• What should I do for a 1 month anniversary?

    Is there any place you could drive to where you can see city lights from a distance, as opposed to the stars? If there's somewhere up high, that could be just as romantic with the same blankets and stuff in the back of the car. (Make sure there are enough to keep warm in the event of snow).
    Is there any place you could drive to where you can see city lights from a distance, as opposed to the stars? If there's somewhere up high, that could be just as romantic with the same blankets and stuff in the back of the car. (Make sure there are enough to keep warm in the event of snow).
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 9 mins ago
  • Why is my life so unfair?

    Nothing like a good miserable rant about how fed up we are, for sure. But you've had yours now and you have only two choices. You see the world doesn't really care. We all have our own set of problems to unravel and work through, and we don't have that much energy to take on other peoples', no matter how harsh that seems. So, your... show more
    Nothing like a good miserable rant about how fed up we are, for sure. But you've had yours now and you have only two choices. You see the world doesn't really care. We all have our own set of problems to unravel and work through, and we don't have that much energy to take on other peoples', no matter how harsh that seems. So, your two choices are to plug away at getting out of where you are, or improving your life where you are. I'm afraid knights in shining armour on white horses riding in to rescue you, just don't exist, so it's down to personal choice as to whether you get stoic and rise, or weak, and sink. And that just about sums up life for all of us, sooner or later.
    3 answers · Mental Health · 4 hours ago
  • Don't men get objectified as ATM Machines?

    No more so than men objectify women, inasmuch as the richest man has the prettiest, youngest woman on his arm. It's a symbiotic relationship on a sliding scale.
    No more so than men objectify women, inasmuch as the richest man has the prettiest, youngest woman on his arm. It's a symbiotic relationship on a sliding scale.
    5 answers · Family · 5 hours ago
  • Are some topics off limits to keep bringing up even between spouses?

    The odd thing is that even in 2019, in so many relationships, women are driving the smaller car. Why? Why are you even hankering after your husband's vehicle? Find the means to get a bigger and better one. Drive it home and just ask does he like your new vehicle. Then don't let him drive yours either. Many men are territorial and... show more
    The odd thing is that even in 2019, in so many relationships, women are driving the smaller car. Why? Why are you even hankering after your husband's vehicle? Find the means to get a bigger and better one. Drive it home and just ask does he like your new vehicle. Then don't let him drive yours either. Many men are territorial and protective of their vehicles around the women they live with and you should ask yourself why. There's a whole bigger underlying issue here.
    5 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 5 hours ago
  • Why do people say be yourself but if ur quiet or boring they won't enjoy that?

    Lol, nicely observed. That's really true. I think gregarious people feel insecure when around quiet people and what they really mean when they ask you to be yourself is 'can't you be a bit more like me, so that i don't feel so ill at ease.'
    Lol, nicely observed. That's really true. I think gregarious people feel insecure when around quiet people and what they really mean when they ask you to be yourself is 'can't you be a bit more like me, so that i don't feel so ill at ease.'
    8 answers · Polls & Surveys · 5 hours ago
  • My friend hasn’t paid back?

    Yes, perfectly fair to ask someone else. Do that now while you have time. But to be fair to all parties, give your 'friend' a set amount of time to come up with the money. Don't vent your anger on her. Just say, "The concert's soon now and I need the payment for your ticket by (day or date). If you can't pay by then,... show more
    Yes, perfectly fair to ask someone else. Do that now while you have time. But to be fair to all parties, give your 'friend' a set amount of time to come up with the money. Don't vent your anger on her. Just say, "The concert's soon now and I need the payment for your ticket by (day or date). If you can't pay by then, I'm really sorry but I'm going to have to try to sell it to someone else".
    6 answers · Friends · 11 hours ago
  • How to ask my boss for more hours?

    Call. Give your name first and then explain that you work for him, as a dishwasher, and the location. So for example... "Good morning, this is John Doe. I work for you on a casual basis as a dishwasher at the Heartbreak Cafe. (Pause here, just for a moment, in case there's a response to that). Then go on and say "I'm calling... show more
    Call. Give your name first and then explain that you work for him, as a dishwasher, and the location. So for example... "Good morning, this is John Doe. I work for you on a casual basis as a dishwasher at the Heartbreak Cafe. (Pause here, just for a moment, in case there's a response to that). Then go on and say "I'm calling because I'd like to ask whether it's possible to work more hours for you, and maybe on a more regular basis? Maybe for a few hours every week?" Allow for a response and if it's in the negative, just say "Thank you anyway and I hope you'll continue to call me when you need me. And if more hours do become available, I'd be very happy to be considered for them". That's it really.
    3 answers · Other - Careers & Employment · 11 hours ago
  • My boyfriend told me I would look ugly/hideous if I shaved my head, is it okay to be mad?

