• My friend holds grudges. WTF!?

    My friend and I are in our late 30s, went to high school together and had our fall outs, but she's now holding grudges against me for things I did years ago and is still bringing up an incident that happened with me and my boyfriend LAST YEAR (we were all going to hang out, then plans changed, and she said it's "changed her image"... show more
    My friend and I are in our late 30s, went to high school together and had our fall outs, but she's now holding grudges against me for things I did years ago and is still bringing up an incident that happened with me and my boyfriend LAST YEAR (we were all going to hang out, then plans changed, and she said it's "changed her image" of my relationship). Of course I apologized and we've hung out anyway, despite her "grudge" but she keeps harping on everything about her past and times she's gotten disappointed. I've tried to make up with her and said let's move on and forward and find good things to focus on but she's choosing to remain in the past. She just said she "can't get past it". Should I just cease communication with her? This seems very toxic and unhealthy and is only harboring more resentment on her end. Why is she acting this way?
    5 answers · Friends · 5 days ago
  • What are rates/pay periods for bloggers/freelance writers?

    What is the average pay rate for those who submit blogs for a web site? Are you paid per word (and how much is going rate) or per article and how often is compensation paid for? I"m looking to submit writings to a blog site for a little money so wondering if it's worth pursuing and if the frequency of getting paid is worth side hustling in... show more
    What is the average pay rate for those who submit blogs for a web site? Are you paid per word (and how much is going rate) or per article and how often is compensation paid for? I"m looking to submit writings to a blog site for a little money so wondering if it's worth pursuing and if the frequency of getting paid is worth side hustling in my spare time.Thanks!
    2 answers · Media & Journalism · 3 weeks ago
  • Is there a point in messaging my friend any more?

    My friend and I message each other once a week. It's impossible to physically see her/ get together or speak to her on the phone because she has a very rigid and abnormal work/home schedule (which she's carved out herself it seems). Even though she's only in her mid-30s, her brain doesn't process all the things I write to her in my... show more
    My friend and I message each other once a week. It's impossible to physically see her/ get together or speak to her on the phone because she has a very rigid and abnormal work/home schedule (which she's carved out herself it seems). Even though she's only in her mid-30s, her brain doesn't process all the things I write to her in my messages. It's like she scans the messages and doesn't actually answer or address whatever's in the text. I approached her about it, saying I'm concerned that her mind is clouded with things, but she apologizes and STILL doesn't process what I'm writing to her and some of her sentences make NO sense, almost like her brain isn't functioning right. Should I start messaging her less often and then cut ties since we can't see each other anyway and I'm not getting the friendship I want from her scatter-brained messages???
    2 answers · Friends · 3 weeks ago
  • Friendship no longer grows me. What can I tell her?

    My best friend since high school is becoming quite toxic. She uses negative events in her life as crutches for not doing better for herself (in her mid 30s she still lives at home, is overweight but blames everything for her lack of motivation). She's not even reading the texts that I send her, answering with strange responses. We never hang out... show more
    My best friend since high school is becoming quite toxic. She uses negative events in her life as crutches for not doing better for herself (in her mid 30s she still lives at home, is overweight but blames everything for her lack of motivation). She's not even reading the texts that I send her, answering with strange responses. We never hang out any more because she has a wacky work night schedule and she would rather be home or cook on her days off instead of getting together. She's not growing me any more and I can't experience life with her or grow with her. Is it enough to just stop messaging her and draw away from the friendship instead of telling her we're no longer compatible as friends and have grown apart?
    3 answers · Friends · 4 weeks ago
  • My friend thinks my relationship habits are unhealthy?

