3x now she has intensely pursued me and then rejected me immediately after hitting a certain level of closeness... and all i want is to be close to her (and she seems like she SO wants to be close with me) until suddenly we start to get close and she quickly disappears or rages (for no clear reason, and with no encouragement on my part) and i feel she acts rude but i stay polite... and then POOF she's gone for months and then BAM when she's back she's back in full force with tons of passion again, as if she'd never pushed me away. I really like her as a person, there's many amazing things about her, and she's a very dedicated single mom which I really admire, and i want to find a way to make it work? Can a non-bpd person have successful relationships with bpd person if they give their partner space? What do I need to do to make things work? I like her quite a lot, and I'm not trying to play hero or anything, but I think I'm one of the few people that might actually be gentle enough to handle her intensity with grace... i just think that i need to understand more about what life experiences are like for her?????? i have no interest in discriminating against her based on the way her mind works, i think she is a wonderful person but sometimes her behaviors hurt me & push me away...how do i respect her process and maintain my kindness?