    It seems pretty clear he's not a fan of the shaven head look. I think what he said happens to be true for most white women. I don't know your sex or your colour, but you might want to take that into consideration. However at the end of the day, it's entirely your decision what you decide to do with your head. But bear in mind that... show more
    It seems pretty clear he's not a fan of the shaven head look. I think what he said happens to be true for most white women. I don't know your sex or your colour, but you might want to take that into consideration. However at the end of the day, it's entirely your decision what you decide to do with your head. But bear in mind that part of attraction is in seeing your partner in a way that you find attractive and it can be a turn off to do something too dramatic. Years ago when curly perms were in vogue, I had mine done and my then husband wouldn't speak to me for a week. I then got my hair straightened. And that's how shallow even husbands can be. Bear in mind there's no quick fix for no hair but a wig.
    5 answers · Singles & Dating · 11 hours ago
  • I feel insecure of what I wear to school?

    I think it's really difficult for someone in your position. You're at a time and a place where it feels important to fit in and dress as everyone else does. Often it's the case that you haven't really chosen all that goes with your faith yourself. You've been brought up inside it via your parents. Not to say that you... show more
    I think it's really difficult for someone in your position. You're at a time and a place where it feels important to fit in and dress as everyone else does. Often it's the case that you haven't really chosen all that goes with your faith yourself. You've been brought up inside it via your parents. Not to say that you don't believe, but you are conflicted because you have to fit in with girls who don't have to dress the same as you. So I think all you can do is to wear your faith like a badge of pride. So first respect your faith and accept that a part of it is to dress in a particular way. Then choose what feels good and comfortable to you to wear, without hankering after wearing what others wear. You probably will get some stares and some whispers. That's what happens with people when they have to accept something outside their own norm. Don't let it worry you. There is something really character building about being able to be different, whether that's because you just want to dress differently or whether it's respect for your faith. When you look confident, other people will treat you better than if you feel insecure, so practice walking tall and with pride in your chosen outfits.
    1 answer · Fashion & Accessories · 11 hours ago
  • Tooth extraction with high blood pressure?

    You sound like a person with a lot of anxiety. It's really a matter of perspective. It's horrible having an abscess and losing a tooth, but in the scheme of things that can go wrong in life, it's a fairly minor one. Hundreds of thousands of people have had tooth extractions whilst having high blood pressure. Mention your fear to your... show more
    You sound like a person with a lot of anxiety. It's really a matter of perspective. It's horrible having an abscess and losing a tooth, but in the scheme of things that can go wrong in life, it's a fairly minor one. Hundreds of thousands of people have had tooth extractions whilst having high blood pressure. Mention your fear to your dentist. Some have strategies for helping you to stay calmer, and thus reducing your blood pressure anyway.
    4 answers · Dental · 11 hours ago
  • Why is my ex trying to hurt me?

    It was stupid of him to have got back in touch with you by message. He should have let sleeping dogs lie, but because he split with you and not vice versa, he got over the split much more quickly than you did. So his approach was just meant as an ex to an ex, not an ex who wanted to try again. You must be feeling a bit silly about mistaking his... show more
    It was stupid of him to have got back in touch with you by message. He should have let sleeping dogs lie, but because he split with you and not vice versa, he got over the split much more quickly than you did. So his approach was just meant as an ex to an ex, not an ex who wanted to try again. You must be feeling a bit silly about mistaking his intention, but don't! It was very unthinking of him, if not cruel, and now it's set you back in your recovery. Try not to dwell on it and just be glad he didn't toy with you more than he did. Leave him to his new girl. She's really welcome to him as he seems short on feelings, short on manners and short on common sense. There's someone much better out there just waiting to meet you. Cut yourself free so that you can.
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 17 hours ago
  • I ate a small piece of a rice krispies treat wrapper help mee!!?

    Errr... no! Nearly everyone has done this, knowingly or unknowingly.
    Errr... no! Nearly everyone has done this, knowingly or unknowingly.
    9 answers · Other - Food & Drink · 17 hours ago
  • When buying an expensive house, how do you pay it as it is a larger sum of money?

