Does any other wives have this problem? We've been married 8.5 years and he was one way before the wedding, then after the wedding, he devotes his attention to anything BUT me: the kids, his job, etc. I am on the back burner. Even when he is "spending time" with me, he is emotionally checked out. There is little difference between spending time w/ me and spending time w/ his brother.
What really bothers me is for all this time I have done the whole "good" devoted wife thing. Before anyone jumps on me ... I KNOW I'm not perfect and I have my problems. But I stay at home, take care of the kids, clean the house, make good tasting homemade meals, etc.
Here lately I've been "acting out" a bit. I've been going out w/ friends (something I haven't done since before we got engaged). I've been taking off in the evening just to leave and go do my own thing (something I've never done). Now that I've been doing that, he has been giving me some positive attention, like texting me he loves me, physical affection, etc.
What bothers me is I know deep down he loves the whole devoted wife thing, and I do too. But, I CRAVE some attention from him / any attention, and am to the point where I'm almost willing to party and do my own thing if that means he will show me some attention.
Also, for more information, I do take care of myself. I'm trim even after 4 boys, take care of cleanliness, hygiene, etc. I don't understand why he's just so distant.