    My boyfriend and I live together, so of course we can spend any time together we want. Last weekend I did a bunch of things and went a bunch of place on my own simply because my BF was tired and he had his own things to do. When I told my friend in passing about my weekend, she said it seems strange that my BF "gets into moods" where he... show more
    My boyfriend and I live together, so of course we can spend any time together we want. Last weekend I did a bunch of things and went a bunch of place on my own simply because my BF was tired and he had his own things to do. When I told my friend in passing about my weekend, she said it seems strange that my BF "gets into moods" where he wants to be alone. She reacted as if it were unhealthy that I spent a lot of my weekend going out by myself. She thinks it's weird and "red flag" like, where I feel it's really unhealthy for couples do to everything together when they live under the same roof. SHE is single and not even looking to date anyone and hasn't had a relationship in over 7 years. How can I tell her her own lack of experience is making her see things in a warped way?
    1 answer · Friends · 1 month ago
  • Best friend seems hopeless. What do I tell her?

    My friend is in her mid 30s and seems to want to get out of her "rut " in life. But she lives at home, has had the same city job for nearly a decade (which she says is holding her back because of her evening shift), and she's trying to "feel sexy" about herself but can't lose enough weight to feel confident because... show more
    My friend is in her mid 30s and seems to want to get out of her "rut " in life. But she lives at home, has had the same city job for nearly a decade (which she says is holding her back because of her evening shift), and she's trying to "feel sexy" about herself but can't lose enough weight to feel confident because she's not physically active. In addition, she rehashes a lot of old situations with her ex husband from 15 years ago (looking up his home for sale and other details of his life) and her ex boyfriend who died in another woman's home several years ago (looking up what she calls 'red flags' from her past to get closure.) While I have a lot of new things to talk about and a lot of new endeavors in my life, she's in some ditch where she doesn't want to move on to healthy things in life. Is it my place to give her advice or does it sound like she's at an age where she's "comfortable" with these routine behaviors she holds onto?
    4 answers · Friends · 1 month ago
  • Why does my mom pass down toxic family relations?

    My mom's family has a history of toxicity - she doesn't talk to her brother, so she's fins with the fact that me and my sister haven't spoken in a year (because we're 20 years apart in age and a LOT of conflict has arisen). My sister and I have had horrible words and I'm waiting for her to mature and realize she's lost... show more
    My mom's family has a history of toxicity - she doesn't talk to her brother, so she's fins with the fact that me and my sister haven't spoken in a year (because we're 20 years apart in age and a LOT of conflict has arisen). My sister and I have had horrible words and I'm waiting for her to mature and realize she's lost the only sibling she has. My mother also never had a good relationship with HER mother, so she's carrying on the same pattern with me. I've tried being close to my mom and opening up to her, but her responses to me are always cold/distant and disconnected. Why is she accepting that out family is floating apart because her family had the same issues? I can't include my father in this "toxic" pattern, as he passed away 7 years ago and hasn't been around to witness this downward spiral :(
    5 answers · Family · 1 month ago
  • Yahoo Answers - no etiquette?

    No one on Yahoo Answers knows each other - we're from all over the world! Why do people answer questions on here with snarky and bitter comments as if they KNOW the person and dislike them. Forget about "trolls" and people who just want a couple of points, why not be decent at least and be on the side of the person asking a question?... show more
    No one on Yahoo Answers knows each other - we're from all over the world! Why do people answer questions on here with snarky and bitter comments as if they KNOW the person and dislike them. Forget about "trolls" and people who just want a couple of points, why not be decent at least and be on the side of the person asking a question? Instead of giving feedback, it's like every person on Yahoo is wagging their finger at someone they've never met who may really just want positive helpful advice. No one on here can give that much??
    5 answers · Etiquette · 1 month ago
  • Yahoo Answer audience is bitter?

    No one on Yahoo Answers knows each other - we're from all over the world! Why do people answer questions on here with snarky and bitter comments as if they KNOW the person and dislike them. Forget about "trolls" and people who just want a couple of points, why not be decent at least and be on the side of the person asking a question?... show more
    No one on Yahoo Answers knows each other - we're from all over the world! Why do people answer questions on here with snarky and bitter comments as if they KNOW the person and dislike them. Forget about "trolls" and people who just want a couple of points, why not be decent at least and be on the side of the person asking a question? Instead of giving feedback, it's like every person on Yahoo is wagging their finger at someone they've never met who may really just want positive helpful advice. No one on here can give that much??
    Yahoo Answers · 1 month ago
  • Unsupportive mother "envious" of me?

