• Are men or women more likely to have "creative memories"?

    The theme here being that a person will take selected comments and then create a new memory out of them which they believe to be 100% true. A loose example....I might make a statement that I really like a good lager beer and offer a guy a lager. Then a guy might think that I hate ales. And since I hate ales, I have insulted him being a... show more
    The theme here being that a person will take selected comments and then create a new memory out of them which they believe to be 100% true. A loose example....I might make a statement that I really like a good lager beer and offer a guy a lager. Then a guy might think that I hate ales. And since I hate ales, I have insulted him being a devout ale drinker by offering him a lager. Yeah, ok, not a great example, but I'm trying to protect the "innocent."
    8 answers · Gender Studies · 5 years ago
  • Child Custody? Have you or anyone you know tried the divorce arrangement where the minor child?

    stays in the family home and the parents take turns, like a week or 2 weeks at a time living with the child/children? What are your opinions on this and do you think at all that it's a good idea?
    stays in the family home and the parents take turns, like a week or 2 weeks at a time living with the child/children? What are your opinions on this and do you think at all that it's a good idea?
    3 answers · Other - Pregnancy & Parenting · 5 years ago
  • If your babys father did not want to be involved in your babys life ....?

    If your babys father did not want to be involved in your babys life ....? I’m in a pickle! I feel that my childs, fathers parents have a right to know that they have a grandchild, and have a right to choose if they want to be involved. But, I’m not sure if I should contact them, what I’d even say ….or just wait until the father wants to come around... show more
    If your babys father did not want to be involved in your babys life ....? I’m in a pickle! I feel that my childs, fathers parents have a right to know that they have a grandchild, and have a right to choose if they want to be involved. But, I’m not sure if I should contact them, what I’d even say ….or just wait until the father wants to come around ???? What do you guys think?????!!! Cause I don't even know if they know about the child. And no, I am not trying to force the father to be in my childs life, this is about the grandparents.
    10 answers · Parenting · 5 years ago
  • Question/advice regarding adoption?

    I don't really know where to start but here goes... My step-daughter is 16 and pregnant (32 weeks). After my husband and her mother got divorced her mother married a southern baptist preacher (pastor/reverend?). Anyhow, they are extreme fundamentalist and this is how my step-daughter has been raised for the majority of her life. (Ironic that... show more
    I don't really know where to start but here goes... My step-daughter is 16 and pregnant (32 weeks). After my husband and her mother got divorced her mother married a southern baptist preacher (pastor/reverend?). Anyhow, they are extreme fundamentalist and this is how my step-daughter has been raised for the majority of her life. (Ironic that she's pregnant, I know!) My husband has joint legal and physical custody, however we don't see her very often due to the visitation schedule/distance, the judge let her mother move out of state after her husband got on with a new church. Back to the issue at hand, my step-daughter wouldn't have an abortion because 1. her mother and step-father "forbid" it and 2. she thinks she would go to hell for murder. So they have convinced her she should do the "only loving" thing and let some couple from their church adopt. I have talked to her and tried asking her what she wants but she just repeats back these horrible things they have told her. Like if she keeps the baby she will be on welfare forever, the baby will eventually end up in foster care and then prison, no man will ever want to marry her because they'll only see her as a whore and her kid as baggage. And of course that she just wants to do what is best for her and the baby. My husband is devastated at the thought of losing his first born grandchild to adoption. We also both are worried about my step-daughter and what she will go through. I know a 16 year old raising a baby certainly isn't ideal but we have offered to help (let her live with us, watch the baby, etc) or even take custody temporarily or even permanently if she wants but she declines because we aren't religious and her mother and step-father have her so indoctrinated and because she already promised this other couple the baby. Neither of us know what to do at this point. I truly don't believe she wants the baby adopted, if I thought it was really her decision then I wouldn't be here. I just need advice. I don't want her to make a decision she'll later regret. Thanks. It's not quite that simple, she is 16 and has a say in where she lives. We have offered to let her move in with us, more than once. We have told her we will help with baby sitting, daycare, any financial needs. She has refused. Even with a lawyer she is 16 and has a say in where she lives. She believes every word her mother and step-father spew, she won't leave them to come live with us. She knows we would do anything to help her with the child but she is getting such an earful from the other side about what is best for the baby and has been conditioned for so many years to believe their drivel.
    9 answers · Adoption · 5 years ago
  • Atheists: What are you going to do in the future when your children are asking about God?

