• Is retail therapy ok as long as you're not in debt?

    I'm not in debt and I don't have any credit cards etc., but once or twice a month I go on a "retail therapy" binge when I'm feeling really depressed at work (I work in a building with dark lights and it's very quiet for the most part, so going out shopping gives me a "rush" on my lunch break). Sometimes when I... show more
    I'm not in debt and I don't have any credit cards etc., but once or twice a month I go on a "retail therapy" binge when I'm feeling really depressed at work (I work in a building with dark lights and it's very quiet for the most part, so going out shopping gives me a "rush" on my lunch break). Sometimes when I look back at my shopping, I feel like I could have saved that money - but I'm not buying hundreds of dollars worth of expensive stuff like handbags and shoes and I'm going for more discount shops than anything. All my bills are paid on time and I can go days without spending, but I still feel guilty on those days I going on mini shopping sprees. Should I feel guilty or realize that I deserve some fun things every once in a while and that retail therapy IS a thing LOL!
    1 answer · Polls & Surveys · 3 days ago
  • How do I get away from staffing firms and job agencies!?

    I have my resume on CareerBuilder, Monster and Indeed. I've only been getting responses from staffing agencies and NO direct answers from companies themselves!! I tried a couple employment agencies but they have NO clue what the company culture is, what type of environment I'd be working in and I was tired of going on interviews with the... show more
    I have my resume on CareerBuilder, Monster and Indeed. I've only been getting responses from staffing agencies and NO direct answers from companies themselves!! I tried a couple employment agencies but they have NO clue what the company culture is, what type of environment I'd be working in and I was tired of going on interviews with the agency and THEN again with their client. I was also scammed into getting hired for one role by the agency and the company itself threw me into another role I didn't want to be in. Where I can apply to get contacted directly by an employer themselves and not an agency. I have over 14 years experience with communcations/editorial/ administrative skills and I know the type of position I want but agencies are annoying to plow through. Any ideas/advice?
    6 answers · Other - Careers & Employment · 6 days ago
  • Why is my mom so self-involved?

    My boyfriend and I had my mom over for coffee and cake over the holidays and this was her 2nd time meeting him - and the ONLY time we actually sat at a table to talk. All my mom did was gossip about Facebook and her work - she didn't ask my bf anything to open a conversation that included him. We also tried to change the subject to other things... show more
    My boyfriend and I had my mom over for coffee and cake over the holidays and this was her 2nd time meeting him - and the ONLY time we actually sat at a table to talk. All my mom did was gossip about Facebook and her work - she didn't ask my bf anything to open a conversation that included him. We also tried to change the subject to other things but she went back to bringing up gossip about people my bf doesn't even know!! She's not one of those mothers who cares about her daughter's boyfriend or getting to know them, but my bf said it was uncomfortable that she was into her own world. My mom's only in her late 50s and doesn't really do much with her life, but I didn't want to tell her "enough already with talking about FB!!!" Should I chalk it up to excluding her from get togethers? She obviously doesn't care about making convo about anything else but her own gossip. Any ideas?
    5 answers · Family · 2 months ago
  • My boyfriend acting shady with his phone?

    My bf and I have been together 2 years and we've lived together for a while now. Since it's cold and we don't go out often, I'm noticing lately (maybe a couple months) that he's always on his phone and he sometimes takes it into the bathroom with him - even putting it in his pocket when he's going into the bedroom or the... show more
    My bf and I have been together 2 years and we've lived together for a while now. Since it's cold and we don't go out often, I'm noticing lately (maybe a couple months) that he's always on his phone and he sometimes takes it into the bathroom with him - even putting it in his pocket when he's going into the bedroom or the kitchen. There are times he just has it out in the open and doesn't hide it, but it seems like he's taking it everywhere around the house too. He comes home normally every night - never acts shady or says he's hanging with the guys and he always messages and communicates with me. He doesn't act strange or distant from me at all - he just seems to be attached to his phone to the point where he takes it into the bathroom or another room. Am I being naive and could he be talking to other chics? I don't know what other signs to look that he's involved with someone else?
    4 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 months ago
  • Symptoms of seasonal depression sneaking up!?

    I'm generally a very physically active person - I'm a runner and I exercise a few times a week. I also have a couple of side jobs that keep me busy and projects that I work on, so I'm always on my toes. However, now that cold weather is coming and it gets dark as I'm leaving work before 5 p.m., I'm really just feeling tired all... show more
    I'm generally a very physically active person - I'm a runner and I exercise a few times a week. I also have a couple of side jobs that keep me busy and projects that I work on, so I'm always on my toes. However, now that cold weather is coming and it gets dark as I'm leaving work before 5 p.m., I'm really just feeling tired all the time and not motivated to do the things I did a month ago. I make plans to go for a run etc., but I wind up going home and collapsing on the couch. I also live in NYC and the colder and darker it is, the more people travel on trains and it becomes quite a crazy/stressful commute in the city. Any advice for dealing with the winter blues and stress it brings along?
    3 answers · Psychology · 3 months ago
  • How do you deal with not-so-bright coworkers?

