My boyfriend, in his 35+ years, has never had a job for more than 2-3 years, never had an apartment for longer than a couple of years and same with relationships.
We've been together over a year and he swears he's happy with me, that I'm "perfect", but he's unhappy in his life because he keeps needing other changes - he wants a new job and to move to another apartment (he gave up one because of his lease, so now he's living with his mom after briefly living with me a few months).
He doesn't understand why I'm upset that he always wants change in his life. I'm the opposite - I've had 2 stable jobs over the past 15 years and lived in my place for 10 years. I like stability and knowing I'm secure.
While I love being with my BF and we hardly argue about values and commitment, I"m afraid that down the line, if we move into a new place together and he gets a new job, it'l only be a matter of time before he's bored with THOSE situations as well.
He doesn't think something like this should stop us from being together (which seems naive to not comprehend). "I don't know what I want, all I know is I want to be with you." Is what he says. That's nice and all, but I don't want my future to be with someone who's never satisfied with their job/apartment or living situation.
How else can I explain to him (maybe in guy terms) that it's unhealthy for me to go in this revolving door of uncertainty with him going forward?