    My mom and I aren't exactly close. When we spend time together, it has to be in limited amounts and she's angry person altogether, so when we text, she comes off very irate, for some reason. This weekend, I ran a 5K race to benefit ovarian cancer research, since there's no screening for this disease. It was a great cause and I'm a... show more
    My mom and I aren't exactly close. When we spend time together, it has to be in limited amounts and she's angry person altogether, so when we text, she comes off very irate, for some reason. This weekend, I ran a 5K race to benefit ovarian cancer research, since there's no screening for this disease. It was a great cause and I'm a runner, so I loved the whole experience. I posted a photo of myself at the event and my mom commented "Are you getting screened at this event? it's only useful for those who take care of themselves" WTF??? She obv doesn't believe in doing anything GOOD just for the sake of it and she NEVER supports me on my races. She does nothing with her life for me to support and congratulate her on. (she's a cashier at a supermarket and spends her nights on FB ranting about poitical news). I don't want to cut ties with my mom, but WHY is she so bitter and unsupportive?? Am I missing something?
    3 answers · Family · 1 month ago
  • Is this friendship dying?

    My friend and I are in our late 30s and we've been friends since high school. More and more over the past couple of years, she's been "just there" and not really a true friend. We never hang out because she puts her own obligations first (and uses her family responsibilities and odd job hours as a crutch). We NEVER talk on the... show more
    My friend and I are in our late 30s and we've been friends since high school. More and more over the past couple of years, she's been "just there" and not really a true friend. We never hang out because she puts her own obligations first (and uses her family responsibilities and odd job hours as a crutch). We NEVER talk on the phone, as she has no privacy at home and works nights, so we can't have regular convos like friends do. We simply Facebook message each other with updates every week, but she's becoming more inside herself/to herself, never wanting to leave the house or do anything and she has little to say because nothing is going on in her life and I always have plenty to say about what's going on with myself. Sometimes I feel like there's no connection with her at all but I don't want to tell her since we've been friends for so many decades. Let it drift or keep it going on a respirator and accept this failing fate?
    Friends · 2 months ago
  • My mother is cold and strange about my success..?

    A couple of weeks ago I got a job writing blogs for a web site, a big step forward in my writing career even though it's a small gig. My friends and co-workers at my day job are super excited for me and love reading my pieces. My mom hasn't said a word - no congratulations or ANYTHING. I've been publicly posting my blogs on social media... show more
    A couple of weeks ago I got a job writing blogs for a web site, a big step forward in my writing career even though it's a small gig. My friends and co-workers at my day job are super excited for me and love reading my pieces. My mom hasn't said a word - no congratulations or ANYTHING. I've been publicly posting my blogs on social media and she hasn't even said "So cool that my daughter has a new writing gig.." It's like it's no big deal to her - but aren't mothers supposed to be supportive, proud and encouraging of their child's careers and accomplishments? I'm not looking for her to drool over my success, it just seems like she's totally disconnected from my life. She lives 7 blocks from me, I never see her and she only texts me when there's a problem with money or she needs something. Am I right for feeling out of sorts about our relationship?
    6 answers · Family · 2 months ago
  • My boyfriend is an introvert - not a good thing!?

    My BF and I are in out mid 30s. I have a few close friends and I wanted my boyfriend to come to a community event with me to meet some people I know (who ask where he is whenever I see them around). It seemed awkward to me that my BF didn't want to come with me to meet people I know both personally and professionally - since he says "I... show more
    My BF and I are in out mid 30s. I have a few close friends and I wanted my boyfriend to come to a community event with me to meet some people I know (who ask where he is whenever I see them around). It seemed awkward to me that my BF didn't want to come with me to meet people I know both personally and professionally - since he says "I never meet any friends of yours..." but he's not willing to come with me to meet other people. My BF is an introvert - has no friends that he hangs out with and texts one or two people from work, but he's basically a loner. I wind up going places all by myself and having to answer for him and make up excuses that he's working or "busy" and that's why he's not coming with me places. I'm tired of making excuses why I go places alone just because he doesn't feel like meeting new people. How do I get past this?
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 months ago
  • My boss acting strange towards me...?

