Ok, so here's the deal... My bf and I have been together for about 2 and 1/2 yrs. He's a good guy, but we have had our moments and my parents have seen me upset so long story short, they don't care for him. When we first started dating I would defy them and drive to his school (about 3hrs away) to see him. Now that he has graduated he moved back home for a year, but just recently got a place closer to work and out of his folks house. The problem is, I use to live out at school, but for my last year I've had to move home because of some serious health issues I've been having. Which in turn results in a loss of freedom. It was great that we were finally in the same town (same home town) but him moving closer to work has put us about 40miles apart. My parents believe I should NOT drive out there to see him, rather if he wants to see me he'll come out, and he wants me out there then he'll drive the way to pick me up. He on the other hand thinks thats absurd and doesn't want to do it. What should I do? I feel like on one hand I should be worth the drive, but on the other shouldnt a relationship be about equal effort. I need advice.