    I'm talking about young children, not teenagers. Would you let them know that there is a creationism theory? Would you tell them that it's okay not to believe what mommy and daddy believe? If they wanted to get involved with a church or other religious worship house, would you support them? I know what I'd do, I just want to see... show more
    I'm talking about young children, not teenagers. Would you let them know that there is a creationism theory? Would you tell them that it's okay not to believe what mommy and daddy believe? If they wanted to get involved with a church or other religious worship house, would you support them? I know what I'd do, I just want to see what others think.
    14 answers · Adolescent · 5 years ago
  • Why are some people so sensitive when it comes to themselves but?

    insensitive when it comes to other people?? I was dating a guy who suffered from depression and anxiety for six months. He was constantly complaining and wasnt in good shape mentally. It became very difficult. I pushed him to get help, possibly too hard. He went ballistic. He said the most horrible things like I am in my thirties so I don't have... show more
    insensitive when it comes to other people?? I was dating a guy who suffered from depression and anxiety for six months. He was constantly complaining and wasnt in good shape mentally. It became very difficult. I pushed him to get help, possibly too hard. He went ballistic. He said the most horrible things like I am in my thirties so I don't have a lot of eggs left, made the nastiest remarks about my personality etc. He basically used personal things I had told him, made a laundry list and threw them in my face. Meanwhile he found out his ex wife had a baby a couple of months before and was very upset because he had wanted a child with her so I had comforted him through this time. Its like he constantly felt sorry for himself but had no empathy for other people.
    3 answers · Sociology · 5 years ago
  • Is President Obama trying to close all power plants run by coal in Ohio, Kentucky?

    My husband informed me tonight that Obama is trying to close all power plants run by coal, I would like to find out anything on this subject. Plants are in Ohio, Kentucky and West Virigna that he knows of. Anyone know anything about it ?
    My husband informed me tonight that Obama is trying to close all power plants run by coal, I would like to find out anything on this subject. Plants are in Ohio, Kentucky and West Virigna that he knows of. Anyone know anything about it ?
    11 answers · Elections · 5 years ago
  • What so funny about domestic violence against men by women?

    See any article about it and see the comments in it. Not only women find it funny but some men as well. Violence against women by men is taken seriously, nobody laughs about it. Millions of men are subjected to same type of violence but they never come forward. Why should they ? I will rather face the violence than to come forward and... show more
    See any article about it and see the comments in it. Not only women find it funny but some men as well. Violence against women by men is taken seriously, nobody laughs about it. Millions of men are subjected to same type of violence but they never come forward. Why should they ? I will rather face the violence than to come forward and ridiculed by cops and people in general. Actually ,all the blame goes to media , the violence against men by women in shows are shown as funny (women kicking men in balls,anyone ?) . Whatever the case ,men are always seen as abuser and women as poor little victims. You can not even hit women in self defence ,that 's how corrupted the whole system is. VAWA is another law to ruin men.
    6 answers · Gender Studies · 5 years ago
  • Parents: Should I use gangsta rap or interpretive dance to explain the facts of life to my daughter?

    I want to make sure I have her attention. Uranus
    I want to make sure I have her attention. Uranus
    12 answers · Parenting · 5 years ago
  • Is it illegal for police officer to know someone is staying in a country illegally and failed to report?

    Is it illegal in NZ for police officer to know someone is staying in a country illegally but failed to report?
    Is it illegal in NZ for police officer to know someone is staying in a country illegally but failed to report?
    3 answers · Law & Ethics · 5 years ago
  • If you liked someone very much but felt a sense of dissappointment after having sex, how would you handle it?