    I know for a fact that my boss of a couple years used to (or still) likes me - as in LIKES me. I have a boyfriend and I'm very active/happy in life and my boss started acting strange with some animosity towards me since I came back from vacation with my boyfriend over a month ago. We used to joke around about the company and he would be in the... show more
    I know for a fact that my boss of a couple years used to (or still) likes me - as in LIKES me. I have a boyfriend and I'm very active/happy in life and my boss started acting strange with some animosity towards me since I came back from vacation with my boyfriend over a month ago. We used to joke around about the company and he would be in the office to help me get my work done. He's VERY unapproachable and hasn't even been coming into the office the past month. He also came in one morning and gave me the riot act about a bunch of work things that were totally obscure and out of left field. I feel like he's now taking all his personal "feelings" towards me and turning them into negative exchanges. I don't need to go to HR or anything to complain, since the company is not even based in the same state as my office and it's not a huge deal. How should I act towards my boss, knowing he has this demeanor towards me because he used to like me?
    6 answers · Etiquette · 2 months ago
  • Is my boyfriend lazy or just needs guidance?

    When I come home from work, I usually have a lot to do - particularly getting ready for the next day like getting my clothes ready for the next day (since I'm up at 6 I do everything the night before), setting my coffee pot and catching up on paperwork from assignments I did at my evening job that week. My boyfriend keeps wanting me to just sit... show more
    When I come home from work, I usually have a lot to do - particularly getting ready for the next day like getting my clothes ready for the next day (since I'm up at 6 I do everything the night before), setting my coffee pot and catching up on paperwork from assignments I did at my evening job that week. My boyfriend keeps wanting me to just sit with him and watch tv and "relax". While he can do SOME things to help me, like do the dishes that are may be still in the sink and take out garbage, there are things I need to do at home that he can't do for me and I can't just sit watching tv. I'm lucky enough to be able to do laundry at work, so when I get home I often have to organize my clothes and whatever else has to be put away. He can really only help me so much and it's easier if I put my own things away, of course. How can I explain nicely that sitting and watching TV (there's only 1 in the living room, so we can't watch it in the kitchen while we're cooking or in the bedroom while putting clothes away) is the LAST thing I want to do when I get home because I have a lot of responsibilities/chores!! Is he just lazy and not understanding what it means to be an adult?
    4 answers · Other - Family & Relationships · 3 months ago
  • Home improvement project stressing me out!?

    My boyfriend and I decided to mount a tv on the living room wall. It's my apartment, but I'm more than willing to make changes and improvements with his help. Now, the TV is mounted and we've TOTALLY rearranged the living room and there's stuff EVERYWHERE! This project resulted in me having to throw out some of my valued possessions... show more
    My boyfriend and I decided to mount a tv on the living room wall. It's my apartment, but I'm more than willing to make changes and improvements with his help. Now, the TV is mounted and we've TOTALLY rearranged the living room and there's stuff EVERYWHERE! This project resulted in me having to throw out some of my valued possessions and there's less room now to plug various appliances in. I love that my bf helped me redo the living room and make it "different" - and I can't go back now and say I'm unhappy with it - I thought it would look nice, but it's more of a hassle now. But the clean up and facing all the things I have to get rid of (photos, figurines, books) is giving me anxiety. I don't even want to be in my living room or LOOK at the task ahead. How can I get motivated to make my living room space decent again?
    3 answers · Other - Family & Relationships · 3 months ago
  • Why do many people require less personal space than others?