    Provided you aren't exceeding wealthy it's necessary to secure a loan from a financial institution that is willing to lend enough to purchase the house, using that as its security in the event that you do not, for some reason repay the loan. It's a special loan called a mortgage. In order to secure one you'll need to convince... show more
    Provided you aren't exceeding wealthy it's necessary to secure a loan from a financial institution that is willing to lend enough to purchase the house, using that as its security in the event that you do not, for some reason repay the loan. It's a special loan called a mortgage. In order to secure one you'll need to convince your lender that you earn enough to be able to repay the loan plus a shed load of interest. Thus you will come to live in 'your' property, but for the next 25 years or so will share the equity in the house, until the loan repayments are made. When you are just about too old to enjoy having the house, you'll have paid off all of the loan. Your kids will be grown and you'll be too aged to climb the stairs, and at this point, you'll either have to downsize to a smaller property, paying cash for it, with some left over, which you probably pass on to your kids, or you are too unwell and they will place you in a home until you die, and they will then own the house free and clear.
    10 answers · Renting & Real Estate · 18 hours ago
  • What is that word that means giving off more interest or belief in something than what you really have?

    A dilettante is the nearest I can come up with, or in common parlance a bullshi**er.
    A dilettante is the nearest I can come up with, or in common parlance a bullshi**er.
    5 answers · Words & Wordplay · 18 hours ago
  • Why does my vagina smell?

    Perfectly normal during periods. Not only blood is escaping but the lining of your uterus. It helps to bathe more often and is often more noticeable in women who use pads as sanitary protection as opposed to tampons. If that smell develops or remainsbetween periods you may have a simple bacterial condition called vaginosis. In that case the... show more
    Perfectly normal during periods. Not only blood is escaping but the lining of your uterus. It helps to bathe more often and is often more noticeable in women who use pads as sanitary protection as opposed to tampons. If that smell develops or remainsbetween periods you may have a simple bacterial condition called vaginosis. In that case the doctor can give you medication to clear it up.
    4 answers · Women's Health · 18 hours ago
  • Should I break up with my boyfriend?

    If you are having to ask and all the affections seems to be gone, you know what you have to do.
    If you are having to ask and all the affections seems to be gone, you know what you have to do.
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 18 hours ago
  • Why do fat people make the most loud, obnoxious and disgusting sounds while eating?

    To pi** people like you off.
    To pi** people like you off.
    5 answers · Diet & Fitness · 18 hours ago
  • Mum is making me depressed - should I cut her off?

    Get a life. You shouldn't have stayed at home so long. You've been indoctrinated by your mother in the way that women from the Middle East are long practised in doing. No you won't be able to have a cosy independent life in London but if you want to be free of her lies and tyranny, you'll move out and get a room or a flat share... show more
    Get a life. You shouldn't have stayed at home so long. You've been indoctrinated by your mother in the way that women from the Middle East are long practised in doing. No you won't be able to have a cosy independent life in London but if you want to be free of her lies and tyranny, you'll move out and get a room or a flat share and put up with that inconvenience. But will it help you to move out? Because you now seem to truly believe what you were told all those years. Just ask yourself how many western women are virgins on their wedding night. How many are even married, yet have happy sexual lives and even partners and children. The myth you were told pertains to another society. One which you no longer wish to belong to. If you really believe in yourself you'll waken yourself up, get out and get yourself a boyfriend and a sex life. If not, stay where you are and become an old maid.
    4 answers · Family · 18 hours ago
  • Why did my ex say this when breaking up?

    Mmm.... sounds like the sort of stuff most people say when they break up, and said because you have to say something that's not too cruel.
    Mmm.... sounds like the sort of stuff most people say when they break up, and said because you have to say something that's not too cruel.
    2 answers · Polls & Surveys · 18 hours ago
  • How do I stop letting my past torment me?

    Best answer: Well you're saying you can't let go of the past as if that was something tied around your neck by chain when you were born. That's rubbish. You CHOSE to feel that way. Stop it. That's all you have to do. People were born to be flexible. Learn to do things another way. Set the past down and work on taking one day at... show more
    Best answer: Well you're saying you can't let go of the past as if that was something tied around your neck by chain when you were born. That's rubbish. You CHOSE to feel that way. Stop it. That's all you have to do. People were born to be flexible. Learn to do things another way. Set the past down and work on taking one day at a time. You can struggle till you die to change the past. It can't be done. You can gaze through the windows of its house, but you can't open the door and go in to rearrange a single thing.
    1 answer · Mental Health · 18 hours ago