    I'm finding that there are a lot of literally "dumb" individuals at my job and it's getting harder to work with them. I work in the fashion industry and one woman who's worked with us for 3 months now JUST noticed the mannequins in the lobby that have been there for years (she's been in our office even before she officially... show more
    I'm finding that there are a lot of literally "dumb" individuals at my job and it's getting harder to work with them. I work in the fashion industry and one woman who's worked with us for 3 months now JUST noticed the mannequins in the lobby that have been there for years (she's been in our office even before she officially worked here and we never change the mannequins). There are other people who don't know how to log into their computers, turn on their portable phones or carry out simple tasks or they say such asinine things that I can't even react big enough. I sometimes find myself at a loss for words. How do you deal with co-workers who literally are slow and no sense of how to operate??
    22 answers · Etiquette · 3 months ago
  • Depressed friends increasing in my life?

    For some reason, it seems I'm not able to connect with my friends as more and more of them are going through depression. One friend has diagnosed clinical depression and we've had so many fights because she is often distant, over anxious during our convos and she goes into periods of not talking to anyone and misreading messages I'd sent... show more
    For some reason, it seems I'm not able to connect with my friends as more and more of them are going through depression. One friend has diagnosed clinical depression and we've had so many fights because she is often distant, over anxious during our convos and she goes into periods of not talking to anyone and misreading messages I'd sent to her. Another friend is taking on the same traits - but since the summer she's gotten worse, not messaging me back for days or even a week later and her energy is very dark. We don't joke around any more and she prefers to stay home instead of getting together to do something adventurous (which she used to do years ago.) Neither of these girls wants professional help - they told me they "don't want to rehash" parts of their lives to a therapist. In the end, I have no friends to talk to or hang out. I have older friends too, but they live far away and have families etc. While I'm "here" for my friends, they've withdrawn from anything healthy in life. Just let them go and stay away from their toxic personalities???
    2 answers · Friends · 3 months ago
  • Guys: What's The Point In Vague Messaging Women?

    Every now and then I get vague messages from men from the past but from new numbers. I just got "Hey Stranger, how have you been??" Why not say "Hi, its___, just want to see how you are." I've blocked and deleted ALL numbers of guys I've ever been with since I've been in a serious relationship for 2 years, so I... show more
    Every now and then I get vague messages from men from the past but from new numbers. I just got "Hey Stranger, how have you been??" Why not say "Hi, its___, just want to see how you are." I've blocked and deleted ALL numbers of guys I've ever been with since I've been in a serious relationship for 2 years, so I can't even imagine who's trying to crawl out of the woodwork. Even when they text my name, I have NO idea who it is and they seem to want to remain "mysterious" instead of greeting me and telling me who it is. What's the point in sending a random message several years later to a woman and not reminding her who it is???? Especially when all we're going to do is block and delete!
    1 answer · Other - Family & Relationships · 3 months ago
  • My friend holds grudges. WTF!?

    My friend and I are in our late 30s, went to high school together and had our fall outs, but she's now holding grudges against me for things I did years ago and is still bringing up an incident that happened with me and my boyfriend LAST YEAR (we were all going to hang out, then plans changed, and she said it's "changed her image"... show more
    My friend and I are in our late 30s, went to high school together and had our fall outs, but she's now holding grudges against me for things I did years ago and is still bringing up an incident that happened with me and my boyfriend LAST YEAR (we were all going to hang out, then plans changed, and she said it's "changed her image" of my relationship). Of course I apologized and we've hung out anyway, despite her "grudge" but she keeps harping on everything about her past and times she's gotten disappointed. I've tried to make up with her and said let's move on and forward and find good things to focus on but she's choosing to remain in the past. She just said she "can't get past it". Should I just cease communication with her? This seems very toxic and unhealthy and is only harboring more resentment on her end. Why is she acting this way?
    4 answers · Friends · 3 months ago
  • What are rates/pay periods for bloggers/freelance writers?

    What is the average pay rate for those who submit blogs for a web site? Are you paid per word (and how much is going rate) or per article and how often is compensation paid for? I"m looking to submit writings to a blog site for a little money so wondering if it's worth pursuing and if the frequency of getting paid is worth side hustling in... show more
    What is the average pay rate for those who submit blogs for a web site? Are you paid per word (and how much is going rate) or per article and how often is compensation paid for? I"m looking to submit writings to a blog site for a little money so wondering if it's worth pursuing and if the frequency of getting paid is worth side hustling in my spare time.Thanks!
    2 answers · Media & Journalism · 4 months ago
  • Is there a point in messaging my friend any more?

