I used to have a friend (21)who is in bad living conditions. It's just him and his mother who is jobless (he has a job now). At first it seemed ok but then I noticed that they hate their family. Apparently spreading rumors like the mother is going to bars to pick up guys, she does drugs and steals. And everytime she either gets pissed off or cries about how bad they treat her. Later I found out that she does do weed. And when she got caught she cried about her mother not believing that it wasn't weed. She went to bars almost every week saying she's a grown up she can do whatever she wants. And then she would sometimes go to the casino for a few days to gamble even though she barely has money. The more I paid attention to her the more it seemed like she would do something bad, cry about getting caught and then have her son comfort her and have him lie to others to make it seem like she never did anything wrong so she doesn't get in trouble. Oh yeah and saying things like she would be dead without him. When I finnaly tried to get him to see that his mother isn't as innocent as he thinks he got mad and we never talked again. He could be living a good life, he's nothing like his mother but she is dragging him down and keeping him as some sort of shield from life and consequences. Why would someone do this to their child? What is the reason for putting him through all this and making him think she's an innocent helpless person?