    If you met a guy, like him a lot and spend lots of time with him (2months)without being intimate except for occasional kisses and hugs and when you finally do have sex feel very disappointed how would u deal with it? If you believed that he was well endowed only to realise that he was way below what you expected would you resent him quietly... show more
    If you met a guy, like him a lot and spend lots of time with him (2months)without being intimate except for occasional kisses and hugs and when you finally do have sex feel very disappointed how would u deal with it? If you believed that he was well endowed only to realise that he was way below what you expected would you resent him quietly for it? You still have feelings for him and want to continue the relationship but that strong physical desire is not as intense. Have u experienced this? Your thoughts ? He never said he was but you and others thought it was the case.
    4 answers · Gender & Women's Studies · 5 years ago
  • A shy extrovert?? Really?

    I was told today I was a "shy extrovert." Whatever that means lol I love being around other people, love being around friends, love meeting new people, going out etc, I don't mind alone time every now and then, but I am most happiest around other people. Even if I am not really socialising as such, not really talking a lot. I am shy... show more
    I was told today I was a "shy extrovert." Whatever that means lol I love being around other people, love being around friends, love meeting new people, going out etc, I don't mind alone time every now and then, but I am most happiest around other people. Even if I am not really socialising as such, not really talking a lot. I am shy around people I don't know (well at first anyway). Even with some friends of mine I don't talk much. But I was told because I enjoy being around other people BUT I am shy, I am a shy extrovert. I always thought I was introverted but apparently (from what I've been told) being extroverted or introverted has nothing or very little to do with being shy or outgoing, but rather where you get your energy from. Eg an introvert gets his/her energy from being alone wheras an extrovert gets his/her energy from being around other people. I NEED to socialise all the time. Even if I am home alone I am constantly socialising, either on the phone or social media. I go mad if I don't socialise on a daily basis, even though I don't talk a lot at times. I hope this makes sense. I am the first to arrive at a party and always the last to leave. If I had the choice to stay home on Saturday night for example and watch tv, basically 'do nothing' OR go to a friends (or have a friend over) and do the exact same thing, I'd choose the latter, even if I am really tired and couldn't be bothered actually going anywhere, I'd choose this because I need other people around. I need to socialise. A lot of the time when meeting new people, I DO talk but not as often at first. I like to observe and take everything in first and THEN (after a while, when I am comfortable etc) then I don't shut up lol. But many people when first meeting me think I am snobbish or standoffish, but I am really not. Maybe it's body language. I don't know. But I do enjoy being around other people, whether that's a small group or a larger group, though the smaller groups I feel more confortable. If I am alone for any more than a day I get kind of depressed/sad so need to be around others, even if I am not physically around people, like I mentioned before even if it's just through social media (Facebook for example). I have a friend who talks and talks. She'll talk to anyone about anything, doesn't seem shy at all. BUT she prefers being alone most of the time. She does like getting out and about with friends etc, but yeah...she prefers alone time to unwind and all that. I NEED s
    5 answers · Psychology · 5 years ago
  • What is the purpose of credit cards if they ruin your credit history?

    I have a credit card with Capital One and I pay my balance off in full every month and havent missed a payment. However, because I use my credit card every month they have taken off over 150 points on my credit histroy, even though I pay my balance in full. Why is this? What is the point in giving someone a credit card if you pay your balances in... show more
    I have a credit card with Capital One and I pay my balance off in full every month and havent missed a payment. However, because I use my credit card every month they have taken off over 150 points on my credit histroy, even though I pay my balance in full. Why is this? What is the point in giving someone a credit card if you pay your balances in full and yet they knock pointd off. Also what pisses me off is when I pay my bills every month (for a whole year) my rating doesnt go up but I phone the company and inform them I pay be a litltle late this month, they straight away inform the credit reference agenices who knock off loads, yet when you pay it doesnt increase anything. And I am loyal customer paying bills on time, except one time when I asked to pay a few weeks late, Credit files just seem to riduclous that whats the point. Is it therefore better to pay minimum payments every month until its cleared on my credit rating goes up? Also, I find that over the last year I have paid all my creditors on time except once where I informed them that i would be a few weeks late that month. So depsite contacting them and letting them know, they informed the credit refernece agencies I was a month behind. so much for seeking the agencies advice who say they are understanding. Yet when I pay on time every month, my credit rating stays the same. but one payment late and they hammer your rating. seems unfair to me
    4 answers · Credit · 5 years ago