    My friend and I message each other once a week. It's impossible to physically see her/ get together or speak to her on the phone because she has a very rigid and abnormal work/home schedule (which she's carved out herself it seems). Even though she's only in her mid-30s, her brain doesn't process all the things I write to her in my... show more
    My friend and I message each other once a week. It's impossible to physically see her/ get together or speak to her on the phone because she has a very rigid and abnormal work/home schedule (which she's carved out herself it seems). Even though she's only in her mid-30s, her brain doesn't process all the things I write to her in my messages. It's like she scans the messages and doesn't actually answer or address whatever's in the text. I approached her about it, saying I'm concerned that her mind is clouded with things, but she apologizes and STILL doesn't process what I'm writing to her and some of her sentences make NO sense, almost like her brain isn't functioning right. Should I start messaging her less often and then cut ties since we can't see each other anyway and I'm not getting the friendship I want from her scatter-brained messages???
    1 answer · Friends · 4 months ago
  • Friendship no longer grows me. What can I tell her?

    My best friend since high school is becoming quite toxic. She uses negative events in her life as crutches for not doing better for herself (in her mid 30s she still lives at home, is overweight but blames everything for her lack of motivation). She's not even reading the texts that I send her, answering with strange responses. We never hang out... show more
    My best friend since high school is becoming quite toxic. She uses negative events in her life as crutches for not doing better for herself (in her mid 30s she still lives at home, is overweight but blames everything for her lack of motivation). She's not even reading the texts that I send her, answering with strange responses. We never hang out any more because she has a wacky work night schedule and she would rather be home or cook on her days off instead of getting together. She's not growing me any more and I can't experience life with her or grow with her. Is it enough to just stop messaging her and draw away from the friendship instead of telling her we're no longer compatible as friends and have grown apart?
    3 answers · Friends · 4 months ago
  • My friend thinks my relationship habits are unhealthy?

    My boyfriend and I live together, so of course we can spend any time together we want. Last weekend I did a bunch of things and went a bunch of place on my own simply because my BF was tired and he had his own things to do. When I told my friend in passing about my weekend, she said it seems strange that my BF "gets into moods" where he... show more
    My boyfriend and I live together, so of course we can spend any time together we want. Last weekend I did a bunch of things and went a bunch of place on my own simply because my BF was tired and he had his own things to do. When I told my friend in passing about my weekend, she said it seems strange that my BF "gets into moods" where he wants to be alone. She reacted as if it were unhealthy that I spent a lot of my weekend going out by myself. She thinks it's weird and "red flag" like, where I feel it's really unhealthy for couples do to everything together when they live under the same roof. SHE is single and not even looking to date anyone and hasn't had a relationship in over 7 years. How can I tell her her own lack of experience is making her see things in a warped way?
    1 answer · Friends · 4 months ago
  • Best friend seems hopeless. What do I tell her?

    My friend is in her mid 30s and seems to want to get out of her "rut " in life. But she lives at home, has had the same city job for nearly a decade (which she says is holding her back because of her evening shift), and she's trying to "feel sexy" about herself but can't lose enough weight to feel confident because... show more
    My friend is in her mid 30s and seems to want to get out of her "rut " in life. But she lives at home, has had the same city job for nearly a decade (which she says is holding her back because of her evening shift), and she's trying to "feel sexy" about herself but can't lose enough weight to feel confident because she's not physically active. In addition, she rehashes a lot of old situations with her ex husband from 15 years ago (looking up his home for sale and other details of his life) and her ex boyfriend who died in another woman's home several years ago (looking up what she calls 'red flags' from her past to get closure.) While I have a lot of new things to talk about and a lot of new endeavors in my life, she's in some ditch where she doesn't want to move on to healthy things in life. Is it my place to give her advice or does it sound like she's at an age where she's "comfortable" with these routine behaviors she holds onto?
    4 answers · Friends · 4 months ago
  • Why does my mom pass down toxic family relations?

    My mom's family has a history of toxicity - she doesn't talk to her brother, so she's fins with the fact that me and my sister haven't spoken in a year (because we're 20 years apart in age and a LOT of conflict has arisen). My sister and I have had horrible words and I'm waiting for her to mature and realize she's lost... show more
    My mom's family has a history of toxicity - she doesn't talk to her brother, so she's fins with the fact that me and my sister haven't spoken in a year (because we're 20 years apart in age and a LOT of conflict has arisen). My sister and I have had horrible words and I'm waiting for her to mature and realize she's lost the only sibling she has. My mother also never had a good relationship with HER mother, so she's carrying on the same pattern with me. I've tried being close to my mom and opening up to her, but her responses to me are always cold/distant and disconnected. Why is she accepting that out family is floating apart because her family had the same issues? I can't include my father in this "toxic" pattern, as he passed away 7 years ago and hasn't been around to witness this downward spiral :(
    5 answers · Family · 4 months ago
  • Yahoo Answers - no etiquette?

