I have a 75 year old mother who is as set in her ways as the Wall of China. If she wants to wear the same old pair of pants every day for months on end instead of the 40 new pairs sitting in her closet, more power to her and it's no sweat off my back. (I do chuck them once they're in tatters, but only after she's given me her acceptance that it's the right thing to do.)
How can we get her to prioritize her life better? She can spend a whole hour trying to figure out where the "right" plate is to feed her cat, instead of just grabbing whatever plate is handy. She spends hours a day in frustration over little tasks that, if she just let go of her desire to do it "her" way, would be done in seconds. I hate to see her so unhappy; the rest of the time when she isn't stuck in one of her ruts she's as happy as a clam. I just would like to see her that happy all the time.
She is diagnosed with minor cognative imparement from age.
Nana Viki, your comments are especially welcome.