    More specifically, when people are in public and have plenty of space around them, but choose to station themselves close to another individual. Is it a cultural thing that some cultures do not have a concept of personal space and respecting strangers' ideas/physical feelings on keeping a distance? What determines why a person is more... show more
    More specifically, when people are in public and have plenty of space around them, but choose to station themselves close to another individual. Is it a cultural thing that some cultures do not have a concept of personal space and respecting strangers' ideas/physical feelings on keeping a distance? What determines why a person is more comfortable being physically close to strangers in public than others?
    4 answers · Etiquette · 3 months ago
  • Not looking forward to seeing my boyfriend's family!?

    My boyfriend's cousin and wife invited us over this weekend. They have a 5 year old boy who when we saw him last, climbed all over us and it was very uncomfortable for me. The boy was all over me and touching me and I laughed it off and stood up to stop him from grabbing me. The parents told the boy over and over to stop being so physical - and... show more
    My boyfriend's cousin and wife invited us over this weekend. They have a 5 year old boy who when we saw him last, climbed all over us and it was very uncomfortable for me. The boy was all over me and touching me and I laughed it off and stood up to stop him from grabbing me. The parents told the boy over and over to stop being so physical - and it was the FIRST time I ever met the kid- but he was all over me anyway. I want to spend time with my bf's family, but the little boy is too physical and I don't know him that well and I'm not comfortable being physically handled that way by a child I barely know (especially having my hair played with or the child hanging on my shoulders - it's just physically awkward right now). How can I handle the confrontation when we see them and the kid starts to swing all over me and touch me uncomfortably when he's just being "friendly"?
    8 answers · Family · 3 months ago
  • Boyfriend's BAD ideas for "redecorating" the apartment...?

    My boyfriend had an idea to redecorate and move things around the apartment - and mount a flatscreen TV on the wall, which require lots of drilling, holes without permission from my landlord. We moved a bunch of furniture around last night and he wants one of the couches literally in the middle of the living room, which looks obtuse to me, as the... show more
    My boyfriend had an idea to redecorate and move things around the apartment - and mount a flatscreen TV on the wall, which require lots of drilling, holes without permission from my landlord. We moved a bunch of furniture around last night and he wants one of the couches literally in the middle of the living room, which looks obtuse to me, as the back of the couch is the first thing you see when you enter the apartment - it also now takes away from the open space of the huge living room, In addition, his interior design ideas resulted in me having to put a bunch of my things in storage (which he said he'll store at his mom's apartment), so there's less room now and the burden of hauling away half of the furniture from the living room simply because we're trying "change" things up by mounting a tv. I want to say nicely that I hate the new arrangement and now having to store my furniture elsewhere because of a TV - and I want things to go back to the way it was - but he's already bought everything to change the way the place looks. We did a trial set up and now the apartment looks like a hurricane came through. How can I be honest and not insult him?
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 3 months ago
  • Overweight friend isn't motivated?

    My best friend is trying to lose weight, but has no "goal" or target. She's been heavy all of her life but says she wants to be smaller and sexier. She's on a "diet" - but doesn't exercise or move around a lot. The biggest part of her problem is she blames her exboyfriend's death from 5 years ago for her not... show more
    My best friend is trying to lose weight, but has no "goal" or target. She's been heavy all of her life but says she wants to be smaller and sexier. She's on a "diet" - but doesn't exercise or move around a lot. The biggest part of her problem is she blames her exboyfriend's death from 5 years ago for her not being able to heal and lose weight. Her ex was found dead inside of another woman's home - a woman he got pregnant while he and my friend were together. Instead of my friend moving on 5 years later, she's using his death as a crutch for why she can't lose weight and "heal" from things. What can I say to her that's not mean? I've been supportive of her - even gave her my old FitBit to help her motivate herself to walk more. She wants to lose weight and feels uncomfortable with herself, but how can I tell her she's holding onto a toxic past and I don't understand how that unhealthy relationship is still causing her to keep her weight on all these years later.
    2 answers · Friends · 3 months ago