    No one on Yahoo Answers knows each other - we're from all over the world! Why do people answer questions on here with snarky and bitter comments as if they KNOW the person and dislike them. Forget about "trolls" and people who just want a couple of points, why not be decent at least and be on the side of the person asking a question?... show more
    No one on Yahoo Answers knows each other - we're from all over the world! Why do people answer questions on here with snarky and bitter comments as if they KNOW the person and dislike them. Forget about "trolls" and people who just want a couple of points, why not be decent at least and be on the side of the person asking a question? Instead of giving feedback, it's like every person on Yahoo is wagging their finger at someone they've never met who may really just want positive helpful advice. No one on here can give that much??
    5 answers · Etiquette · 4 months ago
  • Yahoo Answer audience is bitter?

    No one on Yahoo Answers knows each other - we're from all over the world! Why do people answer questions on here with snarky and bitter comments as if they KNOW the person and dislike them. Forget about "trolls" and people who just want a couple of points, why not be decent at least and be on the side of the person asking a question?... show more
    No one on Yahoo Answers knows each other - we're from all over the world! Why do people answer questions on here with snarky and bitter comments as if they KNOW the person and dislike them. Forget about "trolls" and people who just want a couple of points, why not be decent at least and be on the side of the person asking a question? Instead of giving feedback, it's like every person on Yahoo is wagging their finger at someone they've never met who may really just want positive helpful advice. No one on here can give that much??
    Yahoo Answers · 4 months ago
  • Unsupportive mother "envious" of me?

    My mom and I aren't exactly close. When we spend time together, it has to be in limited amounts and she's angry person altogether, so when we text, she comes off very irate, for some reason. This weekend, I ran a 5K race to benefit ovarian cancer research, since there's no screening for this disease. It was a great cause and I'm a... show more
    My mom and I aren't exactly close. When we spend time together, it has to be in limited amounts and she's angry person altogether, so when we text, she comes off very irate, for some reason. This weekend, I ran a 5K race to benefit ovarian cancer research, since there's no screening for this disease. It was a great cause and I'm a runner, so I loved the whole experience. I posted a photo of myself at the event and my mom commented "Are you getting screened at this event? it's only useful for those who take care of themselves" WTF??? She obv doesn't believe in doing anything GOOD just for the sake of it and she NEVER supports me on my races. She does nothing with her life for me to support and congratulate her on. (she's a cashier at a supermarket and spends her nights on FB ranting about poitical news). I don't want to cut ties with my mom, but WHY is she so bitter and unsupportive?? Am I missing something?
    3 answers · Family · 4 months ago
  • Is this friendship dying?

    My friend and I are in our late 30s and we've been friends since high school. More and more over the past couple of years, she's been "just there" and not really a true friend. We never hang out because she puts her own obligations first (and uses her family responsibilities and odd job hours as a crutch). We NEVER talk on the... show more
    My friend and I are in our late 30s and we've been friends since high school. More and more over the past couple of years, she's been "just there" and not really a true friend. We never hang out because she puts her own obligations first (and uses her family responsibilities and odd job hours as a crutch). We NEVER talk on the phone, as she has no privacy at home and works nights, so we can't have regular convos like friends do. We simply Facebook message each other with updates every week, but she's becoming more inside herself/to herself, never wanting to leave the house or do anything and she has little to say because nothing is going on in her life and I always have plenty to say about what's going on with myself. Sometimes I feel like there's no connection with her at all but I don't want to tell her since we've been friends for so many decades. Let it drift or keep it going on a respirator and accept this failing fate?
    Friends · 5 months ago
  • My mother is cold and strange about my success..?

    A couple of weeks ago I got a job writing blogs for a web site, a big step forward in my writing career even though it's a small gig. My friends and co-workers at my day job are super excited for me and love reading my pieces. My mom hasn't said a word - no congratulations or ANYTHING. I've been publicly posting my blogs on social media... show more
    A couple of weeks ago I got a job writing blogs for a web site, a big step forward in my writing career even though it's a small gig. My friends and co-workers at my day job are super excited for me and love reading my pieces. My mom hasn't said a word - no congratulations or ANYTHING. I've been publicly posting my blogs on social media and she hasn't even said "So cool that my daughter has a new writing gig.." It's like it's no big deal to her - but aren't mothers supposed to be supportive, proud and encouraging of their child's careers and accomplishments? I'm not looking for her to drool over my success, it just seems like she's totally disconnected from my life. She lives 7 blocks from me, I never see her and she only texts me when there's a problem with money or she needs something. Am I right for feeling out of sorts about our relationship?
    5 answers · Family · 5 months ago