day my wife was at work and her best friend rolled up at the door, I invited her in and ater having a coffee she made some pretty clear sexual advances towards me - I mean she was up close rubbing my chest and telling me hurtful stuff like 'you must be gagging, I could help you out *your wife*(not mentioning names) will never know' she then tried to unzip my trousers and felt that I was 'aroused'.
I was embarassed and angry and told her to stop quite forcefully but she just kept saying she knew I wanted to because she'd felt 'it' (my arousal) and that she knew everything because my wife had told her - I ended up chucking her out of the house!
My wife brought her back after their dancing classes last night and I had to leave the room because I felt so belittled by her presence. I really want to tell my wife about what she's like but don't know how she'll react after just agreeing to go see the doctor.
I really want things to work, not just for us but for my son too and can't understand why her best friend can't just let us work things out. I know I can't blame other people for me getting aroused, but she knows how long it's been for me and the situation I was placed in and she also knows she's an attractive woman so surely tring to take advantage in the way she did was a betrayal to her friendship with my wife.
I'm really sorry to bug you all with this but the only female friends I have at the minute are my wifes (conflicting interests for them) and I could really just do with a womans perspective.