I recently got an 8 year old Quarter Horse mare who appears to have never had to pay attention to her rider. She has apparently only been out on trail rides with other horses leading and has never once been by herself until now. She is alone at my place, and after almost 2 months is finally beginning to settle down and not pace the fence every second, day and night. She isn't too bad to handle on the ground, and is friendly and easy to catch, but she is extremely spooky when I ride her, and it's obvious she isn't looking to me for guidance. She is very insecure and fights me while under the saddle if I give some input she doesn't care for. I'm wondering if there are any exercises/"games" we can do to help her accept me as the authority, whether on the ground or in the saddle, but preferably starting on the ground. I had 2 horses when I was a teenager, and neither were spooky, so this is new to me. I'm in my 40's now, so it's been a long time since I've been around a horse, and am a tad rusty when it comes to horse psychology. I appreciate your ideas. One more thing - I'm not getting her a pasture buddy because I won't be having the buddy along on rides, so what's the point? I need this horse to listen to me and become more secure with herself. Thanks for your help!